10 Surprisingly Deep Lessons From The 'Fifty Shades' Trilogy

10 Deep But Not-So-Dark Life Lessons I Learned Rewatching The ‘Fifty Shades’ Trilogy

These movies have deeper meanings than I originally thought.


I recently re-watched the "Fifty Shades" trilogy and saw some valuable life lessons within the plot. While these movies are highly controversial and have a negative stigma against them, as it was originally "Twilight" fanfiction and that this isn't the typical love story, there's definitely more than what meets the eye. The story and plot of these movies are very interesting to follow, along with the love story between Ana and Christian. They have their ups and downs for sure, but in the end, they make things work and grow from it.

1. There are all kinds of men out there

While Christian has his quirks and mystery, he manages to find someone that forces him out of his comfort zone and do things he never thought he was capable of. Jose doesn't end up with anybody in the movies, but I like to think he gets with Christian's sister, Mia. But he's the kind of guy that gives you his coat and open car doors for you. And then there's Elliot who parties like nobody's business and has "slept with half of Seattle" at least according to his brother. And he even settles down with someone he thought he wasn't capable of dating.

2. Hard work does pay off

Ana finished college, got her Bachelor's, worked as an assistant at a publishing house, and was then promoted to Head of Fiction. She did this on her own and with her own talent. Even though it is a movie, there is some truth to this. If you work super hard, your work will pay off and you'll get to that dream job or place in your life you've always wanted.

3. It's OK to test your limits

This is very general and that's OK. You should test your job limits, how much work can you put in during the week? Or how you react to spontaneous trips to exotic locations? Or trying something different in the bedroom. Seeing how far you can push yourself will determine what you can and cannot handle.

4. There are always going to be people that think they're better than you

It doesn't matter how hard you work or how you dress to impress, people will always think they're better and deserve more than they have. And if anything, that's just an excuse to work harder for the things you want. If people think you're the biggest competition, show them that they have a reason to think that.

5. You need to put yourself and your needs first sometimes

There is absolutely nothing wrong with putting yourself first. Sometimes you need some me time and to just take a step back. Your needs are always valid and sometimes you are more important than whatever else is going on in your life. And that is 100% okay to admit to yourself.

6. Not everyone is who they appear to be

Whether your boyfriend has some hidden enjoyments or a boss that has ulterior motives. Everyone has more to them than what meets the eye, and there's nothing wrong with that. People like to keep their secrets to themselves and that is fine. So long as their secrets aren't harmful to others than there's nothing wrong with a little secrecy.

7. You can't help who you fall in love with

Ana didn't plan on falling in love with Seattle's Most Eligible Billionaire Bachelor, but here she is married to him. And Christian didn't plan on falling in love with anyone. But this just goes to show, that love is a mysterious thing, and anyone can fall in love with someone at any time. With or without warning.

8. People will doubt you, but it won't matter as long as you believe in yourself

There will always be people that don't believe you have what it takes to do a certain job, but as long as you know you can handle it, that's all that matters. It can be hard to ignore their comments and doubts, but once you get past those, you can be unstoppable.

9. Relationships take work and effort

This one is more self-explanatory, but it is always good to hear this from multiple people and sources. Relationships are full of compromising and doing things to benefit your partner, and that is very prevalent in these movies. Relationships also have ups and downs, and it may be frustrating, but it is so worth it when you realize that this person cares about you immensely.

10. It's OK to take a break from dating or working to focus on yourself

It can be hard to admit when you need a break, but people can only work so hard for so long. Or if your relationships keep failing after a couple of months, it might be time to take some time for yourself. Use your personal days to take a vacation. Or just spend the weekend holed up in your apartment/house. It doesn't have to be anything too extravagant, it just needs to be calm and a time for you to focus on yourself.

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13 Movies Every Couple Needs To Watch Before They Get Married

Let's be honest, Rachel McAdams is in all the best love stories.


These 13 movies are the foundation of any long-lasting relationship, and I'm not joking. Each movie will show you something new about your partner, and make you ask each other the hard questions. How many kids do you want and how are you going to raise them? What would happen if you got into a horrible accident? Some are less serious though, like what if you could time travel?

