I somehow cannot escape the feeling of loneliness that washes over me sometimes; it has especially been hard during this time of self-isolation and quarantine. Although I know that I am not the only person affected by this, it doesn't seem that way. Some days are good and others are extremely difficult, but the one thing I have learned through this all is that I still have my ability to respond. No one or thing can take that away from me -- not even a virus that is literally taking away lives.

That is why I have decided to take matters into my own hands. I will allow myself to feel defeated, upset and angry; but I will not let myself sink into those feelings and become smothered in them. So, I will celebrate myself, have hope, and laugh because I am worth it.

This reminds me of a phrase that I use to guide myself: it is okay to not be okay. Those words are so powerful and you can take your power back by using them! When someone asks how you are doing, don't just say good, tell them how you are actually doing. There is power in vulnerability, not weakness.

Whenever I am feeling trapped by emotions, I like to take matters into my own hands by controlling how I respond.

Whenever I have a million things going on inside my head, I journal. Journaling is an amazing way for myself to feel all of my emotions, talk about them and put them on a page but not get trapped inside of them. if you don't have a physical journal you can even journal in the Notes app on your phone; that way, you always have your journal with you for when you need it.

Another thing I like to do is talk to someone. Especially right now, communicating with others is so important. Whether this is in person, on FaceTime or Zoom or even six feet apart on a driveway, you will feel better. My favorite person to talk to is my mom. She is a great listener and always has the best advice. But this doesn't have to be a parent -- a best friend is a great resource too.

Lastly, sometimes I treat myself to something. Whether this is a sweet, a food from my favorite drive-thru or a cute new top, there is so much benefit to taking care of yourself. In order to know yourself completely you must love yourself and what better time to start than now.

Your emotions and feelings are so important, they make you who you are. You were put in this time and this place for a reason so listen to what your emotions are telling you, but remember: sometimes it is okay to not be okay.