Before You Rush, Question If You're Ready To Join A Sorority

Before You Rush Into Rush Week, Think About If You're Ready To Join A Sorority

Physically, it asks a lot of you. Almost every day of the weekend for two weeks, you're scheduled for 12 hours to go to various houses and events... social "parties," as they call it.


Three weeks ago, if someone had warned me just how emotionally distressing a rush for a sorority would be, I would have laughed in their faces. I mean, I've seen all of the sorority movies or TV shows featuring different mock chapters. It's conceptually so simple: talk to some girls, go to some houses, and then become a sister.

If you are, eventually, going to decide to rush, heed the warning I should have paid attention to: Rushing is a super demanding process.

Physically, it asks a lot of you. Almost every day of the weekend for two weeks, you're scheduled for 12 hours to go to various houses and events... social "parties," as they call it. Ranging in duration from 25 minutes to an hour, these meetings are pretty much interviews disguised as mingling (though anyone could figure that out). The girls were always super nice, but after walking around from winter's dusk to dawn in high heels, things get to be redundant and tiring. Most of your time is dedicated to, during these weeks, prepping for rush, actually rushing, and catching up on sleep (literally, one day I fell asleep at 8 p.m. and didn't wake up until 1 p.m. the next day.)

But these are all minor inconveniences. What isn't, however, is what rushing demands emotionally.

People don't like to advertise this part, perhaps because it brings to question if it is too demanding, or just any form of relative 'slander' against the Greek life community is never wanted. It is, however, something that needs to be talked about, mainly for people like myself.

When you're struggling with mental health problems, a lot of things that may seem simple to others could be detrimental to you.

Here is the secret that no one seems to want to tell you: You need to be in a good mental mindset to be able to rush.

It's something I wish, more than anything, that someone told me. Sure, I got into a sorority that I love. But I was one of the lucky ones. And even then, it was still a hard process for me.

The thing is, it isn't easy to be constantly rejected by numerous organizations of girls like you. It never is. Even if you don't get rejected from any sororities, it's still a daunting task that could be entirely overwhelming.

I don't know how many mental breakdowns I have witnessed during this rush process. And sure, it's easy to write off as "emotional sorority girls" (if sexism is the way you're choosing to go today), but the entire process epitomizes the societal pressure to belong and fit in. If you don't look like the rest of the girls, you're basically being stranded for dead as soon as that house's front door opens and the chanting begins. Constantly, I found myself reevaluating my looks, or the way I talk or dress, merely in the question of, "Why didn't they like me back?"

Here's another truth that people probably tell you but is hard to believe: you're OK.

It's a hard thing to constantly remind yourself, let alone believe, but these kinds of things do not judge your value or worth. Only you can do that. If you don't get into your favorite sorority or any sorority, you are not any less than. Sometimes, things may not work out the way you want them to. But you are still you, and that you is beautiful and powerful.

Popular Right Now

7 Reasons You Should Order A Vodka/Water/Lime When You're Out

There’s a reason the Vodka/Water/Lime is the number one drink at The Strip every weekend.

We’ve all been through it. Whether it was sometime in high school, out freshman year of college or the day we turned 21, at some point you have or will tried to order a drink while you’re out on the town. I’m here to end all the experimentation, and give you a go-to drink that is sweeping across college campuses everywhere, the Vodka-Water-Lime, and the reasons why, are clear to see.

1. It will keep you hydrated

It may seem trivial but hydration is key if you’re planning on drinking any amount any time, or so I have been told. But let’s face it, biology grants us the ability to chug concoctions called 4-Lokos with ease while drinking the recommended amount of water per day almost impossible. The drink that solves both issues—Vodka-Water-Lime.

2. It doesn't taste that bad

I’ll admit I was a little skeptical at first, but this drink isn’t that bad to swallow, especially when you think about some of the other things you could be drinking. There’s a reason why the only way people can drink tequila is in shot from or in a lime slushy. As the old saying goes: if you drink enough everything just tastes like water, and this one already has water in it!

