This piece seems perfectly appropriate to write since school starts back this week. Over the past three years, I have sat through a number of freshmen seminars, orientations, and prep assemblies. Do not get me wrong; all of these sessions are extremely important for the slightly overwhelming transition from middle to high school. However, the content of the discussions are formal and only regard the logistics and statistics of a high school. None of which actually involve any advice on personal student growth over the course of his/her high school career.
For my freshmen... and really anyone who is in high school-
I cannot stress the importance of individuality. Over the next four years, you will find yourself growing in ways you would never imagine. Do your own thing NOW. Do not wait until senior year to decide that you're going to let your full personality and interests shine through. I promise that nobody is going to judge you for being yourself. We are all fed up with finding our own selves. In fact, I believe that I speak for a large majority of people when I say that I will admire you so much more if you are not conforming to the trends of what your peers are doing. Please trust me on this. I have learned through personal experience that the minute you stop caring what other people think, you will find a much happier life and people will be more drawn to you. As Bernard Baruch would say, "those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." The next four years will fly by, just as everyone says they will. Do not be the person looking back after graduation, regretting the way you chose to live your high school experience.
Do not ever sell yourself short or disregard your values to fit in "the group." There is nothing wrong with being the guy or girl who does not go to parties or out every weekend. I am by no means a party-er and that is OKAY. The way I see it, there is absolutely no point in wasting away your good reputation on a fun night. Word does travel fast, especially in a small town. Our generation is so public; it is near impossible to get away with any small matter.
YOUR FRIENDS WILL CHANGE! Do not limit your friend circle to your school. Growing up with the same people can sometimes be a bit of an overkill. Same people, same drama, same old news. Beyond your county or city schools, there is a world of diverse people waiting to make those connections. Get to know them! Take full advantage of the opportunities to go to conferences with your clubs or community groups. Some of my closest friends have been made at these conventions. Surround yourself with individuals that you can look up to. Studies show that you tailor to the individuals who you hang around. With the right people, you will find that your peers can be inspiring and lead you to new interests.
Last but not least, learn to go with the flow and expand beyond your comfort zone. Try new things and meet new people. Build your network now because it will soon help you land amazing opportunities. Join as many clubs and extra curricular activities that your heart desires. Make as many memories as you possibly can. Again, do not be afraid of what people are going to think.
