Courtship: An Old Idea Revived

Dating can be a challenge these days. Especially with multiple media outlets portraying things that we should only focus on after marriage. Magazines, television shows, movies, and music all play a major role in displaying what the world’s version of dating is. However, we can change the “normal” route for dating couples.

In a book called “The Mingling of Souls” by Matt Chandler, it says, “When we commit to a spouse for life, we are agreeing to enter a sacred union between two sinners and Jesus, and when you’ve got two sinners walking together over the years, you will see just how sinful he or she—and you—can be.” Dating should be an opportunity to get to know one another and work out differences. NOT to change the differences, but learning to love them for who they are, no matter their past, or present. If the two are compatible, the next step is courtship, which should be clearly set between both people. This is the time to be able to grow deeper with each other and have the goal of the future set on marriage.

Courtship is so important because it's saying that you are committed to that person. However, this idea easily gets tricked. Many instances happen where the couple gets caught up. They know they are going to get married, or they are engaged to get married so they think it's okay to have sex before the big day. Not only can that destroy the end goal, it breaks the boundaries and awakens love too early.

"Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body.” 1 Corinthians 6:18

Here is the best part of all. God is a God of forgiveness and love. We are covered from our sins by his grace. This means that whatever we have done that has not been done to glorify God, we can start fresh. We can break those chains and start over in our relationships. Do you feel that you are in a toxic relationship? Are you not growing towards the possibility of marriage with your partner? Maybe it's time to realize that the relationship you are in is not good for you. Ask God for guidance before anyone else. It’s never too late to draw near to God and change things.

But how do we change things? First, you have to identify what you and your partner are worshipping above God. He should be at the center of the relationship. There are so many things that we can worship above God, which is just the reality of our sin.

"Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take.” Proverbs 3:6

Prayer is the most powerful tool in any situation or trial. God wants to hear you. He wants that relationship with you. Let Him take over and follow His perfect path for your life. He should be our main focus our entire life. Above any relationship, friends, dating or marriage partners. Pray that God would reveal that to you today.