Dating is a precarious and fragile topic, since everyone seems to have their own opinion on the matter. The thing about teenagers dating is that the intention for teenagers is never to find "the one" but to have a good time, to enjoy their life, to live in the moment. We convince ourselves that we are trying to find the "perfect person" only to have a gut-wrenching realization that that person that we have crafted in our mind does not exist. Heartbreak after heartbreak, we still convince ourselves that they were at fault- the person that hurt us, the person that does not love us anymore. We convince ourselves that love requires pure joy in every single moment spent together and that there is never going to be arguments, fights or disagreements. We have crafted a fairy tale. Dating is no longer about a serious, committed relationship, but a game. It is a chase, and the unfortunate part is that we are not chasing after love, but a lustful greed that overpowers our reasoning and logic. Teenagers are convinced that attraction immediately translates to love; they have abandoned common sense and result in entering a relationship purely based on lust.
It is not surprising then that the relationship based on just mutual affection is over after the first fight because it was never meant to last. We do not want to admit that love will find us, but instead are adamant that we will find it. We have no trust in faith that love will find us when it needs to; we are just too impatient to realize it and too naive to understand.
Teenagers need to realize that the person they are with right now will be considered a mistake, a regret later on in their lives. It will be a black hole in their hearts and a frown on their face because they will realize that the relationship was meaningless, that the person they are with is not worth the time or the energy. Teenagers are not trying to find a lifelong companion, but someone to quench their desire for both physical and emotional satisfaction. The intention is never to find the "right person" but to find someone that is a temporary reprieve from reality.
Temporary is a word that guides our generation, and our relationships. Every single teenager in a relationship knows that it is not going to last, because they never wanted it to in the first place. People are fine with having a string of relationships because they want to "experiment" to find out what type of person they like the best - as if placing people into categories. We are okay with having temporary relationships, even though we know that it is only for now, only for the moment. However, we convince ourselves that temporary means forever and are heartbroken because we allowed ourselves to believe in a lie that we fed to ourselves. We lie about our relationships every day to cover our insecurities and shortcomings. It is our conviction of false truths that make a heartbreak inevitable, it is our intention that makes our relationships meaningless.
If you are looking for the "perfect person", you are never going to find him or her, because they are only a fabrication of your mind. But, if you are looking for someone to spend your life with, stop making the same mistakes over and over again. Speak your intention for the relationship from the very beginning so that you control the direction that it goes in while giving your relationship a purpose. Heartbreaks cannot be prevented, but building a life with someone can ensure that the relationship is not just an act of lust, rather an act of love.
