You Can Cut People Out Of Your Life And That's OK

You Can Cut People Out Of Your Life And That's OK

Have you ever had "friends" in your life you felt like you couldn't trust or weren't good for you?

Have you ever been super annoyed by anyone on social media because of their posts?

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Last spring, I had to drop two friends I felt were no longer a good influence on me. It was difficult to make this decision, but I did take a while to think about it. I still feel to this day that I made the right decision.

They talked badly about people, and they talked badly about their own "best friends" behind their backs. They DID things behind their friends' backs, that they knew they would get mad at.

I felt I couldn't trust them because of this. I also felt that they were very narcissistic, and only cared about what people looked like. They began to appear to be shallow to me. At one point, I really had no desire to be their friends anymore.

I didn't do this aggressively. I did this silently. I unfollowed them on Instagram, unfriended them on Snapchat and Facebook, and unfollowed them on Twitter.

I just wanted their toxicity out of my life. It wasn't good for my mental health.

Well, soon they realized that I did this and they lashed out. I wasn't mean to them until they were mean to me. I tried to talk to them calmly and civilly, but they did not reciprocate. I stood up for myself and was done.

It was liberating.

Now, to go on to the second part of my article.

I really am one of the least judgmental people but this situation amazed me.

About three years ago, (and I can't remember how), I became friends on Facebook with a girl who had very recently become unexpectedly pregnant at 16. (Legally a child). She just turned 17.

She got married to her boyfriend of two years (the father of the baby) only two months after finding out she was pregnant.

They moved to Washington state for the husband's military station.

Even though they were SUPER young, I thought they were really cute and I admired and respected her for her maturity in raising her child.

But then, she got pregnant again. At 18. She was going to be a mother of two at 18.

I don't know if it was on purpose or not, but I still was shocked nonetheless.

I didn't really like her husband that much. He posted multiple pictures of his truck every day on Facebook, but barely any of his kids.

He was in the military fighting for our country yet his Facebook statuses were racist, sexist, and just mean and OFFENSIVE.

Plus, his posts were hard to read too sometimes because his grammar was AWFUL. Some of the words he used weren't even real words. He sounded very uneducated.

Then, about a month ago, the wife posts a status on Facebook saying that she and her husband were separated and were getting a divorce because the husband couldn't stop commenting on other girls' pictures and wanting to know who other girls were. She posts this for all the world to see; changes her married name on social media to her maiden name. Then like a week or so ago, she's all of a sudden posting pics of her husband, acting all lovey-dovey with him.

So are you getting divorced or what?

I just realized that I was done. I had been following a random ass couple on Facebook for three years now, whose drama I could no longer handle or comprehend.

I lost all respect for the wife. She said herself her husband was disloyal, then a month later, turns around and forgets like it never happened.

To me, their marriage is a complete joke. How can she ever trust him? How can we see him as a decent military man if he cheats on his wife? They're going to be so unhappy. And their children are going to be affected by it.

And the very last thing that bothered me after that was seeing her change her profile picture on Facebook to her and her husband, with herself holding a REDD's Hard Cider. She's 20. This profile picture is public. For all the world to see.

She's a mom and a military wife posting pictures of herself illegally drinking.

I have no words other than I have no respect.

I had to delete her and her husband, and honestly, I feel so much better.

Life is better simple and peaceful.

I realized that in the end, all I needed was me. Worrying about other peoples' unsolvable problems was getting me nowhere. I'm exactly where I need to be.

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75 Of The Most Iconic Vine Quotes

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Vine may be dead but Vine references live on. I still watch Vine threads AT LEAST twice a day. Here are 75 of the most quotable vines:

1. "Ooooooo, he needs some milk."

2. "Hi, welcome to Chili's."

3. "It is Wednesday, my dudes."

4. "Country boy, I love you ahhhwweelhwh..."

5. "Escalera oooooooaaaa!"

6. "F**k ya chicken strips!"

7. "Barbecue sauce on my titties."

8. "Gimme your F**KING money!"

9. "That was legitness."

10. "Ms. Keisha, MS. KEISHA! Oh my f**king God, she f**king dead."

11. "Fre-sha-vocado."

12. "Staaaahp! I coulda dropped my croissant!"

13. "That's my OPINION."

14. "You're not my dad, ugly ass f**king noodle head."

15. "What the f**k, Richard."

16. "This bitch empty, YEET!"

17. "Road work ahead? Yeah, I sure hope it does."

18. "What up, I'm Jared I'm 19, and I never f**king learned how to read."

19. "Um, I'm never been to oovoo javer."

20. "My God, they were roommates."

21. "Why are you running, why are you running?"

22. "Whoever threw that paper, your mom's a hoe."

23. "I can't swim."

24. "Lebron James."

25. "It's an avocado, thanksssss..."

