Gigi Hadid, Rihanna, Kylie Jenner, Ariana Grande, Kim Kardashian, etc. Victoria's Secret Angels, A List movie stars, musicians, you name it. Women are constantly being compared to other women. Every time you open a magazine or open social media it's all about the latest body or beauty trend that beauty bloggers demand you follow.
From lip fillers to butt implants, it's a never ending list of trends that cycle through and convince women they need to alter their appearance to look appealing to passersby. As if that isn't enough of an issue on its own, the women reading these things can't possibly keep up with the ever changing beauty standards. Hell, the "ideal" women in the photos can't even keep up.
So why, I wonder, do we care about them? The answer is simple. We want to be wanted. That's all anyone wants. Men, women, children, whoever. We all love to feel wanted. There's nothing wrong with that. There is, however, something wrong with society making us feel like garbage so we spend money doing all of these things and following these bogus trends that are intended to make us desirable.
We see adds like "Look as good as Rihanna in just 30 days!" Or "See how you can get the illusion of Kylie Jenner's perfect lips without the filler!" or on the opposite end of the spectrum, "Look thin and natural like Kendall Jenner in weeks!" First of all, Kendall and Kylie Jenner in real life don't even look like Kendall and Kylie Jenner on the cover of Vogue. So why are we selling women the idea that they should look that way?
Isn't beauty in the eye of the beholder? Isn't it the job of women to lift up, praise, and inspire other women? Not tear them down because they're three days too late to the big booty trend. Isn't it the job of society to function and continue as a cohesive group?
How are we to function when our women can't get any work done because they're too busy trying to look like a celebrity? We can't.
I am not trying to shame women that follow these trends or conform to these standards of their own accord. Do whatever you want to make you feel like your best self. If it's worth it to you, then go for it. But, I guess my point in all of this is to tell you that beauty standards are bogus. You are worthy of being desired and you are beautiful exactly the way you are. Don't let society bully you into thinking any differently.
Oh, and society, all I have to say to you is, f*ck your beauty standards. I define my beautiful.
