I never really saw myself as someone who fit into a group. I had always been a 'lone wolf, doing my own thing on my own time. There were times I would get lonely in middle and high school, but what kid doesn't, right? For a while, I genuinely wanted to give up. I was cycling through 'friends' and I seemed to be on a streak of befriending toxic individuals only to get my heart broken.

Things went even more downhill when I got to college. The individuals I befriended never seemed to have good intentions and constantly used me for what they could get out of me. It wasn't just one-sided though. I had a lot to work on for myself. I distinctly remember how scared I was going into college, trying to make friends with my neighbors in the dorm hall. I never seemed to be good enough, but over time I have realized that I couldn't have been more wrong.

I decided to go through recruitment. Greek life is big on my campus, and all of the girls seemed to have such close friendships in their sororities. I ended up rushing a sorority, and this is where things slowly started to change. I ended up meeting a few girls and becoming friends with them before leaving for my internship in the fall of 2019. When I came back, however, I still found myself trying to get into the wrong friend group. The results were the same. It bit me in the ass. One night, things changed for me.

I got into a different Uber.

Fast forward to today, I am still friends with the girls I rode with in the other Uber, the ones that I had met before my friendship. We have expanded our circle, but each of us is as close to one another as possible. Some of us are no longer in the sorority, but we know that it doesn't matter.

I know I would never have to buy the friendship of these women. We go through everything together, from breakups to hookups and everything in between. Although we all come from different backgrounds, we would never judge each other for anything. We know fighting isn't worth losing anything we have, so if we have issues with one another we discuss it.

I always thought my soulmate would be found in a romantic relationship, but the truth is I'm not complaining. I have plenty of time to meet the 'right person' romantically and I'm not going to rush it, but I don't want to waste a single second with my girls.

According to Wikipedia, "A soulmate is a person with whom one has a feeling of deep or natural affinity. This may involve similarity, love, romance, platonic relationships, comfort, intimacy, sexuality, sexual activity, spirituality, compatibility and trust."

If you are like me and you still haven't seemed to have found your people, don't worry about it too much. Your loneliness is temporary, but true friendships are forever. Never settle for the ones who make you feel like any less of a person than you actually are. Find the ones who encourage your growth, your laughter, your happiness, and your well-being.

They're worth waiting for.