Lately I have been watching a lot of romantic comedies and 99.9% of the time they end the same way, the outcast girl or boy ends up dating the popular boy or girl. A really hard pill I've had to swallow lately, is the one knowing that real life does not work that way. Yet here we are teaching young girls and boys that the popular kid will leave their other popular kid significant other to date someone who is less popular cause that's what happens in the movies.

Ever since I was a little girl the movies that came out were all about finding the love of your life, "the one" and as a hopeless romantic I found myself falling in love with the idea of being in love. I was at the point where I wanted to find "the right" guy as soon as possible. Every guy I met I tried to convince myself that he was "the one" for me because of some stupid factor like Chicken Alfredo was both of our favorite dishes. The problem with this wasn't that I wanted to fall in love but that I was more in love with the idea of love than any guy I had ever talked to. I wanted each one of those guys to work so I could say that I had found "the one" that I was with the guy I was going to spend the rest of my life.

Something I've come to realize is that the only person you'll only ever truly spend eternity with is yourself. So if you only truly have yourself for the rest of your life, why not make yourself be "the one" why not fall in love with yourself. Being "the one" for yourself doesn't mean you can't and won't eventually share your life with someone else it just means that you are choosing yourself right now.

By definition "the one" is "a person to be one's life partner." To me that sounds like something you can be for yourself. Stop chasing after the ideas and notions that you have to find the right person for you to share the rest of your life with right now. I promise if they are the right person and it is meant to be timing will be on your side and be kind to you.

You aren't always going to end up with Mr. Perfect like the "nerdy" girls in all of the romantic comedies do. You will however meet someone who compliments you in every way as you do them. Before someone can come along and compliment parts of you, you have to be able to compliment yourself. You cannot walk through life saying "oh I don't need to know how to cook, my husband will know how." No ma'am, learn how to cook for YOU, be the one who knows how to cook, and clean even if you hate it. You should be able to stand on your own two feet.

When I say be "the one" for yourself, I don't mean be single for the rest of your life. I mean be the one you want to fall in love with. Fall in love with being yourself, love yourself to the fullest. Be undeniably yourself always.