Demi Lovato Isn't Sober Anymore, But That Doesn't Make Me Love Her Any Less

Demi Lovato Isn't Sober Anymore, But That Doesn't Make Me Love Her Any Less

I stood by her when she entered rehab, and I am standing by her now.


Demi Lovato took the world by surprise on June 21st with the release of her newest single, "Sober." The song is a heart-wrenching confession to family, friends, and fans that after six years of sobriety from drug and alcohol addiction, Lovato has relapsed.

"Momma, I'm so sorry I'm not sober anymore
And daddy, please forgive me for the drinks spilled on the floor
To the ones who never left me, we've been down this road before
I'm so sorry, I'm not sober anymore."

Lovato entered rehab in October 2010 to seek treatment for her addictions, as well as bipolar disorder, anorexia, bulimia, and self-harm. March 15th, 2013 marked her first anniversary of sobriety, and each year since, Lovato and her fans have celebrated the momentous day together. Just this past March, I had the privilege of attending her Brooklyn concert that took place two days after her six-year anniversary, and the crowd sang an emotional "Happy Birthday" to Demi to honor the day she started her new life of sobriety.

At the end of May, Lovato teased her newest music to fans, saying of her upcoming seventh album, "Some of you may not like or understand my truth but it's me... take it or leave it.." Upon the release of "Sober," Demi captioned her social media posts: "My truth... #sober out now."

"Sober" comes as a shock to all who have followed Lovato's journey the past six years. As a huge fan of Demi, I was utterly heartbroken listening along with tears pouring from my eyes as she admitted her relapse. Since the very beginning of her rise to fame, I have passionately followed and been inspired by Demi. Her music and her story have played tremendous roles in my own mental health journey, and she has always been my beacon of hope reminding me that recovery is possible.

She may not be sober anymore, but Demi is absolutely still my role model. Until you have struggled with addiction first-hand, you know nothing of the courage it takes to even attempt sobriety. It's physically, mentally, and emotionally draining, and it never stops. Each day is a new fight.

Demi fought her heart out for six years, and I will never forget that achievement and abandon her for slipping up. I've followed her journey; I've seen her highest and lowest moments since going into recovery. I stood by her when she entered rehab, and I am sure as hell standing by her now.

"And I'm sorry for the fans I lost
Who watched me fall again
I wanna be a role model, but I'm only human."

The only thing more courageous than sobriety is being able to admit how hard it is. Recovery does not look like a perfect line — it twists and turns, circles around itself and zig-zags, goes up and down. What I've always admired about Demi's journey is that she doesn't sugar-coat it. Mental illness and addiction take people to dark, ugly, scary places, and Demi isn't afraid to be vocal about what those places are like for her. She doesn't just talk about her progress; she talks about her setbacks.

People are willing to support those with mental illness and addiction when recovery looks clean, measurable, and happy. But it is in our darkest moments — the moments that look like failures, the moments when people are most quick to abandon us — that we need the most help. Supporting someone through recovery means staying by their side even when it gets messy, ugly, and painful. There is no destination on the road to recovery, there is only waking up every morning and trying to be better than we were the day before.

I admire Demi's courage, as I always have, to speak her truth regardless of what others think. "Sober" is a brave, raw, and honest confession of what recovery actually looks like. Thank you, Demi, for showing me the strength in vulnerability. Thank you for reminding me that recovery is not always pretty, and that's OK. Thank you for speaking your truth and for giving me the courage to speak mine.

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37 Drake Lyrics From 'Scorpion' That Will Make Your Next Instagram Caption Go Double Platinum

Side A makes you want to be single, Side B make you want to be boo'd up.


We all knew "Scorpion" was going to be the summer banger we wanted. However, Drake surprised us with two sides of an album and two sides of himself. Mixing rap and R&B; was genius on his part, so why not dedicate 37 of his lyrics to our Instagram captions?

1. "Don't tell me how knew it would be like this all along" — Emotionless

Definitely a "I'm too good" for you vibe.

2. "My mentions are jokes, but they never give me the facts" — Talk Up

This one's for my haters.

3. "I wanna thank God for workin' way harder than Satan" — Elevate

For when you're feeling blessed.

4. "I promise if I'm not dead then I'm dedicated" — March 14

In Drake's story about his son the world knows about now, we get a lyric of true love and dedication

5. "My Mount Rushmore is me with four different expressions" — Survival

6. "Pinky ring 'til I get a wedding ring" — Nonstop

7. "I gotta breathe in real deep when I catch an attitude" — 8 Out of 10

This first line of the song is about to be spread on the gram like a wildfire

8. "Heard all of the talkin', now it's quiet, now it's shush" — Mob Ties

9. "California girls sweeter than pieces of candy" — Sandra's Rose

This is gonna have every girl who has ever stayed in Cali all hot and heavy, watch it.

