Dear Future Husband,

The first and one of the most important things I am going to confess to you in this letter right now is this; I am not expecting you to be perfect.

I am not expecting you to be a perfect, flawless, ten out of ten person. I am not expecting you to buy me expensive possessions to win my heart. I am not expecting you to have a perfect history of past endeavors. I'm not expecting you to know what I am thinking and why I'm thinking it. I am not expecting our relationship to be all hearts and flowers with no arguments or disagreements. I am not expecting everything to be flawless, like some love story out of a romance novel.

One idea that I have learned so far in my relatively short life, is that nothing is perfect. So why should I expect you to be?

I would be lying if I said I haven't thought of what you might look like, and I would definitely be lying if said I never hoped that we would have a similar drive or passions. I would also be lying if I said it wouldn't be nice if you shared some traits from some of my favorite male characters from my top selections of romance novels.

One point I want to make clear, however, is that although I may daydream about some of these qualities, I do not want that to intimidate you in any way because I want you to know that I am open. I open to hearing who you are-- because knowing who you are, and what makes you unique is so much better than imagining you as some cookie cutter man from a book.

I am not going to sit here and write about what I dream of you to look like, act like, or even talk like. Not just because that is unrealistic, but simply because it is not interesting in any way to know exactly what you are getting. I also am not expecting pure uncanny romance, I am expecting, however, disagreements, hardships, and hard work--because no relationship is that easy.

I want our relationship to be something real, not something perfect. I want you to be my best friend, and best friends as most people know, do not have perfect relationships. They fight, they cry, they get down right pissed at each other, but when it comes down to it, they are there for each other, holding each other up. Do I want some romance? Of course I do, but that's not all what I expect it to be, or even want it to be.

I just want you, and that means all of you. The good and the bad. That being said, since I am willing to accept you for all that you are, I hope you can extend that to me. I am not easy to love, but honestly, is it easy to love anyone?

I might overreact to certain situations, say things I don't mean, act hot and cold, push you away when I'm upset, and I might get really worked up over something that doesn't even matter and then apologize ten minutes later. I know I can be hard to handle, and for that, I want to thank you. Thank you for roping me in and helping me overcome my commitment issues. Thank you for loving me, even though I can be a hassle. Thank you, because despite all of that, you still look at me like I'm a treasure, despite all of my faults.

Thank you for loving me, and I will continue to love you, with everything I have.

Sincerely Yours,

Your Future (Not So Perfect) Wife