During tough times, there is something you must always remember, you need to keep living and moving. By this, I mean to get up every day and get on with your life. Even if it's the simplest things like waking up, brushing your teeth, and eating breakfast to start your day. Once you develop a solid start to your day, you work on ways to be productive for the remaining hours. Productivity is the key to feeling accomplished and keeping yourself busy.
When I am stressed, upset, or angry, I find it best to keep myself busy to wind down how I am currently feeling. It is the best therapy to do chores, do homework, read a book, watch a movie, or go exercise for a few hours. However, you must always remember that it is not an excuse to bottle in your feelings and avoid the issue(s). It is only a step into the right direction if done correctly and not to ones' advantage.
It is also important to seek guidance and confide in your friends during your times of need. I believe that your truest friends are your backbones and will help lift you up. They are here for a reason and they want to be there for you at all times. By asking for advice or help, it shows that you care about the situation and need to talk it out with someone. You do not bottle in your feelings and you let it out in a healthy way. It is important that your good friends know how you are doing and that you're okay.
Please keep in mind that in order to fully reflect on what is presented in front of you, you should not participate in hobbies that will make you feel worse. For example, partaking in drugs, alcohol, or physical and emotional abuse. This does not solve your problems and will make you feel ten times worse. We all have our bad days but we are trying to make them better. Substance abuse is not the answer and your indenial-ness to face your problems will eventually come back to you. It will also leave you trapped in this evil vortex that can damage your mental state (especially when you hit rock bottom). It is okay to have alone time and want to do something fun every now and then with your friends. I find it best when people are taking time for themselves and becoming their own friend to mature and grow. This way, you move on from a situation and reflect on it, rather than dwell.
With that being said, times will be tough and you will struggle through it all. You must remember that eventually things will be okay and will work itself out. You will feel at peace with yourself and the tears, complaining, and being mad will lessen. You will learn through this journey and why it has to happen. After all, everything does happen for a reason. There's a quote that I live by every single day, "If ever there is tomorrow when we're not together, there is something you must always remember. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. But the most important thing is, even if we're apart..I'll always be with you." -Winnie the Pooh. Please take care of yourself and don't harm yourself and the people around you.
