You have absolutely no idea how much you were wanted, how much love was in our hearts that led us to make the all important decision to bring you into our lives. As you grow up, you will begin to have questions. You will probably ask yourselves: “why do I look different from my daddies? Why do I have two daddies?” We will do our best as parents to answer any and all questions that you may have as you grow up in a home filled with love, joy, and happiness. There will no doubt be moments of pain, sadness, sorrow, and disappointment, and of course, where will be times when we will let you down. However, we will make it our personal mission to ensure that those will be kept at a bare minimum. When you came into our lives, we made it our life’s work to provide the best life for you as possible.
As of this writing, you have not here yet as we are not in the right position in our lives to bring you into it. We have no idea whether you will arrive via surrogacy or by adoption. But let me assure you that no matter the means by which you come into our lives, we will love you unconditionally. You will be brought into a huge family, a crazy family, with enough love in their heart to wrap their arms around earth twenty times. Even if you look different from your two daddies, there should be no reason for you to ever feel out of place, like you do not belong. Because as you will see, in my family, we have people of many different colors and backgrounds. White, black, Hispanic, Asian; it is literally a rainbow that connects us all, and you will only add to that ever growing rainbow.
We live in a time where you can be anything you wanna be. You won’t be judged or persecuted by society because of who you are or how you were born. As long as you are causing no harm to anybody else in any way, you can be anything in this world. Our hope, as parents, is that your life surpasses ours, that you go above and beyond more than we could have ever imagined for ourselves, that you stay out of trouble and prove to a certain group of individuals that you do not have to run the streets and participate in certain activities in order to be seen as “cool.” But most important of all, our biggest hope as parents, is that you remain true to yourself. Don’t sacrifice your dignity for anybody for any reason. Always take the high road and never lose sight of your hopes and dreams. You may hear the saying “nice guys finish last.” Don’t pay attention to that. Be decent human beings while always working hard. Trust me, it pays off.
There will be times where we overwhelmingly annoy you to the point that you feel as though you hate us; and you may even say that out loud. Don’t worry, we won’t take it personally, because we’ve been through the exact same thing you will go through. But always keep in mind that we may be hard on you at times only because we want what is best for you and keep you safe 24/7. We hope things will be different by the time you get to be our age. But as of this writing, we are living in a very precarious time in our country and in our world. It may feel like the 1950s and 60s, but race relations is still alive and well, and our biggest fear is that you will, in some way, be affected by it. However, as I said earlier, we will do our best to keep you safe at all times. Terrorism is still an issue as well. But we can say that, as a nation, the number of foreign attacks on our land is the lower than many other countries. You just never know what can happen and when. But our top priority is keeping you safe.
Okay, you might be getting annoyed already reading this as I have rambled on quite a bit. But I will end this by saying that whether you are biologically our children, or whether you came into this world as the biological child of somebody else. You came into our lives because we have the means and the resources to raise you in an unconditionally loving home. We love you Gabriel Connor and Sofia Gizelle!
