I understand that we live in a world with so many different Ideas of politics, religions, sexual orientations, and standards of beauty, or even standards on relationships. Some people believe monogamy works for them or polyamory is their forte. I respect it and I say be true to who you are and who you are with. But, and yes there is a “but,” I expect adults to be open, upfront, and honest about their intentions and have respect for one another, especially in a relationship. We live in a world where you can scroll on social media and see a video of a guy or girl cheating on their significant other and it’s promoted as a comedy, #hashtag #Sidechick, or #SideNi**a. How is this ok? Why is this ok? I don’t feel like it is. I feel like it may teach a person with a lack of respect for relationships to think this is ok, and it’s not. Ultimately someone will get their heart broken. I have a couple of questions for someone who thinks it’s ok to step into a relationship and try to steal someone’s partner.

Question #1: Why do you think it’s ok to flirt with someone you know is in a relationship after they have disclosed that information to you?

• I’m going to be your real friend here and tell you it’s tacky, you look desperate, lonely, and you’re showcasing a lack of dignity in yourself and disrespecting a relationship that’s sacred. Now if this couple is ok to having their relationship open that’s another story, but you still should be respectful. Now if their relationship is strictly monogamous and loving, 1+1 does not equal 3. You do not fit into the equation so, leave it alone! Don’t be the lowest common denominator.

Question # 2: Let’s say you take this partner away from their previous lover do you think he or she will be faithful to you? honestly?

• I highly doubt they will seeing as they like to hop from person to person you could easily be replaced, think about it logically. Let’s do story time If Sam left Holly for Becky and Holly got her heart broken, But Cheater Sam and Basic Becky had a hot relationship for a couple of weeks until Cheater Sam met make out Molly at a party, and left Basic Becky for Make out Molly. Now Basic Becky is crying in the same corner as Heartbroken Holly. Both of them are now jaded and heartbroken posting heartfelt selfies about how they hate love and screw dating. The cycle repeats itself. Don’t be basic Becky or make out Molly, it’s annoying and you really don’t win at the end, and Cheater Sam let’s all hope he catches crabs.

Question #3: Do you feel like you are so hot you can have anyone? Including a man or woman who is in a committed relationship?

• You may be physically attractive to someone or you may be in their life, but what makes you truly ugly is how you treat others. You can be the most gorgeous person on this earth but if you have a selfish heart it’s truly discouraging. I’m going to be your real friend and let you know that you are not attractive enough to take what’s truly not yours. If someone is truly committed to their partner you have zero chances wait, you have negative infinity chances of getting with someone who is committed to someone else. You need to love yourself and the right person will love you for you. Adjust that behavior and grow some respect.

Question #4: Do you think when you insult the boyfriend or girlfriend of someone you want to date that person you like is ok with it?

• It incredibly petty, childish and you look like a jealous slut. If their relationship is like a friendship of course they are going to go back and tell their partner, get over yourself. Grow up! There are plenty of fish in the sea. You can’t have someone else’s fish. You need to be patient and wait for your own King or Queen.

Final Question: Do you love yourself?

• Honestly do you love yourself? I’m thinking if you did you would not be looking at a happy couple and trying to steal their happiness. If you loved yourself you would learn to love your own genuine company. You would actually be able to be patient enough to understand love is not easy, it’s truly a give and take. It takes honest communication, being loving, kindness, understanding, commitment, and loyalty. There will be days you question your relationship and wonder if it’s really for you, and there will be days you realize you can’t live without this special person. You have to take care of yourself even when you are with someone else, understand that when you meet the right person they should accompany you in loving yourself, andyou should do the same for them.