Don't Judge Me By My Cover

Don't Judge Me By My Cover

Open me up and see what's inside

That girl you admire for always wearing a beautiful smile, she cries herself to sleep every night.

That boy who's an incredible athlete, he learned to be tough from defending himself at home.

That girl who's body you'd do anything to have, she has a severe eating disorder.

That boy who always looks so put together, he can barely get out of bed in the morning.

On the surface, people often come across as something completely different than what they are feeling inside.

As a society, we are told to be ashamed of our imperfections, to hide our struggles, to bury our demons deep within our blood.

That girls wear that beautiful smile so no one realizes she cries herself to sleep every night.

That boy busts his ass every game so that his parents might not scream at him later on.

That girl is extremely skinny because she thinks she's fat and barely eats.

That boy puts on his best look every day to hide the darkness he feels inside.

Every. Single. Person on the face of this earth has struggles that no one is aware of, yet we continue to judge, whether it be positively or negatively.

Every. Single. Person on the face of this earth wants someone, anyone, to see through their facade and help them, because hiding the scars only stems from shame.

In this digital age, every one appears to have a perfect and wonderful life. We put our best foot forward and try as we might to portray ourselves in the best light possible.

I'm not exactly sure why this is, other than to hide our imperfections as society has so kindly taught us to.

We don't want other people to see that we are facing and overcoming obstacles, that we are trudging through a tough time, that we need a home away from a horrible home.

It's not fair to judge someone, positively or negatively, based on their outward appearance or actions.

You have no idea how someone wakes up feeling in the morning.

You have no idea what someone goes home to.

You have no idea what someone goes to bed at night thinking.

Take the time to step into someone else's shoes and try to understand what they could possibly be going through.

If you're going to compliment someone, don't just praise his or her body, outfit, or looks.

Tell them they're intelligent, tell them they're kind, tell them they make you happy.

Give them the compliments that will change their mental state to a happy one, not one that, even if given with good intentions, will draw attention to the things they struggle with most.

Don't judge people by their cover, open the book and read what's inside. You never know what you'll find.

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30 Things I'd Rather Be Than 'Pretty'

Because "pretty" is so overrated.

Nowadays, we put so much emphasis on our looks. We focus so much on the outside that we forget to really focus on what matters. I was inspired by a list that I found online of "Things I Would Rather Be Called Instead Of Pretty," so I made my own version. Here is a list of things that I would rather be than "pretty."

1. Captivating

I want one glance at me to completely steal your breath away.

2. Magnetic

I want people to feel drawn to me. I want something to be different about me that people recognize at first glance.

3. Raw

I want to be real. Vulnerable. Completely, genuinely myself.

4. Intoxicating

..and I want you addicted.

5. Humble

I want to recognize my abilities, but not be boastful or proud.

6. Exemplary

I want to stand out.

7. Loyal

I want to pride myself on sticking out the storm.

8. Fascinating

I want you to be hanging on every word I say.

9. Empathetic

I want to be able to feel your pain, so that I can help you heal.

10. Vivacious

I want to be the life of the party.

11. Reckless

I want to be crazy. Thrilling. Unpredictable. I want to keep you guessing, keep your heart pounding, and your blood rushing.

12. Philanthropic

I want to give.

13. Philosophical

I want to ask the tough questions that get you thinking about the purpose of our beating hearts.

14. Loving

When my name is spoken, I want my tenderness to come to mind.

15. Quaintrelle

I want my passion to ooze out of me.

16. Belesprit

I want to be quick. Witty. Always on my toes.

17. Conscientious

I want to always be thinking of others.

18. Passionate

...and I want people to know what my passions are.

19. Alluring

I want to be a woman who draws people in.

20. Kind

Simply put, I want to be pleasant and kind.

21. Selcouth

Even if you've known me your whole life, I want strange, yet marvelous. Rare and wondrous.

22. Pierian

From the way I move to the way I speak, I want to be poetic.

23. Esoteric

Do not mistake this. I do not want to be misunderstood. But rather I'd like to keep my circle small and close. I don't want to be an average, everyday person.

24. Authentic

I don't want anyone to ever question whether I am being genuine or telling the truth.

25. Novaturient

..about my own life. I never want to settle for good enough. Instead I always want to seek to make a positive change.

26. Observant

I want to take all of life in.

27. Peart

I want to be honestly in good spirits at all times.

28. Romantic

Sure, I want to be a little old school in this sense.

29. Elysian

I want to give you the same feeling that you get in paradise.

30. Curious

And I never want to stop searching for answers.
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An Ending Is A New Beginning

The end is just the beginning of a new story.


Endings are hard. They are bittersweet, and almost always painful; Whether it is the ending of a book, a movie, a beloved tv series, or a relationship.

Endings to me are the start of something new and fresh. There is a breath of fresh air to the closing of one door and the opening of another. From now on, my focus is on me and how I can best love myself. I want to be involved more in school activities and stay at school more weekends, rather than head home to see someone.

I have never taken time for myself. I always put others first, and there is never anything wrong with that, but it begins to weigh on a person when they neglect their own needs.

My new philosophy is that my happiness and my needs are going to come first. I put off what I needed for a long time in favor of someone else's needs. People often forget that their feelings matter too when they're in a relationship, and out their significant other above themselves. This ending for me is the absolute fresh start after a long almost three years where I put how I felt on the back burner in favor of someone else.

Now, it's my turn to start putting myself first and become an even better version of me.

Always make sure that you take care of yourself in every possible situation; Your health is the most important thing about you. If you don't take care of yourself before you try to take care of someone else, it will only end badly for both people involved.

Self-love and self-care are the most important things for a person, and my self-love is starting with growing out my hair, finishing out this second semester strong, and planning a beach trip for May with some of my favorite human beings.

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