If you haven't seen 'Crazy Rich Asians' please drag your ass to the movie theater and do so. My first thoughts when I saw the trailer were "Oh god, the stereotypes, the horrid Hollywood Asian humor, please let it end" but NOOOO, it was so much better than I expected it to be.
'Crazy Rich Asians' is about an Asian American NYU Economic Professor flying to Singapore to meet her super hot boyfriend's family, who are high society socialites that are crazy rich, hence the name of the movie.
Entertaining yet educational (in some way), the movie perfectly (in my opinion) captures the struggle of being Asian American; you're not "Asian" because of where you were raised and not "American" because of how you look. It's a hard life we have. However, what I really appreciate most about the movie is how they portrayed Asian mothers.
I'm trying really hard not to give away any spoilers but I'm the worst when it comes to keeping secrets so I'll try my best.
Asian mothers will do anything to give their children the best but I swear if they could sell a limb, they would; if it meant giving their child a brighter future, they will do it. This really hit close to home for me because I know my mother to be the most hardworking woman in my life.
I grew up in a studio in the middle of Bangkok, Thailand. Although we lived in a small space, it never felt like I had less than anyone else at school. My mom made sure I had the best toys, the best clothes and some time in the 90s I had a freakin computer. I grew up with plenty. I didn't know how hard she worked until now when I've been rewriting her resume.
My mom has been unemployed for a solid few ten-ish years and this was due to the fact that my family decided to start their own business but also both my brother and I needed supervision at home. We were wild children LOL. During her years of being a housewife, she made sure we were well fed and had a clean living space, and while doing all of that she would pick me up and drop me off to all my fencing classes that were every day after school and seldom on the weekends. Her life revolved around the family.
Before unemployment, my mom was a true hustler, worked any job she could find and when we moved to America, she double shifted as a waitress in various restaurants. I do the same now so I know how hard it is. Even though she got off from work at 2 am almost every day, she still made sure I made it on time to school.
So many of my emotional strings were pulled watching this movie but one specific point in the movie that really got to me was the moment Rachel saw her mom in her time of turmoil. Her mom is her best friend and so is mine. I am a sucker when it comes to seeing my mom during stressful times. That woman makes me cry!
Rachel's mother, at the beginning of the movie, explained to Rachel how she wasn't full Chinese and so many times in my life my mom had done the same. Being a mom of an Asian American girl is hard -- you're instilling traditions and culture but at the same time encouraging them to break those very same traditions and shatter stereotypes. As a mom, you'll accept them as they are because they are your children.
Referring to Nick Young's mother, Eleanor, the matriarch of the Young family, although she may seem like the bad person, at the end of the day she is just trying to look out for her son and her family name (which is a huge deal in Asia, lame but true).
All mothers are great mothers, not only the Asian ones. I only talk about my mom in this instance because of how the Asian mother is portrayed in this movie, which is quite accurate.
All in all, it was a great movie. It really had nothing to do about race and it's just another love story on the big screen. This movie is groundbreaking because of the full-blown Asian cast with a great storyline. I would love to see more of the Asian community on the big screen in all categories and not just in the stereotypical action genre.