To My Ex Best Friend, Thank You, But I Don't Miss You

To My Ex-Best Friend, Thanks For The Memories, But I Don't Miss You Anymore

Friend breakups are some of the hardest things you'll ever go through, but they'll teach you so much.

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As if we aren't still young, ever since we were younger I thought my life would fall to pieces if I lost you. It did. At first, it was the worst heartbreak I had ever experienced. Years were wasted, secrets were shared and a friendship was kind of wasted.

I sat in bed and sulked in tears as I searched for the courage to delete the 90% of my camera roll that consisted of photos of you and I. I would remember all the laughter, road trips, night outs and lazy days spent with you. After a long day at work, I could call anyone and spill the tea but they wouldn't care like the way you did or understand. My boy-related issues are now something I handle on my own. Any relationship advice I may need, I'll have to find on my own.

By experiencing all the sadness that came with losing you, I learned much more about myself. Yes, you were my best friend but I learned how to be dependent on myself and not on another person. I learned that I can love myself without needing you to gas me up 24/7.

I also learned that you may not have always had my best interest at heart. Any boy that came along you found something wrong with. You couldn't find it in yourself to ever be happy for me and now that you aren't here, I'm happy. I'm not just happy, I am thriving!

I am finally doing everything for myself. Being afraid to find new friends and meet new people is no longer something I have to worry about. I don't have someone else's drama on my shoulders and most importantly, I am just living my life happier than ever before.

This all sounds like I am bashing my previous friendship, but it is the exact opposite. What I learned is that I thought I had someone who truly cared for me but once we were separate I realized much differently.

Breaking up with your best friend might seem like a terrible idea, but if you have doubts about literally anything, those doubts might just be a sign. For the last few years of my friendship, I noticed that I would support her in every decision, as long as she was happy. She never did the same for me. Anything she needed, I was there right away. She never did the same. Over time, it became a one-sided support system and was no longer healthy.

What I learned and what everyone should be aware of, make sure your friends treat you with the same kind of support and love you do for them. You will be rid of bad friends and you will make the most amazing friendships.

All I have to say is thank you. Thank you for the memories and helping me grow into who I am. I truly wish you the absolute best.

From,

Your Ex-Best Friend

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it

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Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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18 Things You Know To Be True If You Are A Dancer

#Dancerproblems.

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It's the night before my first dance competition of the season, so of course I'm going to write about dance. Without further ado here are 26 of the most common things you know if like me, you are a dancer.

1. You are constantly choreographing dances in your head.

It doesn't matter what song you are jamming out to, without fail, you find yourself choreographing dances, even at 2:00 AM.

2. You always find a way to practice your solos or dances for competition.

Even if you have a small space to work with, NOTHING, and I mean absolutely nothing will stop you from practicing.

3. You are constantly trying to better your technique.

All day, every day, it doesn't matter if you're working on turn combinations or bettering your tap technique, not a day goes by that you don't work on it.

4. You have a "dance drawer" in your dresser.

Leotards, tights, and booty shorts, oh my!

5. The studio is like your second home and your team is like your second family.

There's really no explanation needed.

6. You feel like you never get enough time in the studio.

Because there's no such thing as "too much dance"

7. Your weekends always consist of a dance private

Literally almost every weekend

8. You're not embarrassed about going out in public while wearing dance clothes.

And you don't care if people look at you funny for wearing your leotard and company jacket to a restaurant.

9. Your company jacket is your jacket of choice.

You've gotta represent your studio, plus it's sooo comfortable.

10. Forget the holidays, competition season is the most wonderful time of the year.

I love competition season so much!

11. You're always losing bobby pins.

Gotta love those sock buns that take you literally 15 minutes to do, and the ridiculous amount of bobby pins that you use just so your bun can stay in tact.

12. You have regular earrings and then you have dance competition earrings.

Those big sparkly earrings are always fun to wear.

13. Your Instagram explore page is full of videos of other dancers.

What can I say, I just love dance.

14. The phrase "I can't, I have dance" is one you say all the time

I apologize to all of my friends and family who I try to make plans with but can't follow through because of dance privates.

15. The same goes for "5, 6, 7, 8"

I am so guilty of this one.

16. People ask you if what you do is like what they watch on "Dance Moms"

And you reply with "Sort of, but not exactly"

17. Sometimes you just randomly strike a dance pose.

For me, it has always been , and always will be an arabesque.

18. Your mom is the best dance mom ever, and you dad is the best dance dad ever.

They honestly are, I couldn't do any of this without my wonderful parents and am so thankful that they continue to support me in doing something that I absolutely love.

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