To My Friend On Her Wedding Day

To My Friend On Her Wedding Day

I know it'll be everything you dream it will be.


Dearest Ally,

Remember that fateful day in Autumn 2004 when we were forced to become friends? Our usual group of friends didn't show up – it was just me and my siblings and you and your sister. For whatever reason, we weren't friends. We just didn't like each other and to this day I'm not exactly sure why. Apparently, being forced to be friends was the best thing that happened to our relationship because we probably wouldn't have become best buds otherwise. It's insane to think that was almost 15 years ago. And here you are, getting married at the end of this month. I'm so stinking happy for you!

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Remember all those sleepovers we had? Talking until the wee hours of the morning about the men we'd marry? I remember being so sure that we'd be swept off our feet by knights in shining armor. Josh certainly has done that for you. He showed up exactly when God planned for him to. Not too long ago you were talking to me on the phone, wondering what God's plan was for your life and if and when you'd get married. The Lord is so good and is always faithful. In just a couple of weeks, you'll walk down the aisle to the man of your dreams. I'm so incredibly happy for you!

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I remember when you first told me about Josh. He kind of just showed up out of nowhere and seemed too good to be true. I was happy for you, but my skeptical self didn't want to believe that a great guy could just show up the way Josh did. As the months passed and I prayed about it, I knew this was the guy for you. You and Josh complement each other in the best way. I'm so very happy for you!

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From the time you got engaged last year to now, I've seen God work in all the details of your love story. From buying a house to wedding dress shopping, to choosing the colors and bouquets for the ceremony and reception, to finally getting your dress delivered, it has been an absolute joy watching you prepare for this next phase of your life. You're going to be the most beautiful bride and I can't wait to stand by you when you and Josh say "I do." I'm so exceedingly happy for you!

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Ally, you've been such a good friend to me. I hope I have been as good of a friend to you. Just so you know, I still want to have frequent phone conversations to catch up and laugh together about all the strange things that life brings along. Someday when I get married, I want you up there with me when my man and I say, "I do." Until then, let's keep up the phone conversations, silly text messages, and crazy excited hugs every time we reunite. Friendship is such a sweet gift, and I'm so thankful I get to share it with you. Love ya, girly!

Ally Roberts

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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To My Long-Distance Best Friend, We Might Be 7,811 Miles Apart, But Our Friendship Only Gets Stronger

It breaks my heart that I cannot be around for your birthdays or to celebrate your achievements. But I'm so proud of every milestone you achieve. I am so proud of all your accomplishments and the person you are becoming.


To my best friend,

It has been 270 days since I last met you and 206 more days until I meet you again. People say that time flies by quickly, but these have been the most difficult days that seemed to drag on forever. Five years ago when you were sitting next to me on the first day of our sociology class, I had no idea we would end up being best friends. From sharing my mother's parathas during lunch breaks to the countless sleepovers, I will never forget all the memories we created throughout high school.

I vividly remember the day I told you I would be studying abroad. You were so happy and proud of me for pursuing my dreams but also upset that we wouldn't be seeing each other every now and then. I was worried if our friendship would even last. But we have spent almost two years away from each other and our friendship only seems to get stronger.

I'm so grateful to technology for allowing us to be in touch all the time. My day doesn't feel complete if I do not receive a text from you. I know we do not video call often because of how busy our schedules are (another reason being time zones suck and I cannot do the math), but always know that I am there for you. It breaks my heart that I cannot be around for your birthdays or to celebrate your achievements. But I'm so proud of every milestone you achieve. I am so proud of all your accomplishments and the person you are becoming.

We have both had some terrible friendship experiences in our past before we met each other that have completely broken our faith in friendships. But know that you can always count on me and that I will never leave your side. Know that I will always set an alarm early in the morning just to video call you. Know that I will always be there for you (even if I'm not physically present around you). Know that you will always be the first person I share everything with.

I cannot thank you enough for everything you have done for me. Thank you for encouraging me to make new friends at college. Thank you for always being there during my failures and reminding me that it's not the end of the world and that more opportunities will come my way. Thank you for being there during my successes and being my number one cheerleader. Thank you for always reminding me to love myself. You not only have a special place in my heart but also have a special place in my family. My mother and sister not only glad that I have a best friend like you but also adore you so much. It is impossible to imagine a life without you.

I cannot wait for more butter chicken sleepover dates in December!

Lots of love,

Your best friend.

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