How I Learned To Love My Curly Hair

How I Learned To Love My Curly Hair

"OMG, I just love your hair, is it natural?"

I have thick, out of this world curly hair. It's what I'm known for in my life. It's what helps people differentiate between me and my twin sister (they still get us confused).

Strangers come up to me all the time saying how much they love it, and how they would pay so much money to get this style of curls aka a perm.

Important note: if you compliment someone with curly hair, it does not mean you can run your fingers through it, or pet it. It causes the curls to dry out and become frizzy, and then we'll hate you until the next time we wash it. My parents always said if you don't have something nice to say, don't say it. But if you touch my hair and dry it out I will say something.

Every time people compliment me or tell me how I lucky I am to have this hair, I politely smile and say thank you. But what I really want to say was you don't understand how long it took me to embrace having hair that was so different from everyone else's.

Growing up, all the girls in my class had straight, frizz-free, model hair, even people on TV. It was so rare to see someone who had hair like mine. I was so self-conscious about it, and it made me hate my hair.

Eventually, I started hiding the fact I had curly hair. I would always straighten it, tie it back, or do something so that is was contained and not out in the open. I wore it like this up almost all through high school.

The day I met my best friend/soul sister, was the day I realized how amazing curly hair is. I finally had someone who could relate to the struggle of having this unruly hair.

We would compare products and styles that we both tried. Her hair is not as thick as mine, but she was the one who taught me to love it.

She always wore it down and open, and I started to follow her example (forever grateful to her for that). If she could love her hair, why can't I?

When I got to college I started wearing it completely down without a clip or anything. I learned to love my curls for who they are. I started to really take care of my hair and give it the best it deserves.

Don't get me wrong, I still have days where I hate it because of the humidity and the warm weather. It's super annoying when my hair starts to get bigger and bigger due to weather, but hey at least I can put it in a bun and still look good.

It's been four years since I started to wear my hair naturally. I want my hair to look good and feel good. I'm in love with my beautiful curls, and feel blessed to have them.

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20 Small Tattoos With Big Meanings

Tattoos with meaning you can't deny.

It's tough to find perfect tattoos with meaning.

You probably want something permanent on your body to mean something deeply, but how do you choose a tattoo that will still be significant in 5, 10, 15, or 50 years? Over time, tattoos have lost much of their stigma and many people consider them a form of art, but it's still possible to get a tattoo you regret.

So here are 20 tattoos you can't go wrong with. Each tattoo has its own unique meaning, but don't blame me if you still have to deal with questions that everyone with a tattoo is tired of hearing!

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1. A semi-colon indicates a pause in a sentence but does not end. Sometimes it seems like you may have stopped, but you choose to continue on.

2. "A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor."

3. Top symbol: unclosed delta symbol which represents open to change. Bottom symbol: strategy.

4. "There are nights when the wolves are silent and only the moon howls."

5. Viking symbol meaning "create your own reality."

6.Greek symbol of Inguz: where there's a will, there's a way.

7. Psalm 18:33 "He makes my feet like the feet of a deer; he causes me to stand on the heights."

8. 'Ohm' tattoo that represents 4 different states of consciousness and a world of illusion: waking (jagrat), dreaming (swapna), deep sleep (sushupti), transcendental state (turiya) and world of illusion (maya)

9. Alchemy: symbolizes copper, means love, balance, feminine beauty and artistic creativity.

10. The Greek word “Meraki" means to do something with soul, passion, love and creativity or to put yourself in to whatever you do.

11. Malin (Skövde, Sweden) – you have to face setbacks to be able to go forward.

12. Symbol meaning "thief" from the Hobbit. It was the rune Gandalf etched into Bilbo's door so the dwarves could find his house.

13. “Lux in tenebris" means “light in darkness."

14. Anchor Tattoo: symbolizing strength & stability, something (or someone) who holds you in place, and provides you the strength to hold on no matter how rough things get.

15."Ad Maiora" is translated literally as “Towards greater things." It is a formula of greeting used to wish more success in life, career or love.

16. A glyphs means “explore." It was meant as a reminder for me to never stop exploring.

17. "Aut inveniam viam aut faciam," meaning roughly, "Either I shall find a way, or I will make one."

18. Lotus Flower. It grows in muddy water, and it is this environment that gives forth the flower's first and most literal meaning: rising and blooming above the murk to achieve enlightenment.

19. The zen (or ensō) circle to me represents enlightenment, the universe & the strength we all have inside of us.

20. Two meanings. The moon affirms life. It looks as if it is constantly changing. Can reminds us of the inconsistency of life. It is also symbolizes the continuous circular nature of time and even karma.