10. "I think you're changing your mind, starting to see it in your eyes" — Summer Games

Y'all know how these summer games go

11. "Look the new me is really still the real me" — In My Feelings

When you've got to profess that you've changed 200%

12. "Only beggin' that I do is me beggin' your pardon" — Is There More

13. "Shifted your focus, lens lookin' jaded" — Jaded

14. "Back and forth to Italy, my comment section killin' me" — Can't Take a Joke

Necessary for when you've got people hyping you up already

15. "People are only as tough as they phone allows them to be" — Peak

Y'all can't have this one, I'm stealing it

16. "Work all winter, shine all summer" — That's How You Feel

Put in the work so you can flex on 'em, summer 18

17. "Blue faces, I got blue diamonds, blue tint, yeah" — Blue Tint

18. "I stay busy workin' on me" — Elevate

19. "Ten of us, we movin' as one" — Talk Up

The perfect reason to get the largest group picture you've had on your gram

20. "October baby for irony sake, of course" — March 14

This statistically applies to 1/12 of y'all reading this, so take that as you will (we October babies are the best)

21. "She had an attitude in the summer but now she nice again" — Blue Tint

22. "I know you special girl 'cause I know too many" — In My Feelings

23. "Gotta hit the club like you hit them, hit them, hit them angles" — Nice for What

24. "She said 'Do you love me?' I tell her, 'Only partly,' I only love my ____ and my ____ I'm sorry" — God's Plan

If you haven't used this one yet, get to it

25. "But I'm blessed I just checked, hate me never met me in the flesh" — I'm Upset

26. "It's only good in my city because I said so" — 8 Out of 10

Follow this up with a location and shoutout your hometown

27. "My haters either on they way to work or they arrived" — Can't Take a Joke

28. "I always need a glass of wine by sundown" — Final Fantasy

Has Drake ever been more relatable?

29. "It's your f***in' birthday. Happy birthday" — Ratchet Happy Birthday

Let's go get kicked out of an Applebee's

30. "I move through London with the Eurostep" — Nonstop

31. "I stopped askin' myself and I started feelin' myself" — Survival

Mood all summer 18

32. "They keep tryna' get me for my soul" — I'm Upset

33. "I'm tryna see who's there on the other end of the shade" — Emotionless

34. "Only obligation is to tell it straight" — Elevate

35. "It don't matter to me what you say" — Don't Matter to Me

This line from the King of Pop (MJ) will give you chills. R.I.P.

36. "I'm the chosen one, flowers never pick themselves" — Sandra's Rose

37. "Say you'll never ever leave from beside me" — In My Feelings

Couple goals, amirite?

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Paul Allen's Philanthropic Spirit Meant A Lot To Us In the Pacific Northwest—You'll Be Missed

Paul Allen was, and is, nothing short of a legend.


On Monday afternoon, the Pacific Northwest was rocked by the sudden and tragic news of Paul Allen's passing. Although he announced only a handful of days prior his non-Hodgkin's Lymphoma had returned, Allen expressed optimism in the aggressive treatment. Alas, all good things must end, and the Pacific Northwest mourns the loss of a beloved icon.

To some, it may seem a little odd why people would be upset at the loss of a man they would never have met in person. Yet what made Paul Allen so special was the fact his legacy managed to impact the lives of so many. Allen dedicated his genius and immense wealth for the betterment of his fellow man.

How did he create his fortune? Oh, by co-founding a little company known as Microsoft with a man named Bill Gates. Allen and Gates' dream of a world where everyone has a computer in their home has almost become a reality, as nearly billions of people have operated — or are currently operating — a Microsoft product or system.

Allen has since donated hundreds of millions of dollars to help fund education, medical research, and even the arts. What Allen has given back to Seattle alone can never be understated as the man has helped transform the Emerald City in one of the most unique in America. Allen founded the Museum of Pop Culture, completely rebuilt South Lake Union, and oh yeah, saved our beloved Seahawks.

Yeah, that's right. The Seahawks almost moved to Southern California in the mid-90's. The only reason they didn't was because Paul Allen stepped in and bought a failing, bankrupt franchise for $200 million. He dragged the Seahawks from being a bottom feeder team to the promised land of NFL relevance, and even a Super Bowl title in the process.

Not for nothing, Paul Allen also saved the Portland Trail Blazers when he purchased them in the late 1980's as well.

The Northwest has truly lost an iconic legend. Paul Allen was a giant in technology, industry, real estate, philanthropy, and entertainment. He will be sorely missed, but his legacy will live on. May God rest his soul.

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