Everyone thinks about what they look for in a future spouse. There’s the usual: smart, funny, spontaneous, ambitious. In high school, that’s what I looked for. I found those qualities in a couple of guys. However, something was still missing. It was not until I got to college that I realized what that thing missing was: I should look for a guy that already has a relationship.

This relationship must be so strong, it can not be broken. I know what you’re probably thinking, but hear me out. I don’t want to break up this relationship, but grow in this relationship with them. I want my future spouse to have a relationship with God. So many times, I put that quality on the back burner. “I could change them,” I told myself. However in those relationships, what really happened is I was the one who was changed. How easy is it to fall into temptation when God is not the center of the relationship?

As 2 Corinthians 6:14 says, “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” I tried so hard to find someone lI was compatible with, but with every relationship, I could feel God telling me it wasn’t right. Why, as Christians, should we look for someone in relationship with God?

We look for someone with the same faith as us, because our faith defines our morals. Our morals often define the way we act, and how we act becomes who we are. After a while, when the “honeymoon phase” wears off, and you find yourself fighting against the world. In those low points, you know that together, you still have your faith to hold onto. The foundation of the relationship -- God, will continue to be something that will hold you both together when other things in life threaten to tear you apart.

So to my future husband, I vow to love God first. We must build a relationship with God together, as we build a relationship with each other.