8 Things That Happen When You Cut Out A Toxic Friend

8 Things That Happen When You Cut Out A Toxic Friend

I am finally free.

Sometimes I have the worst luck with friendships. I wear my heart on my sleeve. I love my friends. I care about them so much. Unfortunately, there's a lot of people out there that don't care like I do. They know how to play my heart and walk on me like a doormat. They use words that stab me, they secretly hate to see me succeed, and they only care when it is convenient for them. I am learning who these people are, and I am learning how to cut the ties to them. It is a long process, but this is what happens when I let go of these toxic people:

1. I feel free.

I was under a lot of pressure to be a certain way and act a certain way to make these people happy. Now I am finally freed from my chains.

2. I am genuinely happy.

I can focus on what makes me happy, not what they said made me happy. I love being happy. I love being positive and light.

3. I am finding my real friends.

When I cut the ties, I sat in a cloud of darkness alone. Then my real friends came in and made themselves known. They blew away the cloud and picked me up. I realized the meaning of the quote, "I would rather have four quarters than 100 pennies."

4. I have found my passion.

Before I was so focused on these people's lives and supporting them. I never received support in return. Or I would get told the things I liked were stupid. Without that, I have been able to find what I love to do.

5. I don't feel judged.

I can be myself. I don't have to be embarrassed about myself. I can be proud of who I am and what I like to do.

6. I have less drama in my life.

The only drama I have to worry about is me, myself and I. Their drama doesn't affect me or the other people in my life. I am so much more drama free. Cutting out drama also cuts out stress.

7. I am not as stressed anymore.

I was always walking on egg shells. I was always stressed to the core around these toxic friendships. Now I am not stressed out about them and their lives, problems, opinions, etc.

8. I can pick up signs when another toxic person comes around.

I am more cautious of developing friendships. Not everyone is meant to be a super close friend. Some people are surface friends or acquaintances. Friendships should be positive relationships not pieces of work.

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To The Friends I Won't Talk To After High School

I sincerely hope, every great quality I saw in you, was imprinted on the world.


So, for the last four years I’ve seen you almost everyday. I’ve learned about your annoying little brother, your dogs and your crazy weekend stories. I’ve seen you rock the awful freshman year fashion, date, attend homecoming, study for AP tests, and get accepted into college.

Thank you for asking me about my day, filling me in on your boy drama and giving me the World History homework. Thank you for complimenting my outfits, laughing at me presenting in class and listening to me complain about my parents. Thank you for sending me your Quizlets and being excited for my accomplishments- every single one of them. I appreciate it all because I know that soon I won’t really see you again. And that makes me sad. I’ll no longer see your face every Monday morning, wave hello to you in the hallways or eat lunch with you ever again. We won't live in the same city and sooner or later you might even forget my name.

We didn’t hang out after school but none the less you impacted me in a huge way. You supported my passions, stood up for me and made me laugh. You gave me advice on life the way you saw it and you didn’t have to but you did. I think maybe in just the smallest way, you influenced me. You made me believe that there’s lots of good people in this world that are nice just because they can be. You were real with me and that's all I can really ask for. We were never in the same friend group or got together on the weekends but you were still a good friend to me. You saw me grow up before your eyes and watched me walk into class late with Starbucks every day. I think people like you don’t get enough credit because I might not talk to you after high school but you are still so important to me. So thanks.

With that said, I truly hope that our paths cross one day in the future. You can tell me about how your brothers doing or how you regret the college you picked. Or maybe one day I’ll see you in the grocery store with a ring on your finger and I’ll be so happy you finally got what you deserved so many guys ago.

And if we ever do cross paths, I sincerely hope you became everything you wanted to be. I hope you traveled to Italy, got your dream job and found the love of your life. I hope you have beautiful children and a fluffy dog named Charlie. I hope you found success in love before wealth and I hope you depended on yourself for happiness before anything else. I hope you visited your mom in college and I hope you hugged your little sister every chance you got. She’s in high school now and you always tell her how that was the time of your life. I sincerely hope, every great quality I saw in you, was imprinted on the world.

And hey, maybe I’ll see you at the reunion and maybe just maybe you’ll remember my face. If so, I’d like to catch up, coffee?



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