Life isn't how Hollywood producers display it in their movies (except for Angus, Thongs, and Perfect Snogging - thats spot on). When you walk into a crowded cafeteria you don't immediately stride to a designated table for you and your posse; if this is how your school is, please transfer or eat lunch in the nurse's office. There is something special and even better about not belonging to a singular friend group that I think will overall make you a better friend and more socially rated in the long run.
How many times have you gone onto social media and seen thirty plus pictures of a group hangout you weren't invited to and felt your heart drop all the way into your stomach. This could ultimately be one of the worst feelings I've had to date; it brings up so many questions. You start to wonder if your group actually enjoys being around you or that you aren't good enough for whatever it is they're doing.
Now, think if you've ever been invited somewhere that's tried to exclude someone. You probably either felt on top of the world that you made the "cut"; this sounds awful but it's human nature to feel superior when you get chosen for something. Being apart of something that chooses to bring others down isn't worth being a part of.
When you decide to separate yourself from cliques and stigmas, you meet a lot more cool people. And, when you decide to not be in a friend group, you actually have a lot more friends!
The perks to being friends with everyone are as followed:
You know that your friends genuinely like you for you. No one is hanging out with you because of how cool your stigma is or what shoes you wear, people will genuinely want to hang out with you just for you.
You never have to feel like you're excluding someone. As we talked about above, being left out of stuff hurts a s*** ton, especially when it's advertised online. The beauty of not belonging to a certain group is you can't get blamed when others feel let down.
You're free to spend time on yourself. Getting to know yourself is one of the most rewarding things you can do. I wish I did this sooner so I could have understood what friendships were not good for me.
You can become closer to your family. Your family is the best clique you can be a part of. They love you no matter what, they have to invite you places or its just plain weird, and they never exclude you on purpose.
Moral of the story, not belonging to a clique is not the end of the world, it could actually be a part of a whole new one. Don't fret if you don't have four close knit friends that do everything together; its okay. Get to know everyone. Find your people. Find yourself.
