It's a constant topic of discussion when people find themselves growing up. The topic of children. When are you going to have them? How many children are you going to have? This seems like always the conversation to have with young women.

But news flash America, I do not want children and I would appreciate it if you stop shaming me over it.

"How could you want a man to marry you but not have his children?"

"The bible says be fruitful and multiply, your sinning by not having children."

"You're not really a wife if you don't bare his children."

I hear the ignorant comments everywhere even if they are not directed to me. But it seems to me that people don't realize this is 2018. Which means not everyone is walking around barefoot and pregnant, waiting for their husband to come home and grace him with a hot meal, a burped baby, and hot steamy sex.

Women are taking control of their lives, starting careers they love, and deciding to travel the world with their partner instead of bearing children!

Shaming a woman who wants to not to bring children into the world is not something people should be doing. It's her choice (as well as mine) to not have any children. Not giving our future husband children does not make him love us less. It doesn't mean our life is incomplete, or it doesn't mean that we will wake up one day with a deep centered regret. Children is a joy and beautiful tiny souls. But, in my opinion, you have to have a desire to have them in order to career for them correctly or risk having a child feel unwanted.

What's more important? Having a child just to please society, but your child feeling unwanted or living every day knowing you are happy with the way you are living your life?

Not wanting to have children isn't a crime or something women should feel ashamed of. And it's about time you, America, stop making women feel ashamed of not wanting them.