I was talking to a friend the other day and they asked me to tell them anything about myself, from the tiniest little thing even if I didn’t think it mattered. And it hit me, we don’t do that much anymore, we just assume we know a person by the things they post on social media or the things we pick out about them from the way they talk to us on the phone or the texts they send. But there’s so much more than that you could and should know about a single person.

Why do they like the color blue? What’s their worst fear and why is it their worst fear? What do they wish their name actually was? And why do they have that scar on their right foot? There’s so much more to a person than how many likes they get or how many followers they have.

You may think you know them because you see on their Instagram that they like the Patriots, or on their Twitter that they like J. Cole from their numerous tweets of lyrics. But you can’t depend on that to determine whether or not you like this person or if you think their worth your time. You never know you may fall in love with the way they talk because they pronounce certain words in a different way, or they can talk to you about something very deep that you never would have been able to know or talk about over social media/ text. You wouldn’t be able to hear that passion in their voice as they talk about something they love but you decide that you don’t like them because they post too many selfies or you saw they liked the team you hate on their social media.

But I’m here to say if you really want to know if you like someone or even want to be friends with them it’s going to take more than going on their social media because you can create whoever you want on social media but the person in real life may amaze you. So hangout, have a conversation, ask questions. Here’s a list of things that may seem stupid at first but if you ask them you may get to know a person more than you ever thought.

1. What’s your favorite movie(s)? – This may seem like a simple and non helpful question but it can go deeper than that. For example when I’m sad or need to be cheered up I watch Breakfast at Tiffany’s. When I’m in a content mood, I watch Harry Potter. And when I’m mad or in a weird mood I watch Taken.
2. What’s something about you that people wouldn’t assume by looking at you?
3. What’s the craziest thing you’ve done in your opinion?
4. If you had a day left to live, where would go and what would you do?
5. Who has the biggest influence on you?
6. If you could meet one person, living or dead, who would it be?
7. When you were younger what did you want to be when you grew up?
8. What is one thing you would change about yourself?
9. How would you describe yourself?
10. Do you take horoscopes seriously?
11. What do you think about love?
12. Do you believe in love at first sight?
13. Where is your favorite place in the world?
14. Who are you closest to in your family and why?
15. If you had to choose the narrator of your life who would it be? (If they don’t reply with Morgan Freeman then they’re wrong)
16. What is something you’ve never done but have always wanted to do?
17. What was the last thing that made you cry?
18. What was the last thing that made you laugh?
19. If you had a snow day or day off what is the first thing you would do?
20. Are you a dog or cat person?
21. If you could be any animal what would you be?
22. If you could go back to any age, what age would it be and why?
23. Do you know your heritage?
24. What is the best compliment you have ever received?
25. What is the meanest thing that’s ever been said to you?
26. What’s your favorite holiday?
27. Who is your favorite superhero?
28. If you could bring anyone back to life, who would it be?
29. What is more important to you: love or money?
30. Where do you see yourself in 5 to 10 years?
31. What would be harder for you, to tell someone you love them, or that you don’t love them back?
32. What scares you the most and why?
33. If you had a genie in a bottle, what would your 3 wishes be?
34. If you could be in any movie, what movie would it be?
35. What character or role would you play in the movie?
36. Do you think ‘home’ is a place or a person?
37. If you won, the lottery today what would you do with it?
38. If someone asked you to give up drinking for the rest of your life could you do it? And how hard would that be for you?
39. Id you had to give up one social media app which would it be?
40. If you were to get a tattoo, or your next tattoo, what would it be?