Before You Rush Into Rush Week, Think About If You're Ready To Join A Sorority

Before You Rush Into Rush Week, Think About If You're Ready To Join A Sorority

Physically, it asks a lot of you. Almost every day of the weekend for two weeks, you're scheduled for 12 hours to go to various houses and events... social "parties," as they call it.


Three weeks ago, if someone had warned me just how emotionally distressing a rush for a sorority would be, I would have laughed in their faces. I mean, I've seen all of the sorority movies or TV shows featuring different mock chapters. It's conceptually so simple: talk to some girls, go to some houses, and then become a sister.

If you are, eventually, going to decide to rush, heed the warning I should have paid attention to: Rushing is a super demanding process.

Physically, it asks a lot of you. Almost every day of the weekend for two weeks, you're scheduled for 12 hours to go to various houses and events... social "parties," as they call it. Ranging in duration from 25 minutes to an hour, these meetings are pretty much interviews disguised as mingling (though anyone could figure that out). The girls were always super nice, but after walking around from winter's dusk to dawn in high heels, things get to be redundant and tiring. Most of your time is dedicated to, during these weeks, prepping for rush, actually rushing, and catching up on sleep (literally, one day I fell asleep at 8 p.m. and didn't wake up until 1 p.m. the next day.)

But these are all minor inconveniences. What isn't, however, is what rushing demands emotionally.

People don't like to advertise this part, perhaps because it brings to question if it is too demanding, or just any form of relative 'slander' against the Greek life community is never wanted. It is, however, something that needs to be talked about, mainly for people like myself.

When you're struggling with mental health problems, a lot of things that may seem simple to others could be detrimental to you.

Here is the secret that no one seems to want to tell you: You need to be in a good mental mindset to be able to rush.

It's something I wish, more than anything, that someone told me. Sure, I got into a sorority that I love. But I was one of the lucky ones. And even then, it was still a hard process for me.

The thing is, it isn't easy to be constantly rejected by numerous organizations of girls like you. It never is. Even if you don't get rejected from any sororities, it's still a daunting task that could be entirely overwhelming.

I don't know how many mental breakdowns I have witnessed during this rush process. And sure, it's easy to write off as "emotional sorority girls" (if sexism is the way you're choosing to go today), but the entire process epitomizes the societal pressure to belong and fit in. If you don't look like the rest of the girls, you're basically being stranded for dead as soon as that house's front door opens and the chanting begins. Constantly, I found myself reevaluating my looks, or the way I talk or dress, merely in the question of, "Why didn't they like me back?"

Here's another truth that people probably tell you but is hard to believe: you're OK.

It's a hard thing to constantly remind yourself, let alone believe, but these kinds of things do not judge your value or worth. Only you can do that. If you don't get into your favorite sorority or any sorority, you are not any less than. Sometimes, things may not work out the way you want them to. But you are still you, and that you is beautiful and powerful.

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7 Reasons You Should Order A Vodka/Water/Lime When You're Out

There’s a reason the Vodka/Water/Lime is the number one drink at The Strip every weekend.

We’ve all been through it. Whether it was sometime in high school, out freshman year of college or the day we turned 21, at some point you have or will tried to order a drink while you’re out on the town. I’m here to end all the experimentation, and give you a go-to drink that is sweeping across college campuses everywhere, the Vodka-Water-Lime, and the reasons why, are clear to see.

1. It will keep you hydrated

It may seem trivial but hydration is key if you’re planning on drinking any amount any time, or so I have been told. But let’s face it, biology grants us the ability to chug concoctions called 4-Lokos with ease while drinking the recommended amount of water per day almost impossible. The drink that solves both issues—Vodka-Water-Lime.

2. It doesn't taste that bad

I’ll admit I was a little skeptical at first, but this drink isn’t that bad to swallow, especially when you think about some of the other things you could be drinking. There’s a reason why the only way people can drink tequila is in shot from or in a lime slushy. As the old saying goes: if you drink enough everything just tastes like water, and this one already has water in it!

3. It gets you drunk

That’s right. It does the job. Isn’t that really all we want in a drink anyway, everything else is just trivial.

4. It establishes immediate common-ground

What is that girl next to you at the bar about to order? You guessed it. Now imagine that you are about to order the same thing, she is practically begging to dance on you at this point, it’s that easy.

5. Easy, Quick, Universal

There are just three simple ingredients, and the amounts of which are subject to your personal preference and tolerance levels. It doesn’t require the aid of Chet the self-proclaimed mixologist to make—it’s so easy a baby could do it! And it’s known virtually everywhere, if you’re ever in a place that doesn’t have either vodka, water, or limes, you’re probably there against your will anyway.

