Do the people you're surrounding yourself with bring you life?
Do the people you surround yourself bring joy into your life? Are you comfortable being your truest form when spending time with them? You have to pick and choose people who will fuel the best versions of you and accept any decisions you make that make you, you.
Who inspires you the most?
You have to choose someone and aspire to be them. That's how all dreams begin, isn't it? After you choose someone that makes you feel powerful, worthy and strong, you have to keep their light and use that to move forward on your own journey.
Would I want to live with me?
By the time we hit our 20s, we have all lived with someone other than our parents. Some of us having multiple roommates in multiple towns and houses. We all know how living with someone can be a pain; did you take those experiences and shape yourself into someone worth living with? If you assess your life and your habits, are they live-able or better yet, are they bearable?
What are my favorite hobbies/things I do for fun?
One of the hardest questions I get asked is “what do you do for fun?". I mean, imagine sitting in an interview and being asked this question. For some reason this question haunts me! By the time you hit your 20s I hope that you have a few hobbies or activities that instantly pop to mind. Hobbies keep you occupied when alone, distracted when emotional and happy when bored.
What are my negotiable and non-negotiables?
By the age 20 or at least the first few years, you should have your do's and dont's of life. What qualities MUST your friends and companions have. What behaviors are “you approved" and what will you not stand for. In life if you don't a set of standards for yourself, no one will.
Your 20s are easily the most impressionable years of your life, but while you go through those experiences you have to begin to build your standards and know exactly who you are. If you can answer all of these questions, then I applaud you. It takes time. And if you can't answer these questions, that's okay, keep working towards your best self.
