Being a single girl is tough enough, but hearing horror stories about a girl who met a guy for the first time and was never seen again doesn't help. After high school, all the posts of people you went to school with getting engaged and having kids start popping up left and right. So then, you begin to wonder, "Where’s my happily ever after?"
Here you are, stalking the Instagram account of that one guy you’ve always had a crush on. You’re so deep in his account, you strategically place your thumb on the screen to scroll without accidentally like one of his pictures from 56 weeks ago. This becomes a sort of routine for a single girl who grew up with expectations that she would find her Prince Charming and start her family in her 20s. However, no matter how much we want to find Mr. Right, the first steps of actually meeting and talking to a guy are the most terrifying.
1. If he approaches you at a party, you automatically assume he just wants to sleep with you.
Now, I’m sure some guys are genuinely nice and just want to talk, but really, how often is that the case? Sometimes, it is more obvious that a guy just wants to hook up, especially when he’s hopping around from one group of girls to the next. Even if he does seem like a nice guy, the thought is always at the back of our minds.
2. Cheesy pickup lines just make you assume he’s used it several times before.
As much as I love having guys tell me that they’re a nine and I’m “the one they need,” a simple hello would suffice. Honestly, how often do those lines work?
3. Exchanging numbers and who should text first.
Girls often rely on the guy to text first, but it can be nice for a change for the girl to say something. How soon is too soon? Should I wait until we give each other our phones back and he turns around to leave, or tomorrow?
Then, when you finally meet a guy, start talking and getting to know him, new fears begin to surface.
4. How many texts can I send before this guy decides I’m annoying?
If a girl is in deep, she’ll just want to be texting this guy 24/7, but we won’t because we don’t want to come off as bothersome. We’ll just test the waters and keep asking questions about them and keep the conversation going until we start to get the one word answers and assume he’s decided he’s over it.
5. Maybe I shouldn’t have said that.
You can’t help but repeat conversations you’ve had with the guy, making sure you didn’t say something dumb, or that he didn’t take something you said the wrong way.
6. “Oh my gosh, he could be abusive or a serial killer.”
This thought, or comment from a friend, is inevitable. I can name at least 10 movies that start off with a happy couple and end with something tragic happening to the wife. They are responsible for a huge part of girls’ trust issues everywhere.
Then you realize that this guy isn’t the one for you and convince yourself you were better off just being single.
The perfect guy will come along at the right place and time in your life. No need to rush! At least that’s what all the older folks like to say, but we girls have to keep telling ourselves that or we’ll always be just the girl whose life becomes a long list of “relationship goals.”
