Dumb Questions Do Not Exist

Dumb Questions Do Not Exist

Can we please stop making people feel bad for inquiring ?
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I know. You read the title, and you are already disagreeing. Maybe you are thinking about a question a person asked in one of your classes that the teacher already addressed, or a weird question you had a kid ask you once. We have all had one of those experiences, trust me. The questions, although they may have been tedious or random, still had value. Every question has a reason and a basis. Dumb questions simply do not exist.

First of all, your idea of calling a question “dumb” is not original. Many of us were told by teachers and parents to stop asking “dumb” questions when we were kids, but they never really told us what a dumb question is.

What is a dumb question?

Making an inquiry into something, especially as a child, is a sign of intelligence. A child inquiring about anything whether it be simple or complex is a sign that they are interested in the world around them, and are willing to understand it. By telling them that their question is dumb, you limit any possible mental growth. Kids who are told that their questions are dumb, grow up to be teenagers who still think their questions are useless. These are the kids who sit in classrooms, and have no idea what is going on, but because of their fear of sounding unintelligent choose to sit in silence. These are the kids that are stuck with a copious amount of questions, but have no outlet for said questions. This leads to being academically left behind as well as being socially awkward. If only they had been told that their questions deserved to be heard.

These socially awkward, and possibly academically stifled teens turn into ignorant adults. When a person is not able to receive answers to their questions, they create their own answers. Sometimes, these answers are ridiculous, and are entirely generated by biases. Maybe you know an adult who is ridiculously ignorant to many social, political, and economic aspects of life. You should ask them if they were ever told that their questions were “dumb”. The answer is, probably.

Questions are the basis of human existence. It is the questions of “who are we” and “what are we” that fuels the sciences, english, history and even mathematics. Without proper inquiries, where would we be ? How mundane would our existence be ?

To put it simply, there is no such thing as a dumb question. The question can be rude, tedious, random, complex or simple, but the question still deserves to be asked. The only “dumb” questions there are, are the ones that go unasked.

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5 Things I Learned While Being A CNA

It's more than just $10 an hour. It is priceless.
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If I asked you to wipe someone's butt for $10 would you do it? If I asked you to give a shower to a blind, mentally confused person for $10 would you do it? If I asked you to simply wear a shirt stained with feces that was not your own for 12+ hours for $10 would you do it?

You probably wouldn't do it. I do it every day. During the course of one hour I change diapers, give showers to those who can no longer bathe themselves, feed mouths that sometimes can no longer speak and show love to some that do not even know I am there all for ten dollars.

I am a certified nursing assistant.

My experiences while working as a CNA have made me realize a few things that I believe every person should consider, especially those that are in the medical field.

1. The World Needs More People To Care

Working as a nursing assistant is not my only source of income. For the past year I have also worked as a waitress. There are nights that I make triple the amount while working as a waitress for 6 hours than I make while taking care of several lives during a 12 hour shift. Don't get me wrong, being a waitress is not a piece of cake. I do, however, find it upsetting that people care more about the quality of their food than the quality of care that human beings are receiving. I think the problem with the world is that we need to care more or more people need to start caring.

2. I Would Do This Job For Free

One of my teachers in high school said "I love my job so much, if I didn't have to pay bills, I would do it for free." I had no clue what this guy was talking about. He would work for free? He would teach drama filled, immature high school students for free? He's crazy.

I thought he was crazy until I became a CNA. Now I can honestly say that this is a job I would do for free. I would do it for free? I'd wipe butts for free? I must be crazy.

There is a very common misconception that I am just a butt-wiper, but I am more than that. I save lives!

Every night I walk into work with a smile on my face at 5:00 PM, and I leave with a grin plastered on my face from ear to ear every morning at 5:30 AM. These people are not just patients, they are my family. I am the last face they see at night and the first one they talk to in the morning.

3. Eat Dessert First

Eat your dessert first. My biggest pet peeve is when I hear another CNA yell at another human being as if they are being scolded. One day I witnessed a co-worker take away a resident's ice cream, because they insisted the resident needed to "get their protein."

Although that may be true, we are here to take care of the patients because they can't do it themselves. Residents do not pay thousands of dollars each month to be treated as if they are pests. Our ninety-year-old patients do not need to be treated as children. Our job is not to boss our patients around.

This might be their last damn meal and you stole their ice cream and forced them to eat a tasteless cafeteria puree.

Since that day I have chosen to eat desserts first when I go out to eat. The next second of my life is not promised. Yes, I would rather consume an entire dessert by myself and be too full to finish my main course, than to eat my pasta and say something along the lines of "No, I'll pass on cheesecake. I'll take the check."

