9 Things You'll Understand If You're An Only Child

9 Things You'll Understand If You're An Only Child

Since being an only child is an experience, these are nine things you'll only understand if you don't have siblings.


Most people I know have siblings or a step-sibling. Telling people you're an only child oftentimes is met with an, "Oh, really?" or "Do you like that?" Obviously, only children can't understand what it's like to have siblings, and people with siblings can't understand what it's like to be an only child. Here's a little insight into the mind of an only child.

1. You never have to share.

You don't really have to share unless you're with cousins or other small children at school. There's no one to share anything with! People who say their sisters take their clothes or share clothes is such a foreign concept to me. Maybe that's why I have so many clothes.

2. You have your own space.

You have your own bedroom, bathroom, and closet, and you never have to worry that someone is suddenly going to infringe upon them. This does, however, make moving into a dorm room a big adjustment, as you have to share a small space for the first time in your life.

3. When you go on vacations, you get the whole backseat to yourself.

There's never any squishing of siblings in the back or fighting in the car — you can just take a nap and pop some headphones in and you're good for however long the ride is.

4. You have a crazy imagination because you had to play by yourself as a kid.

Your creativity is crazy — since you had all the time in the world as a kid to draw or color or paint, you're probably pretty creative and you can come up with some good ideas much quicker than some of your peers.

5. You're independent by nature because you've done a lot on your own.

Sometimes you just need your personal space. You've been used to being alone all the time, and while you like people, you also recognize the joys of personal growth and alone time.

6. You always got all the attention from your parents and you're used to always having them to talk to.

My parents and I are in a group chat now that I'm away at school, and I give them both updates. It's a lot easier to text both of them than it is to text each individually, and since parents of only children only have one child to be invested in, they care a lot about things you wouldn't realize.

7. If you want/ask for something, there's a higher probability that you're going to get it.

Since you don't have siblings and your parents only have to spend money on one child, if you want something, there's a much greater chance that you'll actually get it compared to your friends who have three siblings. This oftentimes is why only children are labeled as "spoiled." While that may be true for some, it doesn't change our personality types.

8. You can relate really well to other only-children.

Being an only child really is an experience, so when you find someone else who's also an only child, it's like an instant bond. You just automatically know things about that person that you wouldn't otherwise.

9. You don't really ever get into fights because there's no one to fight with.

You don't get into fights easily and you're not confrontational because you never really fought with anyone growing up. Sure you and Susie might've gotten into that one fight in fourth grade, but for the most part, there's no one grabbing your hair or stealing your toys or eating the last granola bar, so really, who would you fight with?

I love being an only child, and I think there are definitely perks to it. While I'm sad I won't necessarily get to be an aunt someday, I have cousins and friends who I'm very close with, so there are people to fill the roles that a sibling would fill.

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To The Dad Who Didn't Want Me, It's Mutual Now

Thank you for leaving me because I am happy.

Thank you, for leaving me.

Thank you, for leaving me when I was little.

Thank you, for not putting me through the pain of watching you leave.

Thank you, for leaving me with the best mother a daughter could ask for.

I no longer resent you. I no longer feel anger towards you. I wondered for so long who I was. I thought that because I didn't know half of my blood that I was somehow missing something. I thought that who you were defined me. I was wrong. I am my own person. I am strong and capable and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

In my most vulnerable of times, I struggled with the fact that you didn't want me. You could have watched me grow into the person that I have become, but you didn't. You had a choice to be in my life. I thought that the fact that my own father didn't want me spoke to my own worth. I was wrong. I am so worthy. I am deserving, and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

You have missed so much. From my first dance to my first day of college, and you'll continue to miss everything. You won't see me graduate, you won't walk me down the aisle, and you won't get to see me follow my dreams. You'll never get that back, but I don't care anymore. What I have been through, and the struggles that I have faced have brought me to where I am today, and I can't complain. I go to a beautiful school, I have the best of friends, I have an amazing family, and that's all I really need.

Whoever you are, I hope you read this. I hope you understand that you have missed out on one of the best opportunities in your life. I could've been your daughter. I could have been your little girl. Now I am neither, nor will I ever be.

So thank you for leaving me because I am happy. I understand my self-worth, and I understand that you don't define me. You have made me stronger. You have helped make me who I am without even knowing it.

So, thank you for leaving me.

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True Tales Of Growing Up In A BIG Family

Spoiler alert, I get tackled a lot.


I was born into a fairly large family. I have upwards of twenty-something first cousins, many of who are around the same age as me. It has honestly been both a blessing and a curse to have so many people around me all the time. Some of my favorite memories come from family gatherings where all of my cousins were there. However, since most of my cousins are male, there has also been a lot of physical violence where people get hurt, even if the intentions were innocent. I have so many stories about my family, some of which I won't share here because they are a little bit inappropriate, but others are too good not to share.

The first story I want to share is from this past Easter. Most of my cousins on my Dad's side were at my Papa's house celebrating the holiday. There was so much food we could probably feed a small army. Some of the older cousins decided that we were going to play a game of whiffle ball. All of the cousins who were playing were at least sixteen and some of them were much older. Many of us had or are playing sports in High School or College so this game of whiffle ball got extremely competitive very fast. I ended up being the Umpire/pitcher because I played softball for so long. The game ended with my brothers winning and my other cousins upset that they lost, but it was still one of the memories I will cherish the most even though I definitely threw out my shoulder pitching.

I can remember playing a game of football on Thanksgiving when I was young (maybe five or six). This game, not unlike the whiffle ball game we played at Easter, got super competitive super fast to the point where even I, as a six-year-old, was being pushed and tackled to the ground by much older boys. I honestly can't remember much about that game, maybe I got hit in the head too much, but I do remember having so much fun playing with my cousins.

I've been on a cruise two times in my life, both times with my extended family. One cruise was to Mexico when I was very little. What I remember about that cruise was getting extremely sea sick and that the cleaning staff would make towel monkey on our beds. The cruise was to Alaska when I was a lot older, I think I was fifteen. Since I and my cousins were much older on that cruise, we caused a lot more trouble and were able to get away with it. Every night we would go to the pool and swim. Then, we would go to the buffet and only eat pineapples and mac and cheese. We, also, may have or may not have gone into a bar to sing karaoke. While the cruise was fun, I wouldn't have had such a great time if I wasn't with my family.

While sometimes they can be a pain, having so much family has taught me a lot about communication and playing right. Again, I only have scratched the surface here in regards to the plentiful stories I have, many of which are so much funnier. I love my family so much and I would never trade that in for the world.

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