26. "Mother trucker dude, that hurt like a butt cheek on a stick."

27. "Watch your profanity."

28. "I love you bitch, I ain't never gonna stop loving you, biiiiiitch."

29. "What are thoooooose?"

30. "I smell like beef."

31. "You better stop."

32. "What the F**K IS UP KYLE?"

33. "Come get y'all juice."

34. "Two bros, chilling in a hot tub, 5 feet apart cause they're not gay."

35. "So you just gonna bring me a birthday gift on my birthday to my birthday party on my birthday with a birthday gift?"

36. "I wanna be a cowboy, baby."

37. "Why you always lying?"

38. "Nice Ron" "I sneezed, oh, what, am I not allowed to sneeze?"

39. "I'm washing me and my clothes."

40. "Honey, you've got a big storm coming."

41. "XOXO, gossip girl."

42. "Shoutout to all the pear."

43. "A potato flew around my room before you came."

44. "Chipotle is my life."

45. "Look at all those chickens!"

46. "YOU BETTER STOP."

47. "I like turtles."

48. "It's the most beautiful thing I've ever seen in my life, watermelon, INSIDE A WATERMELON."

49. "Deez nuts, HA GOT EM?"

50. "F**k you, I don't want no ravioli."

51. "21."

52. "I'm in my mum's car, broom broom."

53. "Iridocyclitis."

54. "You know what, I'm about to say it."

55. "That is NOT correct."

56. "Uh, I'm not finished" "Oh my God, can you let me do what I need to do?"

57. "I have osteoporosis."

58. "ADAM."

59. "Merry Chrysler."

60. "Wait a minute, who ARE you?"

61. "Try me, bitch."

62. "When will you learn, THAT YOUR ACTIONS HAVE CONSEQUENCES?"

63. "I didn't get no sleep cause of y'all, y'all not gone get no sleep cause of me!"

64. "Do you want to go see Uncle Cracker or no?"

65. "So no head?"

66. "You got eczema."

67. "I am shooketh."

68. "Hey my name is Trey, I have a basketball game tomorrow."

69. "Can I PLEASE get a waffle?"

70. "There is only one thing worse than a rapist." "A child."

71. "Ah f**k, I can't believe you've done this."

72. "Bitch, I hope the f**k you do."

73. "Two shots of vodka."

74. "F**k off Janet, I'm not going to your f**king baby shower."

75. "JEEEEEZ, Jesus Christ."

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It's Time To Delete Cyberbullying

Let's use the internet the right way.

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It's 2019 and we all know how big of an impact the internet and social media has in today's world. These days, young kids are given some kind of smartphone or smart device. I've seen 5-year-olds out here with iPads or tablets.

Technology and social media are great things, but only when they're used properly. the keyword being PROPERLY. When it's given to someone with poor intentions, things can go south very quickly. This is where cyberbullying comes in.

At some point in our lives, most of us have been cyberbullied in some shape or form. Unfortunately, it's so easy to be cyberbullied these days because everyone has access to the internet and the ability to hide behind their computer screen. It can also go completely unnoticed.

Being a victim of cyberbullying, I know what it's like to see things about you that aren't true, but there's just nothing you can do about it.

Cyberbullying is one of those things that sticks with you for a long time and always kind of sits in the back of your mind. One of the worst things about it is that there are so many ways for people to do it from literally anywhere in the world. Honestly, I think this is why people seem to be so drawn to it because it is so much easier to get away with it. They're posting from their own account so there's no way to get them to stop or take down whatever they're posting.

There have been some legal changes over the years to help prevent it from happening, but it definitely hasn't stopped people from doing it.

The part that I don't understand is why people even do it. What do you get from hiding behind a social media account, harassing someone else? Does it make you feel better to tear down other people? I just truly don't understand why people intentionally hurt other people.

If I'm being honest, cyberbullying is just something that cowards participate in.

Nothing about sitting behind a screen tormenting someone for no reason shows any ounce of strength or courage. Posting stupid and unnecessary things online about someone else is just rude, uncalled for, and only make YOU look ridiculous.

The end results of cyberbullying are very bleak. For some of us, our hearts just hurt for a little whole, and it can just negatively affect you for a while. Sadly, for others, it's the last thing they'll ever think.

The bullies don't think about these kinds of things when they're terrorizing other people online. They don't think about the consequences. They don't think about the weight some people will carry because they were cyberbullied. They don't think about the horrible things people might do to themselves to deal with that pain.

As a society, everyone is consumed with themselves 9 times out of 10 so everyone only thinks about themselves and what will benefit them. No one thinks about all of the consequences of their actions.

It really all comes down to a personal decision. A decision to stoop low enough to hurt someone from behind a screen or be the bigger person and stop spreading rumors.

Bullying in ANY form is unnecessary and will NEVER be okay. It is time that we do something about it and become better, stronger people.

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