What Happens At A Frat Party

I Went To A Frat Party For The First Time, And Here's What Happened

Adventures with an Introvert.


I would consider myself to be kind of a boring person. That's not to say that I'm uninteresting or dull, I'm just not as "exciting" as most college students are. I don't like parties, at all. I think my first traumatizing experience with a party was when I had a sleepover with my friends on my 7th birthday. By 8 p.m., I was ready for everyone to go back home so I could be alone. Ever since I've been labeled as a bit of an introvert by my friends and family. I would say that I lean more towards the introverted side of the spectrum because I do vibe off of others energy quite well, I just need time to recharge.

I didn't experience much of the "fun" side of college my first year. I was always too busy working or doing homework, that I just never really put myself out there to do it. I'd already labeled it as something I wasn't into, so why would I even go? It couldn't hurt to see what all of the fuss was about. Last week, my friends asked me if I wanted to go "fratting" with them. For those of you who don't know, (because I didn't) Fratting is almost like bar hopping, except with the frat houses. I figured this was my opportunity to test the waters with a group of people I trust.

Now, on top of my introverted nature, I have chronic anxiety, and situations, where people are not in control of themselves, make that anxiety worse. Going into this, I prepared myself and my friends for what could happen if my anxiety gets out of control, and they were extremely kind and patient with me as we made plans. On that Thursday, my friends and I ventured out onto the streets.

The first place we went to was a kickback. I honestly had no idea what a kickback was, my friends explained it as a chilled out, an intimate party where people drink. The kickback consisted of meeting a lot of random people, and one guy shamed me for not drinking alcohol. For my own personal beliefs and reasons, I don't drink, so to be patronized for it got under my skin a bit. Nevertheless, I took my cup of cola and smiled.

At 11 p.m., we hit the frats. This is where things started to get more intense. I enjoyed that at the frats you can dance to the loud music, and no one really cares. However, it felt like I was the only sober person in the world. Part of me felt sad that I was missing out on the freedom from your mind that alcohol can give you, but quickly lost that feeling as I saw people start to lose it throughout the night.

People are all over each other and everyone seems like a messy kind of drunk. People are making out everywhere, the floor has spilled alcohol and sometimes vomit all over the place. I'm definitely out of my element, and I desperately wished I could call my boyfriend to come to pick me up. However, when you go with a group of girls, there's a sense of comradery, and you don't leave anyone alone. Not even to go to the bathroom, and after seeing the way some of these guys look at girls like they're meals and they haven't eaten in years, I'm not surprised we take those precautions. The frat guys walk around as if they are sharks and the girls are minnows. One guy even bumped into me and started to move in like he was about to eat me or something. (Yikes, that sounds wrong.) Thankfully my friend pushed him out of the way.

Mostly what I've learned from this experience is that going to frat parties is neither as good nor as bad as I thought it would be. There's something kind of comical about being the only sober person in the room, but I think to fully experience the fun at frat party, you have to be comfortable with drinking. (And also probably single). My personal experience wasn't anything special or horrifying, I was just submerged in a culture that I don't necessarily belong to. However, I'm glad I got the experience, I feel as though I understand not only college life better, but my friends interest better as well.

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28 Things You'll Hear Every Frat Guy Say

Can’t live with them, so you party with them instead.

Ah, the fall semester. It means so many new things will be starting up soon- college, the start of classes, and of course the start of this year's frat parties. It means the epitome of natty light and loud music.

If you live on campus or close by, all everyone talks about is what house is having the go to party of the weekend. You don’t live with the fraternity brothers, but you will be partying with them. Since you’ll be around them, you should be prepared to hear the same phrases on repeat. Here are 28 things you will hear all the frat, I mean fraternity, brothers say.

1. "We aren't a frat, we are a fraternity."

Yet they refer to themselves as a frat...

2. "I'm a weekend warrior."

Are you Kyle, are you really? Last time I checked you can't even finish a single natty.

3. "Suh dude!?"

It’s the frat guy version of ‘fetch’, they try to make it a think, but it will never be a thing.

4. "Black out or back out."

Because this screams responsible adult.

5. "Do you have any post-workout? I'm trying to get swoll."

There's a little more to 'getting swole' than post-workout Todd.

6. “Is it acceptable to send a drunk text on purpose?”

