Everyone keeps saying it's normal now and we should get used to the changes that come with growing up. People have babies, they move in with their partners and they get cute puppies.

I don't know anyone my age who's married. That changes now. I'm in my early twenties, so here it is: my first wedding invitation has come.

I've never been to a wedding where I wasn't the flower girl.

Like most women when invited to an event, I started panicking over what to wear. My formal wardrobe consists of little black dresses, taboo wedding attire, and college clubbing clothes.

To increase the drama: my boyfriend is the best man, the wedding is at an old fashion church and his entire family and congregation are coming.

In a nutshell, I need to look like a stylish Virgin Mary.

As I frantically searched my small town clothing racks, a tiny JCPenny, and my go-to online shops, I realized I was ruined.

I could not wear what shows up on the "wedding guest" section of those websites. Terrible patterns, ugly sleeves, low cuts, above the knee, all out of the question.

I'm an over-thinker, so I stressed about this daily. The wedding was months away but I had to look perfect.

Younger girls have it hard in this category. The weight of the elders judging you and the need to post fashionable photos online later. #Wedding.

I order and return things OFTEN! #SmallTownProblems. So after a few failures, I planned a trip to St. Louis and asked my mom to go with me to the mall.

I was in full panic mode by this point, the wedding was a month away! I whisked through the store grabbing anything that looked formal and my size.

My goal was to wear yellow, a color I was told I looked good in when I was in a church fashion show at age 12.

After months of looking glory, glory I found it! A simple yellow dress that passes all the test with time to spare.

My advice for any twenty-something soon-to-be wedding guest: start the search early, there's a wild selection out there.