Falling in love can suck. Especially when you fall in love with someone you think you can’t have. Sometimes that means falling in love with someone who likes girls, and you’re a boy, or the other way around. Sometimes that means falling for someone and looking at them and thinking there is no way I am good enough for that person. And sometimes you look at the person you are with, and hope to God that they never realize that they can do better than you.
Everyone is different. That person that you think is too good for you? They probably think you are too good for them. The person who likes someone who isn’t the same gender as you, maybe they should be a model for what you do want. Just because you fall for someone, does not mean that you have to be with that person, it means you know what you are looking for.
There is nothing wrong with failed relationships. They are there for learning. Failed relationships help us grow. Sometimes they hurt for a long time. Sometimes it hurts for weeks, months or years. That doesn't mean they were the right person. It doesn't mean you will never get over it -- you will, and you will feel so much stronger. You just fell in love with Mr./Ms. Right now, not Mr./Ms. Right.
At the end of the day, we never know who is right. We have to go through a lot of heart ache and falling in love with the wrong people before we find the right person. Everyone heals at different rates and falls in love at different rates. It is okay to not be ready to say you love someone just because they say it to you. Sometimes that makes people uncomfortable or mad, but you shouldn't feel pressured to say something you are not sure you truly mean. That also doesn't mean that person is the wrong person. Just because you don't think you love someone right away doesn't mean they aren't right, and it doesn't mean you won't ever love them. It means you are guarded, which is okay.
Don’t put yourself down or refuse to take risks just because you are afraid that you are not good enough. You are good enough. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to be with the right person. Sometimes your heart will hurt, and sometimes you will be alone. Do not be discouraged when your love life does not go the way you plan. There are no perfect people. But, the person perfect for you is out there.
Don’t give up.
