Long distance relationships are no walk in the park, that's for sure. No, they are not easy but they can work as long as two people are willing to try.
When you first get into a relationship with someone you go to school with chances are you aren't thinking about how quickly college will come. One day you're saying yes to the relationship and the next you're saying goodbye as you leave for college with tears running down your face. College is scary as it is, now add a relationship to it. You get used to seeing that person every day, then one day you see them once a week or less than that. The relationship can go from great to hell in a matter of days.
You two aren't used to being apart so you don't know how to do distance and to make it work. But this is truly the ultimate test of your relationship.
My boyfriend and I were together almost three years before I left for school the first time, we were used to seeing each other every day and being right down the road from the other. He still had another year of high school left because he is a year younger than me, so it was only me leaving for school. We dreaded the day that we would have to say goodbye and I would be 145 miles away rather than two miles like we had been our whole relationship. I made some mistakes because I did not know how to manage a long distance relationship so instead of letting you make the same mistakes we did here are some tips to make it a little bit easier.
1. Communication is key.
Please please please communicate about things. I feel this was one of my relationships biggest faults, we did not communicate very well at all. When we did communicate it would usually turn into a fight because neither of us could see the others point of views like we should've been trying to do. Talk about things that bother you do not hold it in, it will only make things worse than they need to be.
2. Skype or FaceTime.
I always felt like seeing his face made me miss him a little less. We would talk on the phone every night but it was not the same as looking into his eyes and being able to talk to him. I also feel like when you are talking over a video it's not as easy to get distracted by your surroundings and you can concentrate on what you guys are talking about. I think that if you are arguing you should video chat because it's like you are face to face arguing rather than through text or a simple phone call. If you are anything like me you cannot keep fighting as long if you are looking at them because you give in and just want to kiss them.
3. Make your time together special.
You do not get to see each other as much as you used to so when you do get to see them make the best of it. Try your best not to fight when you guys are visiting one another because it could mess up the whole visit and that is not good for your relationship. You don't have to go out and do anything, you two could stay in and just watch movies. Movie and junk food nights are always my favorite.
Don't expect things to be easy, because chances are they won't be. But DO NOT give up, keep trying.
Distance makes the time you do get to spend together more valuable.