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No Shave November: Why Guys Should Participate This Year (And Every Year, For That Matter)

There is literally a Science to this method.


So it's back: "No Shave November." It happens every year right on time for the beginnings of "cuddle season" where single millennials start to find a cuddle buddy, lover, or even a new serious thing before the holidays come and parents ask what you're doing with your love life. It never fails when you go home as it is one of the many questions that arise amongst the others about school and how college is actually going for you. So here's an awesome piece of advice fellas: GROW. OUT. YOUR. BEARD.

Now "No Shave November" at one time seemed like a tacky past time that just happened every year to just say, "Screw it, I'm not shaving my face, now I'll be lazy." Here are the thing fellas: you might not want to stop and shave it off at the end of the month. I've got a few reasons why this might need to be thought about that you really should take into consideration.

Guys here's a huge secret: women love beards. No really, when I mean they love beards, I mean they dig beards. There is an actual science to this attraction. As a bearded guy myself, I've experienced some extra attention as of late with my three-week-old scruff and I gotta say, it's a little flattering. Trust me, this is real and scientists have literally backed me up on this.

So now you're wondering, "Ty, what the heck are you talking about? Science is actually involved in attraction to beards?!" Yes, fellas, science has our backs. In an article written by Dr. Jeremy Nelson aka "The Attraction Doctor" in Psychology Today, he said a study just a little over ten years ago by Neave and Shields was conducted to study the effects of facial hair on women's perceptions of men's attractiveness, masculinity, and dominance.

In the study, women were asked to rate the attractiveness of men with various forms of facial hair including clean shaven men. Some of the categories in the study that were included in the ratings were masculinity, aggression, attractiveness, and social maturity. Also included was the question of the length of romance they could see in the partner with each variation of the man face-fur.

Here we go guys: the revelation revealed. Out of the pictures presented at that time, men with light stubble were found most attractive and also the most dominant. However, men with full-on beards were considered more masculine, aggressive, and mature. Ladies also felt and perceived the men with full on beards as looking older. So if there's a woman you know who likes older men, you might wanna go look in that mirror jefe and check to see if those whiskers are growing in.

"But, Ty, that's only one study." Yeah, but there have been several more conducted on the same subject matter. Dixon and Brooks conducted a study in 2013 on the same thing and women considered men with full on beards more attractive fathers, life partners, and were considered as healthier. So basically chicks want something real with a guy sporting a Paul Bunyan. Women also found men with thicker beards as more masculine. Men were also studied in this particular research gathering and they too found more facial hair more masculine.

"But, Ty, I'm not looking for something serious, just someone to cuddle with." Good news friend, as long as you got around intermediate stubble on that charming chin of yours, you have a good chance of spending the night and I don't mean making couch forts. If you're interested in getting lucky, well you, my friend, are in luck. Women consider men with intermediate stubble ideal sex partners. However, the men with full-fledged beards are considered ideal mates and potential for playing the role of a father. There are some r-rated whispers (from the app) out there that show serious appreciation women have for beards. It's everywhere guys.

There have been newer studies conducted. One study was literally done this year and even then short stubble was considered the most attractive on a man. So basically having a decent amount of facial hair, totally freaking rocks.

Now there are things that need to be addressed before you go out and just let Cousin It grow on your face. As Uncle Ben said in "Spider-Man," "With great power, comes great responsibility." First and foremost, decide on why you're growing this beard and if you're really committed to having one. Secondly, if you do decide to have this beard and are able to sport this look, you need to consider the maintenance and upkeep of this commodity.

You wouldn't own a Ferrari and not take care of it, would you? Fellas a beard needs some love like a sports or luxury car needs gas. So with that being said, WASH YOUR FREAKING FACE DUDE! Imagine ladies if your man didn't wash his beard, would you seriously want to make out a dude that did not wash it? Nah, I didn't think so. Also for those of you men who have sensitive skin and will break out as soon as it gets a little thick like I used to, you'll need some face wash.

And lastly, when it comes to the male grooming of the hair on your face, invest in a beard comb to keep it straight and beard oil. It's still hair guys, so you need it kept up-make it neat and shiny. For the love of God, don't let that facial moss turn into looking like a beaver head is stuck in your mouth with the rest of the beaver air drying after you have run over it in a once-over with a hairdryer — it's just no bueno.


Having said all of this, it's really up to you as to what you do for "No Shave November." However, if you're thinking about looking more attractive and making a change, a beard might not be a bad idea. Also, it's the holiday season now, so if you're wanting a cuddle buddy, it's not a bad option to explore. Remember, you don't have to look like Gandalf to have a beard and create a little magic in your social or love life.


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