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If You Compare Your Salary To How Much Other People Make, Please Stop

Worth does not translate to salary.

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It's easy to get caught up in money as you try to figure out how much you should make based somehow on how much you're worth.

As I near the end of my senior year of college, I've been scrambling to find not only a job but an estimate of how much money I should make at my first post-grad job. For me, it's been a really scary uncharted territory of trying to make the right decisions for both my livelihood and happiness.

I'm that type of person who needs to know everything before it even happens. I need to know the details of what is going to entail and what I need to do to make sure everything runs smoothly. I've been working my butt off for the past four years in school and I even have four internships under my belt, in addition to side gigs trying to add as much as I can to my résumé, all in hopes of complete preparation.

But no matter how much I've tried to prepare, I'm left feeling lost and anxious. I've been feeling a constant state of confusion and I'm doing my best to learn all the options on the table before me.

I think about how much I would make at an entry-level position in writing or journalism and if you don't know already, it's not much. I never went into the field thinking I would make bank, mind you. I've done everything out of love and hope, not necessarily a money symbol.

Let me tell you, though, it's been really hard to not compare my potential salary to how much people I know around me may make.

Thinking of my friends making nearly double of what I would bring home is really disheartening and frustrating because I wish everyone saw the worth of my field. Even though I won't be a doctor or investment banker, it doesn't mean I am worthless. To see such a stark distance in incomes is stressful and made me question my worth and choices as a person.

The other day I was feeling really down while contemplating all my choices, past and present. I wondered if I made the right decision to follow my heart instead of my head, especially knowing the amount of student loan debt I will have hanging over my head once I graduate.

But then I realized, above all else, I want to be happy. I want my work to be enjoyable and feel like my creativity is being poured into something I deeply care about. Sure, I could have gone to be a businesswoman or banker, but that's not what I want to do with my life.

Money is fleeting, and I've never been the person who only saw the value of life-based on how much something is worth monetarily. I like picnics in the park, bike rides and nights in watching movies, all of which cost more in effort than bills. Don't get me wrong, I also love a nice dinner out (including dessert) but what makes those moments so special to me is because they're few and far between.

I have always spent my money wisely, and I always will. I've realized that there's no real need to make as much money as I felt like I needed for a couple days there. Whatever I make will be enough for.

I will make things work, just like I always have and will continue to do.

If you find yourself stressed about money, especially when comparing how much you make to how much a friend may make, just take a step back and realize that everyone has different needs. There's no use feeling down about yourself when in the long run, you will be just fine. If you're like me, you'll have pursued a career in a field you love, making every day feel like a blessing, not a curse.

Remember why you made the decisions you made and don't just live with them, learn to love them for better or for worse.

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16 Reasons Nurses Have Been And Will Continue To Be The Most Trusted Profession

Because there is more to nurses than bed baths and medications

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For the past 17 consecutive years, nurses have been the most trusted profession in America. How do we know? Gallup does a poll every year to Americans rating different professions on honesty and ethical standards.

Nurses were number one as 84% of Americans rated nurses as high or very high when it comes to honesty and ethical standards. This isn't anything new, either. Gallup says that "With the exception of one year, 2001, when firefighters were on the list after the 9/11 terrorist attacks, nurses have far outpaced all other professions since they were added to the list two decades ago."

So, what made them chose nurses as the most honest and ethical?

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1. They hold the hands of your loved ones

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Nurses work 12-hour shifts. They are with your loved one more than anyone else in the hospital. Every family member cannot be with them 24/7, nor is it healthy to be. They encourage caregivers and family members to go home; take a shower, eat a meal, and sleep.

You cannot be there for them if you aren't there and healthy. That is where nurses come in. They'll take the hand for a while. Whether they are just going through a rough patch or taking their last breath, they will be there for comfort, support, and guidance.

2. They teach and help you understand

Education is a huge part of their jobs. They teach a diabetic how to take insulin. They teach the liver failure patient on what their lab values mean. They teach the importance of your diagnosis. They teach about medications. Nurses teach A LOT.

They should probably have a dual degree in education. They also help you understand things you did not understand. Physicians, for example, may not explain things in terms you understand. Nurses can help clarify and make sure you are comfortable and informed about what is happening.

3. They help you feel human again

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It is helping you in the shower after a long night. It is giving a bed bath when you just cannot move. It is helping you go to the bathroom after just giving birth. It is offering you a toothbrush. It is talking to you like a human being and not talking down on you.

Nurses and nursing assistants are responsible for making sure you are as comfortable as you possibly can be. Hospitals are not fun and if you are there, it is possible you are not your best self. That is where they come in.

4. They provide open and honest communication

Nurses almost always ask open-ended questions. Why? How much information can you get from "yes" or "no"? Nurses are the people who communicate with you on a different level. They are honest, show empathy, and want to help. They open the room up for whatever you want to discuss. It is one of their many positions.

5. They help bring life into the world

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Imagine celebrating life every single day. This is the reality for many Labor and Delivery, Postpartum, NICU, and well-baby nursery nurses. You are not alone. The nurses are the one increasing your pain medications when needed or helping you get through and respect your natural birth plan.

They encourage you every step of childbirth. They'll let you squeeze their hands, put a cold rag on your head, and place your baby on your chest after it's all over. Nurses are the ones who care for you and your whole family.

6. They are EVERYWHERE

Hospitals, schools, community, clinics, group homes, rehabilitation centers, outpatient centers, offices and your primary office, home health care, pharmacies, senior living centers, and so much more.

Nurses are not just trusted in hospitals. They are everywhere.

7. They advocate for you

Nurses give you a voice. The patient always comes first in their eyes. When they feel something is wrong, they WILL advocate for you. They are the people you want on your team.

They help you make informed decisions and translate things you may not understand. They will make sure you have all the tools you need, they ensure your safety, they educate you, and they connect you to resources you may need.

In fact, they are your biggest cheerleaders! They want you to get better and be your best possible self. Many times, nurses develop relationships with patients who have around for a while. Relationships are professional, yet they also become your biggest fans.

8. They are empathetic 

Nurses are special. They find out early on in nursing school whether they have the skills to be a nurse. The one's that make it are usually the empathic ones. They are able to put themselves your shoes, which is a huge reason why nurses give the care they do.

9. They help you cope, patient or not

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Nurses always have "two" patients: the actual patient and the family. It comes with the job! They do not just educate the patient; they educate the family, too. They also help you cope. Losing a loved one is never easy.

Although you may not be their patient, they'll still hold your hand, guide you, support you, and give you the resources you need to get through tough times.

10. They see you at your worst 

This is a positive thing. When you're at your worst, you need the most help. Nurses are always the first on the scene to care for you in all aspects; big or small.

11. They are active outside of their workplace

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Nurses (and nursing students) do a lot of community work. They see the bigger picture of why a patient may not take their medications or why they might not understand something. They are always out trying to help the community with screenings and education.

12. They practice and heal holistically 

Nurses practice holistically, meaning the focus on healing the whole person. According to American Nursing Today, it takes a "mind-body-spirit-emotion-environment" approach to the practice of traditional nursing. Holistic nursing is based on a philosophy of living and being that is grounded in caring, relationship, and interconnectedness.

A holistic nurse recognizes and integrates the principles and modalities of holistic healing into daily life and clinical practice. Holistic nursing encourages nurses to integrate self-care, self-responsibility, spirituality, and reflection in their lives."

Yes, they take into consideration everything, not just the physical body.

13. They don't judge

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Okay honestly, they’ve seen it all.

14. They are always learning and bettering themselves

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First, nursing school is DIFFICULT. Students have 12-hour clinicals, countless care guides, and a heavy course load. It is one most difficult majors. Yet, their pain is your gain! You want your nurse to be the best.

They hold your life in their hands! Along with making it through school, they are always learning on the unit, keeping up to date on evidence-based research, complete CE's (continuing education), and have countless certifications.

15. They listen

They don't listen to answer, they listen to listen. They'll listen to your worries, your stories, and anything you want to share. They have your back.

16. They encourage bonding and support

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Studies have shown that visitors and having support have an impact on patient outcomes! This included rapid recovery, boosting moral, and reduce anxiety and delirium. It also helps if you are there. You'll be better equipped to care for your loved one.

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Teachers Need Higher Salaries Or The Future Is Doomed

Teachers are integral to developing our communities and keeping our kids on the right path, but they sure aren't paid like it.

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America, rural America in particular, is running out of teachers. You might be asking yourself, "How could this be? Half the people I know are in school studying to become teachers!" While that may be true, the playing field and the career goals all change once that friend of yours is looking down the barrel of massive student loan debt and can't live off of a regular teaching salary, especially in small rural counties throughout America.

After watching this "VICE" video on this very topic, I was pretty overcome with emotion.

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Educators, including my mother, have been pivotal in my growth and shaping my outlook on the world around me. This profound impact a teacher can potentially leave on a student is true in every community in the country. How is it fair to rationalize that just because teaching is considered a selfless act, that teachers should be paid a barely liveable wage.

We consider lots of other professions to be selfless, but oftentimes the individuals in those professions are paid accordingly. Police officers, doctors, and other trades tend to make a livable wage. Except for teachers.

$35K a year isn't enough to support a family, buy a home or new car, or to grant us any of the things promised in the "American Dream." We NEED to provide more money for public education. We NEED to give educators a reason to get out of bed beyond a good feeling that they're doing the right thing. We NEED to realize that educators are as important to our communities as doctors, police, and firefighters. We NEED to do more for our children.

I honestly made more money managing a GameStop than what most teachers make and I still struggled with having to live check to check. Mind you, I have ZERO children. When we consider how much money we pump into our military, it's mind-boggling to think we can't take a small fraction of that to increase the salaries of public educators throughout the country.

If I knew that becoming a teacher would mean $50-60K a year that would honestly be a job I would consider going after. But even me, someone completely conscious of this disservice we are doing for our children by not ensuring they have the highest quality of education, can't rationalize taking such a small sum of money for such an incredible amount of work. The idea that teachers are simply marking off letter grades in a day planner and not actively shaping young minds is likely part of the problem.

If politicians really want my vote in 2020, this is what they need to be talking about. We need to step up to the plate and provide a better education system for children and teachers alike. So much of the world is already going to shit, let's put our energy and money into developing a generation that gives a shit.

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