7. “Should I order the mint green polo or the George W. Blue?”

Polos and khakis are the fraternity dress code.

8. "That's so not frat."

Don't do anything not frat. Just don't.

9. “We have a strict no hazing policy.”


Chad from Kappa Tappa Kegga really over does it on Sunday nights.

11. “Do you think if I throw up, ill be able to drink more?”

Mike from Baked Potato Pi doesn't know his limits.

12. “Let's go to taco bell.”

Taco Bell is always the go to food late at night for some reason.


If you listen closely, you can hear the sounds of organizer cheers.

14.“HEY! Who do you know here?!”

Thirsty Thursday can be a real pain, right Tim?

15. “I am way too sober for this party.”

Don't be a Ricky, he is the brother that always says

16. “I think I'm still drunk from last night.”

Austin and his brothers from Kappa Alpha Disorder tend to really over do it on Friday nights.

17. “You’re the only girl I’m talking to.”

Chad from Alpha Apple Pie told Brittany, Taylor and Melissa that he's only talking to them.

18. “OH MY GOSH is that dirt on my Sperry's?!!!”

The world is not ending because your shoes are dirty, calm down Ron.

19. "Over dressed but under the influence."

Polo shirts, so many polo shirts.

20. “What frat is that guy in?”

21. "Wait the cops are here?!"

You better run boys, and fast.

22. “We’re probably top house…”

Are you really Jimmy, because every other fraternity on campus says the same thing about their house too.

23. “Yeah, I could total drive right now.”

No Todd, you cannot drive.

24. “I think we are going to need another case of Natty.”

It's always someone's job to be in charge of the fridge.

25. “Yeahhhhh I’m in a frat.”

Yes, we all know Brian. It's not like you are wearing letters or anything.

26. "I go to the gym

Yes, and I get a full eight hours of sleep every night.

27. “You can’t out rage us.”

Don't you even try to party harder than the frats.

28. “Alcoholic? No, I’m in a frat.”

You aren't an alcoholic if you are in college.

***DISCLAIMER: this is all meant to be in good humor, guys in fraternities don't really say these things all the time. Well, most of them don't... ***

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One Miami University Fraternity's Hazing Affects Our Whole Greek Community

"The contents of this report are brutal and deplorable."


"Call 911, I feel like I'm going to die."

These were the words spoken by a pledge on March 16 at the Delta Tau Delta fraternity house in Oxford, Ohio.

An email was sent out to the entire student body on March 22 by University President Gregory Crawford. The text was vague, but it certainly didn't take long for rumors to start and get around. Every group chat I am a part of had heard something different, some gorier than others. The actual report of what really happened in that house was released just a few days after.

According to the report, the student who provided the information along with the other pledges in his class were forced to stay at the house, even after he asked to leave. What happened next is quite mortifying. The pledges were hit with a paddle that contained spikes and grooves and forced to drink alcohol underage and smoke marijuana. They were also blindfolded and left in a room with scary music playing for over an hour.

The student who was transported to the hospital was discovered to have a .231 blood alcohol level. This number is way too close to the "danger zone."

As President Crawford put it in his email, the actions performed at the Delta Tau Delta house truly were "brutal and deplorable." He proceeded to announce that the fraternity was suspended immediately, and the sophomores who are currently living in the house will be relocated into on-campus residence halls.

One thing that stood out to me as a Greek woman came toward the end of the email when Dr. Crawford said that all of Greek life will be reevaluated. "Nothing is off limits in this evaluation."

The sorority I recently joined, Alpha Omicron Pi, will be celebrating its centennial this year. As a new member, I was informed of how rare it is for a Greek organization to make it this far (literally 100 years) without getting kicked off campus. I am honored to be a part of a Greek organization that has followed our school's Code of Love and Honor so well and efficiently.

The questions that lie unanswered as of right now involve the future of Delta Tau Delta as well as the fate of its scarred pledges, the effect this will have on the entire Greek community at Miami University, and of course, if any fraternities who still haze will finally understand that it has no positive effect.

After doing my research on what occurred at Delta Tau Delta, I looked into other past hazing reports for various fraternities, and I was truly horrified. I won't go into detail, but overall it's highly upsetting to realize that terrible, psychotic things such as these are happening every day, even on my own college campus.

So much for a "brotherhood."

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