8 Things That Happen When You Cut Out A Toxic Friend

8 Things That Happen When You Cut Out A Toxic Friend

I am finally free.
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Sometimes I have the worst luck with friendships. I wear my heart on my sleeve. I love my friends. I care about them so much. Unfortunately, there's a lot of people out there that don't care like I do. They know how to play my heart and walk on me like a doormat. They use words that stab me, they secretly hate to see me succeed, and they only care when it is convenient for them. I am learning who these people are, and I am learning how to cut the ties to them. It is a long process, but this is what happens when I let go of these toxic people:

1. I feel free.

I was under a lot of pressure to be a certain way and act a certain way to make these people happy. Now I am finally freed from my chains.

2. I am genuinely happy.

I can focus on what makes me happy, not what they said made me happy. I love being happy. I love being positive and light.

3. I am finding my real friends.

When I cut the ties, I sat in a cloud of darkness alone. Then my real friends came in and made themselves known. They blew away the cloud and picked me up. I realized the meaning of the quote, "I would rather have four quarters than 100 pennies."

4. I have found my passion.

Before I was so focused on these people's lives and supporting them. I never received support in return. Or I would get told the things I liked were stupid. Without that, I have been able to find what I love to do.

5. I don't feel judged.

I can be myself. I don't have to be embarrassed about myself. I can be proud of who I am and what I like to do.

6. I have less drama in my life.

The only drama I have to worry about is me, myself and I. Their drama doesn't affect me or the other people in my life. I am so much more drama free. Cutting out drama also cuts out stress.

7. I am not as stressed anymore.

I was always walking on egg shells. I was always stressed to the core around these toxic friendships. Now I am not stressed out about them and their lives, problems, opinions, etc.

8. I can pick up signs when another toxic person comes around.

I am more cautious of developing friendships. Not everyone is meant to be a super close friend. Some people are surface friends or acquaintances. Friendships should be positive relationships not pieces of work.

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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

The best kind of long-distance relationship.
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Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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14 Things You Relate To If You Grew Up WithOUT Any Cousins

*GASP* "What, you really don't have any cousins?"

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It always shocks every person who hears me state that I do not have any cousins. For some reason, this is just hard for people to really believe when it's actually not something impossible. I think we are all just so used to large families that it sounds weird when people say that they have no cousins. Yet, it is definitely a potential reality, and actually impossible if each of your parents is the only child to your grandparents.

Here are 14 things that you can relate to if you grew up without any cousins.

1. Nobody believes you when you say that you don't have any cousins

I'm serious, for the tenth time.

2. Your grandparents spoil you

With no other grandchildren to worry about, it's pretty easy to do.

3. You don't understand when people say that cousins are your first best friends

My best friend was my first best friend.

4. You and your siblings are always the youngest people at family events

This was simultaneosuly a good thing and a bad thing.

5. You get all of the attention at holidays

Since you're the youngest one around, then distant relatives are always doting over you.

6. Everything you do is deemed awesome by your extended family because there is nobody to compete with

It's much easier to be praised when you aren't being compared to someone similar to your age.

7. You don't know how to hold babies

You're never around them so why would you?

8. Family photos are pretty easy to coordinate

The less people, the easier.

9. Other family members spoil you just because 

Afterall, you are the only kid around...

10. The family will make comments regarding the potential for you to have a cousin as a justification for why they aren't doing something for you

When you hear, "I can't buy you too much because someday your aunt is going to have kids and I will have to do the same for them" you cringe and just had to know that all of the attention wouldn't last forever.

11. Birthdays are always a big deal

A perk of not having very many to remember.

12. If your parents' siblings own pets, then you refer to the animal as your cousin

Cat cousins, dog cousins, lizard cousins, and fish cousins can be pretty cool, actually.

13. Sometimes you dream of marrying into a big family

This is to ensure that your kids do grow up with cousins.

14. You appreciate the closeness of your tight-knit fam

Maybe the only thing you would miss if you had a big family is the opportunity to develop such close bonds with the few relatives that you do have.

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