“It’ll all work out in the end.” “You’ll get over it eventually.” “Everything happens for a reason.” “You don’t need him.” “You’ll find better than him!”
Okay, but for real, how many of us have either said these things or have had them said to us? How many of you absolutely hate this being said to you? Like, I know you think you’re helping and I know eventually I will be okay, but you telling me now that I will be okay isn’t helping me right now.
We’ve all been through some breakups that we've bounced back from almost immediately because deep down you definitely knew he/she wasn’t the right one for you. But after your first true heartbreak, you look at the dating world completely different.
I thought we were going to get married. I loved him. He treated me like I was the only girl in the world for him, we had so many great memories together, so many laughs and traditions. Then all of a sudden, one day, it’s just gone. He calls you and says he can’t do it anymore. That he still cares about you, but doesn’t think he will ever love you. You literally feel like your heart was stabbed by a rusty knife. You can’t control your breathing, your tears, your actions. It’s like your whole world is ripped in half.
To be honest, I know how crazy dramatic that sounds, and I'm usually not one for drama, but when you were so happy with someone for the amount of time you were together and then suddenly it’s gone, it really, really, sucks. And all you can think of to do is listen to some old country breakup songs to mend your broken heart.
And what’s even worse is when you can’t hate the person after the breakup because when they were talking to you on the phone they were crying uncontrollably, and they kept saying how they never wanted to hurt you, and that they still really care about you and think you are an incredible person. But he just didn’t want to continue on with something he didn’t see a future with. Sometimes I really hate good guys. But not really.
I was just listening to a break-up playlist on Spotify (because music helps me cope with everything) and “Dreaming with a Broken Heart” by John Mayer came on. It was funny, because the night before I had a dream about the boy who just broke up with me, and I didn’t want to wake up because in my dream I was all cuddled up with him. And for anyone who knows the song and has had their heart broken, they know how incredibly accurate it is. And it sucks.
All I can say is that it is okay to cry, and it is okay to be upset about it. I promise eventually you’ll find happiness in something, or maybe someone. Never think that you aren’t good enough for someone.
