Dear Fans Of Controversial Artists

Dear Fans Of Controversial Artists: Stop Being Their Fan And Try Being Their Friend, Instead

It's the best way to support your favorite artists while still holding them accountable for their mishaps.


"I love his music, but I don't know what's going on. We're in a world, right now, where it's art vs. artist, you know? It's a huge topic. If you're an artist, are you a moralist?" — Jonah Hill

In the past couple of years, I'm sure that some of us have faced a predicament similar to the one described above. A dilemma where your favorite artist, whether that be in music, movies, television, comedy, or other areas, has said or done something publicly controversial. Whether this comment or action is a one-time offense or repeated behavior, we are often left wondering what we should do. Should we cancel that artist and never enjoy their artistry ever again? Should we forgive them and continue to support them? If we support them, how do we explain our rationale to people who do not support that artist?

I've faced a situation like this, and it can be very overwhelming. To address this situation, here's what I do: I treat my favorite artists like they're my friends.

I love my friends and I would do anything for them. I always try to support their decisions and dreams whether that be creatively, academically, or in any other area. However, this doesn't mean that we don't disagree on specific issues and have debates/arguments. If they say something or do something that I don't agree with, I always let them know. If I dispute with them, does this mean I don't love them or support them anymore? No way! I'm merely candid with them in the same way that I hope that they would be with me if I say or do something they deem as wrong. By acting in this same regard with artists, you don't have to stop supporting them just because they do something that you view as controversial or disagree with.

On the flip side, friendships fall apart sometimes for a variety of reasons. Perhaps, you feel that a particular friendship was too toxic and remaining supportive of that person wasn't positively impacting your life. Maybe you feel like your friend has crossed a line that morally you can't forgive. In the same way that you can decide to cut out a friend from your life, you can also choose to cut an artist out of your life.

By moving away from being a fan of an artist and acting as their friend, you maintain a sense of support while also holding them accountable for their actions based on your moral code. For me, it has allowed me to be honest with others and myself about how I feel about my favorite artist's decisions without being blinded by fandom or a false sense of loyalty that some people give to their artists. Ultimately, it's okay to support your favorite artists despite their flaws, in the same way that you can decide to stop supporting an artist because of things they've said or done. I believe that treating an artist as a friend will help you make these decisions more easily.

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9 Reasons You're Still In Love With Tim Riggins In 2019

Clear eyes. Full hearts.

If you're a Friday Night Lights fan, you know very well who Tim Riggins is. And if you've never seen the show, he's basically just the bad boy football star and sensitive hottie of your dreams, all wrapped into one heart-throbbing package. If you haven't already fallen under the Tim Riggins spell, you're about to...

1. He's the star running back of the Dillon Panthers.

Basically every girl who has walked this earth has fantasized about having that cliche football relationship. No shame. #33 on the field, #1 in my heart.

2. He's actually really sensitive.

Tim Riggins may seem hard and dysfunctional on the outside, but he's really just a big softie. He's no JD McCoy, who grew up lavishly and extremely fortunate; Tim had a rough upbringing. He and his brother, Billy, had to work hard all by themselves just to stay above water, which is most likely what keeps him so grounded and humbled.

3. He loves kids.

Tim didn't even think twice about taking his neighbor under his wing when he moved in next door. And for some reason, there's just somethin' about cute boys holding babies that makes us girls swoon.

4. He's genuine and honest.

Sure, maybe he took advantage of his football-star status and slept with most of the rally girls, but once he fell in love with Lyla we saw his compassionate side. (You probably envied Lyla and maybe even hated her for a while because of it...I know I did.)

5. He knows how to have a good time.

It's 5 o'clock somewhere.

6. He's a family man.

Tim took the blame for his brother's crime and went to prison for it...if that's not loyalty then I don't know what is.

7. He's affectionate.

If you either hate Lyla or you want to be Lyla or a combination of the both, you are not alone.

8. He's protective.

Probably the only time you've ever wanted to be in a tornado was when you watched the episode where he shielded Julie from flying debris.

9. He's beautiful.

You're welcome for blessing you with this GIF.

May you all find your own Tim Riggins. Amen.

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Why I Chose To Learn A Musical Instrument

You don't have to be the best to play beautiful music


In this world of specialization, people give me the impression that they believe that we should not bother doing anything unless we can be number one unless we can be the best. However, not everyone can be number one at one specialized task. Even if someone was able to accomplish such a feat, they would have to relinquish this title once someone better came along (because someone with superior talent always comes along).

So why bother learning a technique like how to play an instrument?

1. Passion

To put it in mathematical terms, Passion > Competition every time. What is the one thing that tends to bring everyone together? Listening to the same sounds, which is normally in the form of beautiful music. Music is a universal phenomenon that can tug on everyone's heartstrings at the same time, and usually the same heartstring. Learning to play an instrument opens up many possibilities for a person to enrich his/her/their life:

2. Making a song your own

There is a reason why people are allowed to monetize covers of original songs on YouTube: making a cover of a song is making a new version of the song. Sometimes people love a piece of music so much that they want to be a part of it, but they cannot be apart of it unless they somehow make their own version of it. People do this by becoming a part of orchestras, quartets, trios, bands, and duets. To learn an instrument, in my case piano, is to learn how to make my favorite songs come to life without turning on an iPod or Youtube.

3. You don't have to be the best to play beautifully

Music is an art form, and that art form is enhanced by hard work and practice. Anyone can learn how to play a beautiful piece of music. They just have to choose the piece they want to learn and practice long enough. Perhaps they will only manage to get to an intermediate skill level, but even at that intermediate skill level is the capability to make almost any song beautiful.

4. It's a healthy form of expression

Emotions are infused within music, and sometimes we need to express them. Music is a healthy way to express emotions without allowing those emotions to overwhelm us or drive us in an unhealthy manner. Music is an art form that allows us to express our emotions and control our emotions.

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