I promise that not every one of these movies is a Nicholas Sparks classic, and I also promise that not every movie has Rachel McAdams in it!

1. "The Time Traveler's Wife"

This movie is both heartbreaking and amazing.

2. "About Time"

Let's be honest, Rachel McAdams is in all the best love stories. It's on Netflix right now, so grab some snacks and turn it on!

3. "Like Crazy"

This infamous Tumblr gif came from "Like Crazy." It's about a couple who goes long distance and build their life together. I used to cry every time I watched it, and I'm no crier! It also has the (now famous) Felicity Jones in it.

4. "The Notebook"

Every girl wants this kind of love.

5. "The Last Song"

Miley Cyrus and Liam Hemsworth are literally married now so if that isn't good luck, I don't know what is.

6. "Safe Haven"

You guessed it! This is another Nicholas Sparks classic. This movie has a dark twist as well, which men will love.

7. "Inside Out"

You may be thinking that this one is a bit weird. Well, this movie will help both you and your partner understand each other's emotions better.

8. "The Choice"

This movie is great because the female lead is feisty and extremely intelligent, which usually doesn't happen in love stories. How do you keep the love alive with a woman who is hard to get, and even harder to keep entertained?

9. "The Longest Ride"

Originally I could not stand the main female lead (Britt Robertson) but now she is in one of my favorite shows (For The People), so I have no choice. This movie had me on the end of my seat, and as a rom-com it is a must.

10. "The Age Of Adaline"

I began loving the name 'Adaline' thanks to this movie. This unlikely love story and self love journey really gets me.

11. "The Vow"

Imagine falling in love with someone and building a life, but an accident forces you to start all over?

12. "Titanic"

If they don't have any sort of reaction to this movie, they are probably not the one for you.

13. "Yours, Mine, & Ours"

Yours, Mine, & Ours is a true classic. Are you Helen or Frank Beardsley? You should figure that out before you tie the knot!

You're welcome!

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'Avengers Endgame' Has Left A Hole In My Heart

21 movies, 3000 minutes, lots of tears shed, so what happens now?


I have been waiting since 2008 for this finale, and it did not disappoint, considering I've seen it three times now. If you haven't seen "Avengers Endgame" yet, here is your warning for spoilers.


Marvel Studios' Avengers: Endgame - Official Trailer www.youtube.com

We watched as almost everyone came back for a happy ending, yet we had to lose our Iron Man. The movie was full of fun tactics and a tad bit more cussing than usual, but overall gave us the satisfaction that was promised.

We were able to see Thor at his lowest, given he has lost a lot: all his family members, half his city, and he couldn't defeat Thanos. I am glad we were able to see "Thicc Thor," it gave us a chance to see how Thor is not this mighty god all the time, but a being who has his low moments as well.

We saw Iron Man and his chance to finally have a happy ending, even though it ended. I'm glad that we got to see Tony say, "I love you 3000" to his little girl and even get to have that talk with his father. Although I appreciate the Spider-Man and Iron Man reconnect, I feel it was only in the movie to satisfy those who have seen "Avengers Infinity War." I think at his time of death, Spider-Man shouldn't have been there but Mrs. Potts should've. The scene felt rushed and uneventful and I feel they should've given him a tad bit longer.

I do have to say I loved the girls protecting Spider-Man, while it was minimal I do appreciate the #GRLPWR that was demonstrated in the film. When all the girls came together to protect him, I was on the edge of my seat and felt my palms sweating. I can say, though, they probably should've had more of those moments.

I felt exceptionally sad when we lost our beloved Black Widow. I do say that it gave her a lot of character though. It gave her the chance to finally have a family and to fight for something she cared about. Most people will dismiss her death, but we should remember she was the one who never gave up.

I'm not sure what I will do now since this phase is ending, but I plan to spend a tad bit more time creating theories and rewatching influential scenes. Marvel has taught me a lot about family, love, character, and overall being a better person.

Now that "Avengers Endgame" is out, we can prepare for "Spider-Man: Far From Home" Buy your tickets now and enjoy the last of Phase 3 of MCU.

SPIDER-MAN: FAR FROM HOME - Official Trailer www.youtube.com

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