I do not always need to have everything together and that is ok.
In our generation, if you do not know what you want to be when you grow up when you are 12, then you are behind. If you do not have the perfect job, the perfect boyfriend, and the perfect body, then you do not have it "all".
Our society puts so much emphasis on being the best version of you and that is great - everyone should strive to be the best version of themselves, but it is intangible to be that person 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. At some point, you will hit your breaking point and that is what our society frowns upon. Instead of sending messages of encouragement and empowerment to young girls that they ARE enough, whether they weigh 100 pounds or 200 pounds, yet instead society labels them.
When you scroll through social media, all you see is perfection...or that is what you think. You see the girl with over 200 likes on an Instagram of her dog. You see the "perfect" relationship kissing under the mistletoe and you compare yourself. "Why am I not like that" "Why am I not that skinny" "Would I get more likes if I was thinner"? Thoughts race through your head and dig you into a deep hole of pity and feeling unworthy.
The truth is, if you take off the mask that society puts on our generation today, you notice that no one would put their vulnerability on the internet for their "followers" to see. No one would post a picture of them after their bad breakup with their boyfriend. All we are subjected to is the "perfect" facade of people's lives, and that is not reality.
No one is picture perfect 24/7 and that is OK, we are human. It is OK to fail a test, it is OK to cry because you are overwhelmed. We are all human, with raw emotions that society somehow likes to disregard and distort, making it feel like we can never have bad days.
Instead of feeling ashamed about ourselves for not having it all together, we should feel encouraged. Encouraged because we know that when we wake up we will be one day closer to "having it all together" although the term "having it all together" may not even be reality because who really does have it all together?
Do we think celebrities have it all together? Social media and society sure make it look like they do, but do not believe for one minute that they do. The media reminds us day in and day out, tabloids aside that they are human too and they have good days and bad days.
So although, in today's society while it may seem like everyone has it together in the world beside you, you are not alone. No one has it all together because you can always strive for greatness and you may be having a bad day or think that you are a hot mess, but just remember someone else feels the exact same way and that is ok. You do not need to fake it just to fit in because who are you trying to impress?
If you are you, that is all you have to be.
Imperfectly imperfect with a side of mess.