If You Drunk Text Your Ex, It's Not The End Of The World, It's Just A Weak Moment

If You Drunk Text Your Ex, It's Not The End Of The World, It's Just A Weak Moment

It might just be a reminder of how far you have come.

Casey Wheat
Casey Wheat Feb 21, 2019
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The other night, after one too many drinks, I drunk texted my ex-boyfriend. It was one of the first times I had thought about him since our break up a month earlier. I panicked and texted back sorry wrong person and played it as cool as possible claiming that I had just texted the wrong person. The conversation was short, he literally said back oh it must have been. I said I was sorry for bothering him, and I hoped he was good.

I have been a down this road before when we were broken up the drunk texts would lead down a dark road I no longer want to be on. A part of my heart hurt that he didn't stick in the conversation longer, ask me how I was, tell me he missed me, but then every other part of me was glad, glad I didn't have to talk to him, glad that I could wake up the next morning and forget. However, I didn't, I thought about the conversation and what it meant. I thought about the short words, and I thought about why I texted him to start with.

I didn't text him because I missed him. It was a habit. A habit that when I drank too much, he would always be the person I texted. That is the hardest part about breaking up with someone, is wanting them when you are sad or have been drinking. Being drunk is a great excuse for missing someone, I use to believe that who you texted after a night out said a lot about how much you cared about that person, but now I realize this isn't true. Drunk texts are just a habit, it is your brain autopiloting, and it is totally okay.

So, you drunk texted your ex, and now you have no idea what to do. Well, you have two choices, you can delete the messages and not respond, or you can just play it off cool. The real trick is to not be invested in the answer, don't care. This is a great time to think about why you broke up, write a list and keep it and re-read it when you are tempted to send them a "You up?" Drunk texting your ex isn't the end of the world. It doesn't mean you haven't moved on.

I questioned this for a while, and I realized something, when I did miss him, when I did have feelings for him, I would have had a very different conversation, I would have said something along the lines of I miss you and probably a big speech about how we belonged together. It is a message I have both sent and received, it is a message that I have prayed for him to send me. It is a message that I also was shook when I got. It was a message that use to make me crumble and I would forgive him. This time though, I had no big speech on why we belonged together, I didn't miss him, and I didn't have to get another message back about how he missed me too and how shitty is life had been without me. I didn't hear an excuse. The conversation had nowhere to go. I realized I had started to move on, that I am moving on.

So, if you send your ex a drunk text, and you regret it, don't worry, it's not because you are missing him, it's not because you care, maybe a part of you does, but it's only a small part. It is not you. You don't owe him an explanation or an apology, you don't owe it to say you miss him. It okay to slip into a habit, it's okay to be weak for a moment, but wake up the next day and remind yourself why you chose to move on. Remind yourself why you deserve better. And remember to love yourself.

Casey Wheat
Casey Wheat Feb 21, 2019
At Boise State University

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10 Safe Drinks To Order For Your First Time Out

If you never been to a bar these are the best go-to drinks to get.
Ricole Davis
Ricole Davis Jul 5, 2017
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I didn't start drinking until I came to college and turned 21. And if you're anything like me, you probably had no idea what to order or what to drink. I basically relied on trial and error on what drinks I liked or didn't like. Through my trials and the hundreds of dollars spent and drinks wasted, I discovered the safe drinks. They're either really good and you can't taste the alcohol, or they're real cheap and bearable.

1. Vodka Cranberry

A classic drink. The simplest to make and the cheapest drink to order or buy and make yourself. All it takes is Vodka and Cranberry juice.

2. Dirty Shirley

It's like Shirley Temple grew up and started having fun. All it is is Sprite, grenadine and tequila. You can also use vodka instead of tequila.

3. Vodka Sprite

Super Simple. Vodka and sprite.

4. Rum and Coke

Usually a simple drink for guys, but hey, girls drink it too.

5. Long Island Iced Tea

I made this mistake when I first ordered this drink thinking it actually had tea in it… it doesn't. It's a cocktail of all the known different types of liquor: Tequila, Vodka, Rum, Gin and Triple Sec. A splash of coke is added to give that iced tea color.

6. Moscow Mule

Ginger Beer, Vodka and Lime Juice. Served in a copper mug.

7. Gin and Tonic

Another Classic, a gentleman's classic. Add a lime for extra flavor

8. Beer (Budlight, Budweiser, Natty Light etc.)

You can't go wrong with beer. It's everywhere, it's cheap and it gets the job done.

9. Tequila Sunrise

Tequila, Orange juice and Grenadine.

10. Lemon Drop

Another drink with vodka, this time all you need to add is lemonade. Usually Taken as a shot.

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Ricole Davis
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The Internet’s Infatuation With 'Soft Boys' Needs To Stop

Quick, (before he ghosts you), let me know if this boy sounds familiar!

Riley Farrell
Riley Farrell Jan 23, 2019
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You know he exists. Your girlfriends have told you whisperings. He's lurking nearby. It's…the softboy. The one who civilly slides into your DMs because he would love to hear your thoughts on philosophy, literature, or his vinyl collection.

Okay, sorry, backing up. In order to understand what a softboy is, you must know some history. Internet 101 is in session. No need to silence your cell.

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In the past few years, society has finally come up with a word for a male sl*t: a f*ckboy! In case you don't know this slang, a f*ckboy is a male who is strictly into sexual relationships facilitated by manipulation. You know, the kind of shallow guy who sends unprompted pictures of his genitals. He is typically seen with "his boys" because bros come before h*es. A f*ckboy will tell you that "you're not like the other girls"; this is supposed to be a compliment because he doesn't have any respect for other girls. Quick, (before he ghosts you), let me know if this boy sounds familiar!

Well, ladies and gents, we have a new monster on our hands. Or, rather, the same monster in a sheepskin disguise: the softboy!

The softboy Internet craze is a new trend, created as a seeming pendulum swing from the overt dirt-baggery of the infamous f*ckboy. Finally, American culture has a backlash against obvious jerks! …Only to be replaced by the same guy, but this time, in Doc Martins.

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They are imitations of the adorkable, lanky white boys of the month on Twitter such as Noah Centineo, Cole Sprouse, Timothee Chalamet, and Troye Sivan – the guys who are not afraid to express their feminine side in their emotional art. Young people adore them for their androgynous beauty and progressive sweetness. In turn, normal guys impersonate these famous people in hopes of receiving that same adoration from women.

However, what these imitators, these softboys, lack is the authenticity of the guys they're trying hard to look like. It's a façade to get in others' pants. He regurgitates whatever you want to hear and will use that to sleep with you before he moves on to "deal with his journey as a flaneur". Whether you're dealing with a f*ckboy or a softboy, they're both manipulating others based on what they think they like. And manipulation is wrong.

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Let me argue further, whereas an out-and-proud f*ckboy will wear a tank-top and listen to SoundCloud rappers, the softboy prefers a thrifted sweater while listening to indie music and calling all other tunes "trash". You know, because he is sensitive.

Whereas a f*ckboy half-jokes about being a meninist, the softboy respects women too much to pay for anything, ever. He calls himself a feminist, utilizing the label to his advantage. The softboy knows he's not going to make any girl swoon by being a total misogynist, so he plays the antithesis. But as soon as the situation gets ugly, he will show his real philosophy, with his patronizing voice calling you a derogatory name when something doesn't go his way.

Everything a softboy does is a ploy, (so convincing, that he may even believe these things about himself). He completes this performance to demonstrate to you that he's the good note in the noise. And that's why you have to be wary of him.

Riley Farrell
Riley Farrell Jan 23, 2019
At Texas A&M University

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