How I Learned To Love My Curly Hair

How I Learned To Love My Curly Hair

"OMG, I just love your hair, is it natural?"

I have thick, out of this world curly hair. It's what I'm known for in my life. It's what helps people differentiate between me and my twin sister (they still get us confused).

Strangers come up to me all the time saying how much they love it, and how they would pay so much money to get this style of curls aka a perm.

Important note: if you compliment someone with curly hair, it does not mean you can run your fingers through it, or pet it. It causes the curls to dry out and become frizzy, and then we'll hate you until the next time we wash it. My parents always said if you don't have something nice to say, don't say it. But if you touch my hair and dry it out I will say something.

Every time people compliment me or tell me how I lucky I am to have this hair, I politely smile and say thank you. But what I really want to say was you don't understand how long it took me to embrace having hair that was so different from everyone else's.

Growing up, all the girls in my class had straight, frizz-free, model hair, even people on TV. It was so rare to see someone who had hair like mine. I was so self-conscious about it, and it made me hate my hair.

Eventually, I started hiding the fact I had curly hair. I would always straighten it, tie it back, or do something so that is was contained and not out in the open. I wore it like this up almost all through high school.

The day I met my best friend/soul sister, was the day I realized how amazing curly hair is. I finally had someone who could relate to the struggle of having this unruly hair.

We would compare products and styles that we both tried. Her hair is not as thick as mine, but she was the one who taught me to love it.

She always wore it down and open, and I started to follow her example (forever grateful to her for that). If she could love her hair, why can't I?

When I got to college I started wearing it completely down without a clip or anything. I learned to love my curls for who they are. I started to really take care of my hair and give it the best it deserves.

Don't get me wrong, I still have days where I hate it because of the humidity and the warm weather. It's super annoying when my hair starts to get bigger and bigger due to weather, but hey at least I can put it in a bun and still look good.

It's been four years since I started to wear my hair naturally. I want my hair to look good and feel good. I'm in love with my beautiful curls, and feel blessed to have them.

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20 Small Tattoos With Big Meanings

Tattoos with meaning you can't deny.

It's tough to find perfect tattoos with meaning.

You probably want something permanent on your body to mean something deeply, but how do you choose a tattoo that will still be significant in 5, 10, 15, or 50 years? Over time, tattoos have lost much of their stigma and many people consider them a form of art, but it's still possible to get a tattoo you regret.

So here are 20 tattoos you can't go wrong with. Each tattoo has its own unique meaning, but don't blame me if you still have to deal with questions that everyone with a tattoo is tired of hearing!

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1. A semi-colon indicates a pause in a sentence but does not end. Sometimes it seems like you may have stopped, but you choose to continue on.

2. "A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor."

3. Top symbol: unclosed delta symbol which represents open to change. Bottom symbol: strategy.

4. "There are nights when the wolves are silent and only the moon howls."

5. Viking symbol meaning "create your own reality."

6.Greek symbol of Inguz: where there's a will, there's a way.

7. Psalm 18:33 "He makes my feet like the feet of a deer; he causes me to stand on the heights."

8. 'Ohm' tattoo that represents 4 different states of consciousness and a world of illusion: waking (jagrat), dreaming (swapna), deep sleep (sushupti), transcendental state (turiya) and world of illusion (maya)

9. Alchemy: symbolizes copper, means love, balance, feminine beauty and artistic creativity.

10. The Greek word “Meraki" means to do something with soul, passion, love and creativity or to put yourself in to whatever you do.

11. Malin (Skövde, Sweden) – you have to face setbacks to be able to go forward.

12. Symbol meaning "thief" from the Hobbit. It was the rune Gandalf etched into Bilbo's door so the dwarves could find his house.

13. “Lux in tenebris" means “light in darkness."

14. Anchor Tattoo: symbolizing strength & stability, something (or someone) who holds you in place, and provides you the strength to hold on no matter how rough things get.

15."Ad Maiora" is translated literally as “Towards greater things." It is a formula of greeting used to wish more success in life, career or love.

16. A glyphs means “explore." It was meant as a reminder for me to never stop exploring.

17. "Aut inveniam viam aut faciam," meaning roughly, "Either I shall find a way, or I will make one."

18. Lotus Flower. It grows in muddy water, and it is this environment that gives forth the flower's first and most literal meaning: rising and blooming above the murk to achieve enlightenment.

19. The zen (or ensō) circle to me represents enlightenment, the universe & the strength we all have inside of us.

20. Two meanings. The moon affirms life. It looks as if it is constantly changing. Can reminds us of the inconsistency of life. It is also symbolizes the continuous circular nature of time and even karma.

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Jeffree Star Is The BOMBEST Bougie Beauty YouTuber And Can We Be Best Friends, Pls?

We all know he's bougie AF, with his designer clothes, Rolls Royce, and constant traveling, while usually, someone with that kind of money would seem majorly out of reach, he isn't.


The very first time I heard the name Jeffree Star was way back in 2012, back when he was still on the music scene. I didn't really listen to his music, but his name was distinctive, and when I heard about him again in 2016, I knew it had to have been the same person.

Now, I'll admit, I didn't start watching his videos because of his makeup expertise. It was the drama with Kat Von D that originally dragged me into Jeffree's world. However, the drama was fleeting, and once the dust settled, I realized that I had found a genuine gem. Although I only started being interested in wearing makeup about two weeks ago, Jeffree's videos were mesmerizing to me, and I just couldn't stop watching.

Jeffree himself is quite a character, to begin with. We all know he's bougie AF, with his designer clothes, Rolls Royce, and constant traveling. And while usually, someone with that kind of money would seem majorly out of reach, Jeffree doesn't come across that way. In his videos, he comes across as genuine and really wanting to help his fans find the best beauty products for them, which I love.

Another amazing thing about him is that he doesn't just sample the luxury brands. While Jeffree is definitely willing to drop $195 on a foundation, he also tries out the $5 highlighters from the drugstore. Every product is given equal opportunity, and he doesn't tell his fans to spend their money needlessly if there are products that work at a cheaper price.

One of my favorite types of videos that he does is the "Drugstore Vs. Luxury" videos, where he puts each product on half of his face to put them to the test. And he is not afraid to call out a brand for putting out a shoddy product, no matter who it is. He may be bougie, but Jeffree will not stand for a streaky lip product, whether it comes from Christian Louboutin or Wet n Wild.

On top of that, while Jeffree does have several videos about his own cosmetics line (and why wouldn't he? He's gotta get that advertising in somewhere!), he doesn't make his cosmetics out to be the end all, be all of the makeup. While his eyeshadow palettes may be sickening, he doesn't automatically knock down other makeup brands in favor of pushing his up higher. Instead, he gives credit where credit is due and just enjoys the product put out by other companies.

It's awesome to see someone with their own makeup line is very supportive of other makeup brands, especially when that support is directed at smaller indie brands, such as Storybook Cosmetics and Beauty Bakerie.

While I love all these things about Jeffree, my favorite thing about him is probably just his personality. He's a bit over the top, but he comes across like someone you could actually be friends with. Videos of his interactions with fans only further cement this idea, as he's more than willing to chat and take pictures with fans.

So yes, while there may be dozens upon dozens of beauty YouTubers out there, in my mind there is no doubt that Jeffree Star rules over them all.


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