9 Things You'll Understand If You're An Only Child

9 Things You'll Understand If You're An Only Child

Since being an only child is an experience, these are nine things you'll only understand if you don't have siblings.


Most people I know have siblings or a step-sibling. Telling people you're an only child oftentimes is met with an, "Oh, really?" or "Do you like that?" Obviously, only children can't understand what it's like to have siblings, and people with siblings can't understand what it's like to be an only child. Here's a little insight into the mind of an only child.

1. You never have to share.

You don't really have to share unless you're with cousins or other small children at school. There's no one to share anything with! People who say their sisters take their clothes or share clothes is such a foreign concept to me. Maybe that's why I have so many clothes.

2. You have your own space.

You have your own bedroom, bathroom, and closet, and you never have to worry that someone is suddenly going to infringe upon them. This does, however, make moving into a dorm room a big adjustment, as you have to share a small space for the first time in your life.

3. When you go on vacations, you get the whole backseat to yourself.

There's never any squishing of siblings in the back or fighting in the car — you can just take a nap and pop some headphones in and you're good for however long the ride is.

4. You have a crazy imagination because you had to play by yourself as a kid.

Your creativity is crazy — since you had all the time in the world as a kid to draw or color or paint, you're probably pretty creative and you can come up with some good ideas much quicker than some of your peers.

5. You're independent by nature because you've done a lot on your own.

Sometimes you just need your personal space. You've been used to being alone all the time, and while you like people, you also recognize the joys of personal growth and alone time.

6. You always got all the attention from your parents and you're used to always having them to talk to.

My parents and I are in a group chat now that I'm away at school, and I give them both updates. It's a lot easier to text both of them than it is to text each individually, and since parents of only children only have one child to be invested in, they care a lot about things you wouldn't realize.

7. If you want/ask for something, there's a higher probability that you're going to get it.

Since you don't have siblings and your parents only have to spend money on one child, if you want something, there's a much greater chance that you'll actually get it compared to your friends who have three siblings. This oftentimes is why only children are labeled as "spoiled." While that may be true for some, it doesn't change our personality types.

8. You can relate really well to other only-children.

Being an only child really is an experience, so when you find someone else who's also an only child, it's like an instant bond. You just automatically know things about that person that you wouldn't otherwise.

9. You don't really ever get into fights because there's no one to fight with.

You don't get into fights easily and you're not confrontational because you never really fought with anyone growing up. Sure you and Susie might've gotten into that one fight in fourth grade, but for the most part, there's no one grabbing your hair or stealing your toys or eating the last granola bar, so really, who would you fight with?

I love being an only child, and I think there are definitely perks to it. While I'm sad I won't necessarily get to be an aunt someday, I have cousins and friends who I'm very close with, so there are people to fill the roles that a sibling would fill.

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To The Dad Who Didn't Want Me, It's Mutual Now

Thank you for leaving me because I am happy.

Thank you, for leaving me.

Thank you, for leaving me when I was little.

Thank you, for not putting me through the pain of watching you leave.

Thank you, for leaving me with the best mother a daughter could ask for.

I no longer resent you. I no longer feel anger towards you. I wondered for so long who I was. I thought that because I didn't know half of my blood that I was somehow missing something. I thought that who you were defined me. I was wrong. I am my own person. I am strong and capable and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

In my most vulnerable of times, I struggled with the fact that you didn't want me. You could have watched me grow into the person that I have become, but you didn't. You had a choice to be in my life. I thought that the fact that my own father didn't want me spoke to my own worth. I was wrong. I am so worthy. I am deserving, and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

You have missed so much. From my first dance to my first day of college, and you'll continue to miss everything. You won't see me graduate, you won't walk me down the aisle, and you won't get to see me follow my dreams. You'll never get that back, but I don't care anymore. What I have been through, and the struggles that I have faced have brought me to where I am today, and I can't complain. I go to a beautiful school, I have the best of friends, I have an amazing family, and that's all I really need.

Whoever you are, I hope you read this. I hope you understand that you have missed out on one of the best opportunities in your life. I could've been your daughter. I could have been your little girl. Now I am neither, nor will I ever be.

So thank you for leaving me because I am happy. I understand my self-worth, and I understand that you don't define me. You have made me stronger. You have helped make me who I am without even knowing it.

So, thank you for leaving me.

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Why I Appreciate My Parents So Much

This is for my two biggest supporters.


One thing I've noticed, the older I've gotten, is how much I appreciate my parents.

We've become so close, it's almost funny to think at one point I looked at them so much differently. When I was younger, my parents were much more strict than they are now. They disciplined differently and didn't let me do certain things. The older I've gotten, the more freedom I've gotten, which is one big sigh of relief.

My parents are such great people. Throughout my whole life, I've always had friends of parents or people who know my parents tell me how great they both are. I'm so blessed to have been raised by them and to have gotten their characteristics.

My mom is so loving and generous, and she thinks of literally everyone else in her life before herself. She's smart and funny, and she is always there when I need someone to talk to. She's taught me how to be courteous, kind, funny (with her sense of humor), and most importantly, accepting towards others.

The older I get, the more I realize how similar I am to her. She's my favorite woman in the whole world. We understand each other.

My dad is a thoughtful, hilarious, wise, and helpful guy who has taught me so many lessons throughout the years. He always makes sure my finances are in order, even more than I do. He keeps me laughing with his funny stories and made-up songs that he sings. He always asks me how my day was every time I walk through the door. He is so adorable and thoughtful, and I'm so happy I got his wit and humor.

His smile lights up a room and I'm so happy I've been hearing his laugh and will continue to for the rest of my life.

Another great thing about my parents is that they've taught me what love looks like. They're so loving, kind, and patient towards each other. I've rarely ever seen them fight in my life. They still treat one another how they did when they first started dating. I have friends and know people whose parents aren't together, and I'm so lucky to say I can't imagine what that's like.

My parents complete each other; they are soulmates. I'm so lucky and appreciative that I get to have the honor of watching their love play out throughout their lives.

I'm so happy and thankful that these are the parents I ended up with. They're the best. I hope to be half of my parents when I become a parent myself.

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