Was I not there enough for you?
Didn’t we have so much fun?
Why can’t you stay with me?
Having your best friend transfer to another college leaves you confused and full of questions. I spent a year getting extremely close to my friend. A year full of laughs, cries, and countless memories. I thought we were going to be friends forever.
Until she told me she wasn’t coming back next year.
The moment those words came out of her mouth, everything changed. No longer would I have four years of non-stop silliness and fun. No longer would I have her shoulder to cry on when I get a bad test grade or when boy-drama comes into my life. No longer will I have a last-minute companion when I don’t want to sit alone in the dining halls. No longer would I have her by my side through thick and thin.
I thought that when she transferred, our relationship was over. I was upset with her for abandoning me and I thought that she was mad at me for not seeing how unhappy she has been.
Because of this, I avoided her for the last few weeks of school. I didn’t want to face the truth. I thought that if I disconnected from her, the day she packed up and left wouldn’t be as painful.
But I was wrong; it only made it worse.
She knocked on my door and told me she was all moved out and making her goodbye rounds. The minute we looked at each other, we both broke down. We both then realized how stupid we had been. Not only were we losing out best friend the next year, but we had wasted the past three weeks sulking in sadness and anger.
Now looking back, I wish I knew what I realized that day:
- She wasn’t leaving the school because I wasn’t a good enough friend to her. She was leaving because it just simply wasn’t the right fit for her.
- Enjoy and spend every minute with your friends, because you have to make the days you have together count.
- The goodbye isn’t for forever. Especially in today’s age where technology is so prevalent, it is easy to keep in touch. And, there are always breaks and summer vacations to visit each other.
My best friend transferred colleges, but that doesn’t mean we can’t be friends anymore. Our relationship isn’t over; it is only changing. She may be leaving, but this is only the beginning of our friendship.