6. Health Benefits

Since most people don’t drink liquor straight, the use of a chaser or mixer is required, but we all know the problems that causes. Sugar and alcohol don’t mix well, not to mention the calories in soda. Vodka-Water-Lime has not calories and no sugar added. On top of that, the presence of water and lack of soda is almost a guarantee that you won’t be hungover the next day.

7. It's shameless

With all of the numerous benefits, it’s impossible to give someone a hard time for ordering this, yet it happens. Becky’s friends may tell her that she looks great and shouldn’t be concerned about her calories. WELL MAYBE BECKY JUST LIKES THE TASTE. Still, Bradley may get bold and order one out with the boys, but since there’s nothing to crack open, he may be the butt of their jokes, but Bradley knows that he made the right choice.

NOTE: limes can be substituted for other in-season citrus fruits.

There’s a reason the Vodka-Water-Lime is the number one drink at The Strip every week. The facts are there; it’s not fake news. Vodka-Water-Lime should be your new drink. It’s not just something you adopt in college or for a few nights out, it’s a lifestyle. The Vodka-Water-Lime is classy and sophisticated, it is a drink that you can order somewhere fancy like a restaurant or a Carnival cruise ship, or even on your wedding night.

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5 Huge Ways Greek Life Has Changed My Life For The Better

Greek life is about so much more than the stereotypes.


When I was looking at colleges, I wanted to go somewhere that has a very big Greek life community. I always knew that I wanted to rush and be apart of a sorority at whatever school I decided to go to. So when I decided to come to the University of Kentucky, this idea was a no brainer. I was that girl who looked up all of the sororities UK had and what each of them did for philanthropy events on and around campus. But, I never realized how much it would change my life. Here are five reasons why Greek life at the University of Kentucky has impacted me in ways I never knew it would.

1. Lifelong friends from my chapter and from others

I know, super cliché and typical of a sorority girl to say but when I say this, I'm serious. Being involved in greek life here has really helped me make friends I never expected. My Gamma Chi group (group I went through recruitment with) was my "first" group of friends here at UK and really showed me how to be a good friend and how to balance social life and academics. Even though most of us joined different chapters in the end, we're all still pretty good friends. My 2 best friends actually came from my Gamma Chi group so thank you, Gamma Chi Group 4 for Ashlynn and Maddie. Once I was actually in my chapter and ran home on bid day, I instantly connected with my new sisters. Being welcomed and accepted in a sorority of 200+ girls is honestly the best feeling. I met girls on bid day that I had no idea would even still be my friends to this day.

2. Connections and involvement in the campus community

After joining my chapter and realizing that this was actually something I was really passionate about and really enjoyed, I decided to apply for some leadership opportunities. I applied to be on Junior Panhellenic which was advertised in one of my new member meetings as a way to meet girls from different chapters and gain leadership experience. As a new member, that sounded great to me, so I applied, not expecting much. When I got an interview and was selected as a representative from my chapter, I was ecstatic.

Being involved and meeting new people in the Panhellenic community has honestly been a highlight of my freshman year so far. After getting a little taste of leadership, I decided that I wanted to run for an assistant position to a member of the executive council in my sorority and was selected as an Academic Excellence Assistant. Long story short, even if you don't think you have leadership qualities, being introduced and encouraged to be a leader, really makes all the difference.

3. Philanthropy

Yeah, it sounds obvious, philanthropy is a huge part of greek life but I never realized how big of a deal it was. My chapter's philanthropy event was super fun this past semester. I liked connecting with girls in my chapter that I didn't know very well and taking cute pictures and raising money for our philanthropy. I've also been apart of a few philanthropy events for other chapters here at UK like Bring It On which is a cheerleading competition and Greek Sing which is one of the biggest dancing philanthropy events here and have had a really good time and it's always so exciting to hear much money was raised for a certain chapter's philanthropy and how you can help people who aren't as fortunate as you are is so humbling, especially when it's doing something you enjoy doing.

4. Growth and accountability

This is something that I was really looking for in a sorority. I wanted to find a place with women who held me accountable and motivated me to be a better me for myself, not for others or for my parents or for anything except self-satisfaction. And that's what I found. There is no doubt that college is hard. It's extremely difficult and sometimes you feel like you're drowning but being around uplifting and inspiring women with amazing qualities and talents and things that are so unique that make them special, you want to find what about you makes you unique and talented. It really drives you to be a better person.

5. Being a part of something bigger than myself

I promise this is the last cliché I'll say is true (for today). Being a part of Greek life here has really made me realize what community and family is. When something goes so horribly wrong, we all band together or even when something goes great, we all band together. This community and sense of belonging are truly unlike anything else and I wouldn't trade this for the world. Being in Greek life can sometimes get difficult. People think you "pay for your friends" or you "party all the time" or you're an "airhead" or you're "fake" but that is so untrue. My sorority and Greek life as a whole have introduced me to some of the most genuine, level headed and intelligent people I have ever met. This experience is truly once in a lifetime.

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