Relationships 101: How To Deal With A Friend Breakup
Start writing a post
Relationships

Relationships 101: How To Deal With A Friend Breakup

You can stay in my heart, but not in my life.

36
Relationships 101: How To Deal With A Friend Breakup

Friendship is one of the many gifts that we get in life. It’s the weirdest thing also because you just see a human and then you start to talk to them and you’re just like, “Yes, I like this human.” And then all of a sudden, you and this human are friends and you can’t imagine life without them. Weird, I know.

The other weird thing I noticed is that when you make a friend, you do life with this friend and they know your ins and outs and they are now in all of your memories. This friend has become like half of you and you cannot see your life without this person, even though you’ve lived life without this person before. It just becomes unfathomable to even think about anymore. So, it’s a friendship and it’s greater than any relationship because you don’t feel any kind of pressure to be perfect or to have to do things. You and this friend could literally sit around and eat Nutella out of the jar and quote episodes of "Grey’s Anatomy."

But what happens when you and this friend break up? What if you are no longer friends anymore? No one talks about this in movies because a break up with a spouse is hard, but have you ever broken up with a best friend? That is crushing and heartbreaking. Literally, your heart seems to burst. Because you were friends with this person and you shared your inner most secrets and they stayed forever and then all of a sudden, they walked out of your life. What do you do then? Is there a manual for that?

I think – and this might sound ridiculous – that those friendships are great. When someone leaves your life like that then that means they have impacted you just as if a boyfriend/girlfriend would. They helped you to grow and figure things out about yourself that you’ve never known before and now you do. These are heartbreaks, so it’s okay to cry and it’s okay to not want to delete pictures of you and this person for a long time because somewhere in the back of your mind you are hoping to get back together.

Friendships – when with the right people – make you forget about every care in the world. Your problems are their problems and vice versa so you can figure everything out to help them and they help you. Friendships are major. They will help combat loneliness and stress and many other different things. You and your friends won’t always get along and that’s okay because in a few hours you can talk it out and then things go back to the way that they were.

Never take friendships for granted. This person – or people – chose you out of many people that they could have chosen, but didn’t. They opened their arms to you and trust you and love you so don’t take your friendships for granted. Love hard no matter the outcome.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
the beatles
Wikipedia Commons

For as long as I can remember, I have been listening to The Beatles. Every year, my mom would appropriately blast “Birthday” on anyone’s birthday. I knew all of the words to “Back In The U.S.S.R” by the time I was 5 (Even though I had no idea what or where the U.S.S.R was). I grew up with John, Paul, George, and Ringo instead Justin, JC, Joey, Chris and Lance (I had to google N*SYNC to remember their names). The highlight of my short life was Paul McCartney in concert twice. I’m not someone to “fangirl” but those days I fangirled hard. The music of The Beatles has gotten me through everything. Their songs have brought me more joy, peace, and comfort. I can listen to them in any situation and find what I need. Here are the best lyrics from The Beatles for every and any occasion.

Keep Reading...Show less
Being Invisible The Best Super Power

The best superpower ever? Being invisible of course. Imagine just being able to go from seen to unseen on a dime. Who wouldn't want to have the opportunity to be invisible? Superman and Batman have nothing on being invisible with their superhero abilities. Here are some things that you could do while being invisible, because being invisible can benefit your social life too.

Keep Reading...Show less
Featured

19 Lessons I'll Never Forget from Growing Up In a Small Town

There have been many lessons learned.

45365
houses under green sky
Photo by Alev Takil on Unsplash

Small towns certainly have their pros and cons. Many people who grow up in small towns find themselves counting the days until they get to escape their roots and plant new ones in bigger, "better" places. And that's fine. I'd be lying if I said I hadn't thought those same thoughts before too. We all have, but they say it's important to remember where you came from. When I think about where I come from, I can't help having an overwhelming feeling of gratitude for my roots. Being from a small town has taught me so many important lessons that I will carry with me for the rest of my life.

Keep Reading...Show less
​a woman sitting at a table having a coffee
nappy.co

I can't say "thank you" enough to express how grateful I am for you coming into my life. You have made such a huge impact on my life. I would not be the person I am today without you and I know that you will keep inspiring me to become an even better version of myself.

Keep Reading...Show less
Student Life

Waitlisted for a College Class? Here's What to Do!

Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

118908
college students waiting in a long line in the hallway
StableDiffusion

Course registration at college can be a big hassle and is almost never talked about. Classes you want to take fill up before you get a chance to register. You might change your mind about a class you want to take and must struggle to find another class to fit in the same time period. You also have to make sure no classes clash by time. Like I said, it's a big hassle.

This semester, I was waitlisted for two classes. Most people in this situation, especially first years, freak out because they don't know what to do. Here is what you should do when this happens.

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments