I Don't Believe In New Year's Resolutions

I Don't Believe In New Year's Resolutions

Because I never get anything done.


I was talking to an old friend just today and we were talking about our New Year's goals/resolutions/whatever you want to call them, and she said, "My New Year's resolution is to lose weight! At least 10 kg. I literally gained so much over this past semester, my mom called me a snowman." We both laughed at that image and continued to talk about how she would go on to achieve this said goal.

We spent the whole day catching up and talking about simple nothings like our shitty, loveless, love lives and then she asked me, "What are your resolutions? We only talked about mine, which was to lose weight, clearly." I told her I didn't know, like each year in December. Whenever someone asked me about mine, I would never know what to say because I never set any goals and I never knew why I wouldn't. Until now. I realized that I never set any because one: I don't know how to set realistic goals and two: I'm never consistent and therefore never self accountable for my own goals.

I don't believe in these New Year's resolutions not because I don't know how to set goals or know how to follow them; that's just poor planning and that's definitely something I can work on. But, I never liked being all hopeful like the rest of humanity when setting these goals when a full 365 days later, most of these goals aren't even achieved. I never liked it because, like most people, I get lazy, demotivated and forgetful about all these goals I've set. But I believe it's bigger than me, I believe there is still some sort of luck ingrained in the process of achieving some sort of success (not just these resolutions) and sometimes your best is still not enough, which is where this luck comes into play.

Yeah, it's stupid to not believe in these resolutions because of a petty and ambiguous thing: luck in the universe alongside handwork. But I will say, I am tired of being beaten around by my own dark thoughts and demons telling me I'll never achieve anything I deem to be success or anything goal-worthy. I am tired of being hopeful for all these great things that could happen to me and later, after all the handwork, nothing or barely anything paid off. Sadly, I feel like this has happened to me too many times for me to get myself off the ground and get to work.

But, I truly don't believe in these resolutions because I really doubt these grand promises and limits that you set yourself and could ever tell you how to become a better person. Especially when so many different and unexpected curveballs and events could occur that could either make or break your progress to not only your goals, but also to becoming a better person overall. I guess I am just a skeptic.

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.


Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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10 Ways To Start Your Days Off Right By Bringing A Little Joy And Positivity Into Your Morning

"Listen to the birds sign a sweet morning song."


I'll be the first to admit, I'm not exactly what you would call a "morning person." That being said, I think it's high time I bring some joy into my mornings. I mean, life is beautiful, and by not enjoying mornings, I think I'm missing out on a potentially enjoyable part of life.

So if you want to start enjoying your mornings like me, here are ten things you might want to try doing to start your days off right.

1. Make a happy and healthy breakfast.


Make some toast, eggs, fruit, granola, or yogurt. OR, break out the bacon and have a good time. Any of those options sound like a good morning to me.

2. Drink a fresh cup of coffee (or tea).


For me, I don’t think anything could beat the smell of a coffee being made in the morning. So whether you’re into coffee or tea, use a nice warm drink as a way to bring a little joy into your mornings.

3. Smile when you wake up.


Start your morning with a good old-fashioned smile. Look in the mirror, look at how wonderfully made you are, and take a moment to smile and take that in.

4. Try to stay off of social media when you first wake up.


I know, it’s all too easy to become glued to your phone these days, BUT I think that’s a few moments of time away from it, and away from social media, can be a good way to stay positive in the mornings.

5. Journal your thoughts going into the day.


Take a pen, pencil, and a piece of paper, and take a moment to write down your thoughts, feelings, emotions, or anything else on your mind going into a new day.

6. Put on clothes that make you feel happy.


Put on whatever outfit makes you happy, whether that’s a cute sweater or a t-shirt. Wear something that makes you feel good.

7. Watch the sunrise.


OK, so I know you might not be able to do this every morning, but I think that watching the sunrise is the perfect way to start any day. What could be better than taking in all of these wonderful creations?

8. If you can, sit outside and enjoy our planet.


On that note, take some time to sit outside and enjoy the early morning and the world around you. Start your morning off with some time to really just sit back and take it all in.

9. Spend some time reading something you enjoy.


Grab a good book, a magazine, or whatever it is you might like to read. Take some time to clear your mind, and then fill it with lots of good writing.

10. Listen to the birds sign a sweet morning song.


Arguably my favorite thing on the list, I truly can see no downside to listening to the birds chirping away in the morning. If you can, take some time to listen to nature’s sweet morning song.

Hopefully you can try one of these tactics to brighten up your morning, and in turn, maybe even brighten up your whole day. We live in a wonderful world, and I think that it's time we start to recognize that.

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