A bowl of ice cream is not going to decrease the length of anyone's life any more than a ham sandwich is going to increase the length of anyone's life. Therefore, I give my patients their dessert first.

4. Life Goes On

This phrase is simply a phrase until life experience gives it a real meaning. If you and your boyfriend break up or you get a bad grade on a test life will still continue. Life goes on.

As a health care professional you make memories and bonds with patients and residents. This summer a resident that I was close to was slowly slipping away. I knew, the nurses knew and the family knew. Just because you know doesn't mean that you're ready. I tried my best to fit in a quick lunch break and even though I rushed to get back, I was too late. The nurse asked me to fulfill my duty to carry on with post-mortem care. My eyes were filled with tears as I gathered my supplies to perform the routine bed bath. I brushed their hair one last time, closed their eye lids and talked to them while cleansing their still lifeless body. Through the entire process I talked and explained what I was doing as I would if my patient were still living.

That night changed my life.

How could they be gone just like that? I tried to collect my thoughts for a moment. I broke down for a second before *ding* my next call. I didn't have a moment to break down, because life goes on.

So, I walked into my next residents room and laughed and joked with them as I normally would. I put on a smile and I probably gave more hugs that night than I normally do.

That night I learned something. Life goes on, no matter how bad you want it to just slow down. Never take anything for granted.

5. My Patients Give My Life Meaning

My residents gave my life a new meaning. I will never forget the day I worked twelve hours and the person that was supposed to come in for me never showed up. I needed coffee, rest, breakfast or preferably all of the above. I recall feeling exasperated and now I regret slightly pondering to myself "Should I really be spending my summer like this?" Something happened that changed my view on life completely. I walked into a resident's room and said "Don't worry it's not Thursday yet", since I had told her on that Tuesday morning that she wouldn't see me until I worked again on Thursday. She laughed and exclaimed "I didn't think so, but I didn't want to say anything," she chuckled and then she smiled at me again before she said, "Well... I am glad you're still here." The look on her face did nothing less than prove her words to be true. That's when I realized that I was right where I needed to be.

Yes, I was exhausted. Yes, I needed caffeine or a sufficient amount of sleep. My job is not just a job. My work is not for a paycheck. My residents mean more to me than any amount of money.

I don't mind doing what I do for $10; because you can't put a price on love. The memories that I have with my patients are priceless.


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To The College Students Who Over-Commit Themselves To Club After Sport After Extracurricular

Involving yourself in numerous activities always looks great on resumes, however, the loads of work and commitment comes at a price...

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Dear college students,

College is a place where we discover our interests and what sparks our potential career path. While college mainly focuses on academics, the college experience is suppose to be exciting. Attending events on campus, joining clubs, rushing for fraternities and sororities, etc. College is the best of both worlds where you can work hard AND have fun while being responsible and independent. Getting involved on campus comes with a price though…

Whether you're a freshman, sophomore, junior or senior, this can apply to any of you. When you find clubs and organizations on campus that intrigue your interests, you can't help but want to join. For instance, my love for teaching directed my attention to the club I belong to currently, Student Education Association, where I serve as Public Relations. My love for writing led me to Rider's Odyssey Team, where I am a creator for our growing team, and serve as the President. Lastly, to develop my public speaking skills, I interviewed for a membership for Rider's organization, DAARSTOC, where I was offered a position. Now, I am very involved on campus, as well as attending different events Rider offers. Though I have my three commitments, I always look for other clubs and organizations to fill my free time, and while that's great, it can also haunt me.

So what point am I trying to make? Getting involved on campus is always great, however, over-committing to too many clubs and organizations doesn't leave you time to balance school, a social life, and other important factors in your life.

This week, I myself am struggling with the excessive piles of homework I have to complete, hence why overcommitting yourself could potentially leave you physically drained, mentally exhausted, and emotionally unstable. I've had my fair share of cries this semester thus far with the loads of homework, so I definitely advise you to be mindful of your schedule and join clubs and organizations based on how you handle stress.

If you can handle stress like a pro, first, I need to see you for advice because coming from someone who DOESN'T procrastinate, I still get extremely stressed. But on a serious note, if you can manage your stress wisely, continue down that path. I don't suggest piling yourself with more things to do.

If you are one who is like me and gets easily overwhelmed when it comes to homework, I suggest timing yourself. After a certain amount of time doing homework, roughly 45 minutes, take a break. Have a snack, get some fresh air, something to clear your mind. Then, come back to your work and keep a POSITIVE mindset. By staying positive you are ensuring yourself you CAN do it.

So, before you join 7 clubs, rush a sorority, party on a Wednesday night, be sure to stay aware of your schedules no matter how busy they may be, and ALWAYS, always stay positive.

Sincerely,

A very busy college sophomore

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