At some point in our lives, we’ve all said or heard those words. Do we believe it all the time? No. Why do we say it? If we don’t truly believe it, why waste energy in saying such meaningless words?
One word: Hope.
I didn’t believe those words. Not when shit went down, and not when my life was falling apart. I thought the pain would never end. I didn’t think everything was going to be OK. Not then, at least. Nevertheless, when I heard those words, just a small ounce of hope flared. Even if it isn’t OK right now, one day, maybe even if it’s a long time from now, it will be. These problems won’t be the same then, and I might even be able to laugh about it.
To my family and friends, I want you to remember that.
Right now, it might hurt a lot. You might feel like everything is against you. It feels like you’ve gotten the short end of the stick every time. Trust me, I’ve been there. I understand that feeling. There are going to be terrible days. There may even be more terrible days than great days. But – there are going to be great days. Wonderful days. Days that you’re going to play in your head, time and time again, and just smile at the mere memory.
Maybe it’s a day with all your loved ones. You’re all having a good time, laughing, making jokes, making memories. Maybe it’s when you're alone, just enjoying time with yourself, doing something that makes you happy. Whatever you did, whatever happened, it was a great day. A peaceful heart, a mind at ease, life just seemed a tad bit better.
Remember those days. Those are the ones that you’re going to need when facing your worst ones. Don’t let a bad day, or bad days, or bad years, take over your life. Now, there are situations where, if anyone just smiled and laughed it off, they’d be labeled insane. On those days, it’s understandable to become frustrated, and scream and cry, or hate the world for a little bit.
There’s always hope. Otherwise, what’s the point? As I’m sure we’ve all asked in our darkest times.
Hope for what? It’s different for each person. Hope for success. Hope for happiness. Hope for love. Hope that it’s worth it. People find that hope in various ways. For one, it might be in a religion. For another, it could be in making a family. Maybe it’s following their dreams and reaching them, maybe it’s to travel the world, maybe it’s to finally find out who they are. It can be anything, but it will be there.
“Everything is going to be OK.”
Sure, maybe we won’t believe it all the time. Maybe in actuality, everything won’t be OK. That’s not why we say that. It’s the hope that it will be OK. It’s the hope that one day, maybe we’ll start believing them.
Because maybe, just maybe, what we wish to happen, what we hoped to happen, will happen. Maybe it won’t. Who knows? But if we give up, if we stop having hope and we stop believing, even at one point stop saying or hearing “Everything is going to be OK,” we’ll never know, will we?
I know there are times where it takes every last bit of energy to get through the day or to start the day. Then when a person comes up, and tells you, “Everything is going to be OK,” it takes every bit of restraint not to throat punch them.
“No, it’s not! It’s not OK! Everything is not OK!” You want to scream back at them.
The chance is you’re probably right. It’s ridiculous to assume that everything is OK. It’s not a perfect world out there, we’re not perfect people, and we don’t live perfect lives. That’s just how it is. It sucks sometimes. Sometimes, though, it’s kind of wonderful. You’ll stop, think of everything that’s wrong with the world, and then it’ll happen out of the blue. It will feel right. The world, everyone’s place in it, and your place in it, will finally feel right. It could be today, it could be tomorrow, it could be 10, 20, 40 years from now. It could be on your deathbed. All we can do is never let the bad times get to you, and to continue to have hope.
