For The People That Still Haven't 'Connected' With Their Roommate

For The People That Still Haven't 'Connected' With Their Roommate

You can successfully live with someone and not be their best friend in the whole world.

During winter break, you hear a lot of the same questions on a continual loop from your family and friends.

"What are you studying?"

"What do you want to do with that major?"

"How's your roommate?"

For many, the answer to that last question is something simple like "She's fine" or "She's become my best friend." But how does someone answer that question when they barely know who their roommate is?

Throughout the entire fall semester, I probably only exchanged a hundred words or less with my roommate. She was never in the room, came back every night at midnight or later and, honestly, gave off the impression that she didn't even like me.

Move-in day, I was filled with both hope and anxiety. Being an only child, I had never lived with someone else before. I had absolutely no idea what to expect. Would we get along? Would we listen to the same music? Would one of us end up moving out by the time exams rolled around?

The first week of the semester brought those awkward yet friendly social interactions that are inevitable when meeting a stranger. It was hard to get an idea of who my roommate really was. Like me, she was very closed off and obviously wasn't opening up to me anytime soon. I was perfectly fine with this, since I'm the exact same way.

However, it became clear to me quickly enough that my roommate had no interest in becoming friends, unfortunately. Since I had no prior experience with living with someone else, I wasn't sure how to feel about this realization. Before starting college, I had these false ideals about living with a roommate from those super cheesy kids shows like "Zoey 101." I just naively assumed that whoever I ended up living with would become my best friend.

And even though that's not the case this year, I'm okay with that. It's not the end of the world to not get along perfectly with your roommate. Really, you're only sleeping in the same room together. It's not a requirement to automatically become best friends with your roommate, so don't feel obligated to!

Even though I was sorta bummed last semester about not developing a better relationship with my roommate, I am still looking forward to this semester. My main focus will not be on my roommate this year. Instead, I'll be working toward my own independent goals and ambitions, which is really the only true reason behind going to school.

So, I encourage other people who still haven't connected with their roommate to join me in letting it go. At this point, it's not worth it to force a friendship. You can successfully live with someone and not be their best friend in the whole world.

Cover Image Credit: Albert Herring

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You May Have Worn The Prom Dress With Him, But I Get To Wear The Wedding Dress

You had him in high school, but I get him for the rest of my life.

High school seems like the best time of your life when you are in it. You think that all of your friends will be with you until the end, and that you will end up with whoever you are dating your senior year. For very few, that might just be the case. For all others, that is far from true.

You thought that you would marry your boyfriend and you thought that everything would work out how you had always imagined. I don't blame you though. He's great. You wanted everything with him, but you were just not right for him.

I wish I could say that I am sorry it didn't work out for you, but I can't. I can't because he is mine now, and I get to cherish him forever. You didn't do that right, and you were not meant to be together. You will find someone too, but I am happy that you were not the one for him.

Sometimes I have issues with jealousy, and I hate that you got all of the high school stuff with him. You got to go to games and support him. It kills me that I couldn't be there for him because I know I would have actually been there wholeheartedly. I would have done it out of love, not as a popularity appearance.

I hate that you got to go to all of the school dances with him. He got to see you all dressed up and probably told you how great you looked. I'm sure you did look great. Prom dresses were always fun to pick out and so colorful. It was exciting to match colors with your date. I am sure you had fun choosing his matching tux to your dress.

I find myself getting jealous, but then I stop. I am getting to match his tux with our wedding colors. I got to go dress shopping in a sea of white, and he doesn't get to know one detail about that dress yet. He will get to see me walk down the aisle and then every day forever. I get to love him forever.

I try to not get jealous of all of the things you got with him because it is all in the past. You had your time, and now I get the wedding. You got to dress up in high school, but I get to dress up for my wedding with him. He may have put a corsage on your wrist, but he will be putting the wedding ring on my finger.

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Even When You Don't Have It In You

For the struggling college student at the start of a new semester.


The above picture represents a stage in my life that I thought I would never get through. I had just finished final exams and was terrified of the outcome of my last semester as a Junior. I had experienced so many mental breakdowns and anxiety attacks from a series of events and low places that I found myself in throughout the semester, so much that my mom had to stay with me during final exams. I needed encouragement, and I needed it bad.

Kind of like right now, and I'm sure that some of you might find yourself in the same place.

While the start of a new semester looks shiny and promising, there is always that point when reality begins to settle in, and you realize that responsibilities are resurfacing just as fast as they left at the onset of Christmas break.

You show up to the first day of classes, all of your professors throw a syllabus at you, as well as your final exam date, and you begin to feel your forehead break out in sweat. We've all been there, and that is precisely the place that I found myself at while sitting in my first ever 8 AM of my college career.

Not only do we attend classes, but nightly meetings as well, all while attempting to retain a social life and keep up with our mental health.

It's A LOT. I know it. I've been there.

There have been days when I wanted to simply throw in the towel, and quit school altogether.

I have been at the point when I couldn't find even a sliver of motivation to get me through the meetings, the extra credit seminars, work, or even to church.

The feeling of defeat is nothing new to me, but what I have learned is something that will forever be a constant even though my motivation level is not always.

The Lord doesn't love you because you do everything right, or you attend every meeting and aren't a second late... The Lord loves you because of you are His, and that will never change.

See, regardless of our level of perfection in a certain class or at a meeting, he is always constant, always.

Regardless of our inability to give ourselves creditor to take time to breathe, his loves you fully, with no prerequisites.

That is what had gotten me through the majority of my sleepless night when a responsibility or test kept me awake at night with anxious thoughts.

Regardless of our performance, or how good we look to the people of this Earth, our worth is found in God, and we must not let performance or standards of society fog up our sight of that.

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