3. It gets you drunk

That’s right. It does the job. Isn’t that really all we want in a drink anyway, everything else is just trivial.

4. It establishes immediate common-ground

What is that girl next to you at the bar about to order? You guessed it. Now imagine that you are about to order the same thing, she is practically begging to dance on you at this point, it’s that easy.

5. Easy, Quick, Universal

There are just three simple ingredients, and the amounts of which are subject to your personal preference and tolerance levels. It doesn’t require the aid of Chet the self-proclaimed mixologist to make—it’s so easy a baby could do it! And it’s known virtually everywhere, if you’re ever in a place that doesn’t have either vodka, water, or limes, you’re probably there against your will anyway.

6. Health Benefits

Since most people don’t drink liquor straight, the use of a chaser or mixer is required, but we all know the problems that causes. Sugar and alcohol don’t mix well, not to mention the calories in soda. Vodka-Water-Lime has not calories and no sugar added. On top of that, the presence of water and lack of soda is almost a guarantee that you won’t be hungover the next day.

7. It's shameless

With all of the numerous benefits, it’s impossible to give someone a hard time for ordering this, yet it happens. Becky’s friends may tell her that she looks great and shouldn’t be concerned about her calories. WELL MAYBE BECKY JUST LIKES THE TASTE. Still, Bradley may get bold and order one out with the boys, but since there’s nothing to crack open, he may be the butt of their jokes, but Bradley knows that he made the right choice.

NOTE: limes can be substituted for other in-season citrus fruits.

There’s a reason the Vodka-Water-Lime is the number one drink at The Strip every week. The facts are there; it’s not fake news. Vodka-Water-Lime should be your new drink. It’s not just something you adopt in college or for a few nights out, it’s a lifestyle. The Vodka-Water-Lime is classy and sophisticated, it is a drink that you can order somewhere fancy like a restaurant or a Carnival cruise ship, or even on your wedding night.

Cover Image Credit: Pexels

Related Content

Connect with a generation
of new voices.

We are students, thinkers, influencers, and communities sharing our ideas with the world. Join our platform to create and discover content that actually matters to you.

Learn more Start Creating

My School Does Sorority Recruitment Second Semester And It Makes Rush So Much Better

The perks behind having to wait.


When choosing a place to attend college, there are lots of things you look at. These things also depend on what type of person you are. I had somewhat known I wanted to rush and was really upset when I learned that Miami University doesn't rush until second semester. I knew I was going far away from home where I wouldn't know anyone. The thought of having to make friends all on my own during first semester without the help of a sorority was scary to me. Looking back, I wish someone would've told me how it would come to make a world of difference.

My school has a large Greek community. When I first got here, it seemed like that was all any freshman girls would ever talk about. "Are you thinking of rushing?" or, "Do you know any older girls in a sorority?" After a while, it all subsided, but the first few weeks felt like I would never make any friends. Luckily, not being in a sorority yet really forced me to step out of my comfort zone, and I wasn't the only one doing this.

The beginning of freshman year is actually the easiest time to make friends in my opinion. No one really knows anyone, so most people are pretty nice and open. This is the time that I found some of my best friends, people I can honestly see standing up in my wedding years from now. I met five girls that first semester of freshman year who I still talk to every single day almost three years later.

Not having rush or being in a sorority as a safety net was actually a blessing in disguise. I found these amazing girls to hang out with, which made the transition into school and being far away so much easier than I expected. When first semester came to a close, we all went through rush, and the even better part was that we all ended up in different sororities. At first, this too seemed scary because now we were used to the comfort of having each other. We quickly realized that this made our friendship even stronger and honestly way more fun.

We got to attend each other's parties and meet each other's new friends. It suddenly felt like there was constantly something to do, whether that was hanging with our new sorority sisters or our "freshman year friends," as we like to call each other. It's been refreshing to have a little bit of both worlds. It has provided me so much peace knowing that I always have someone to fall on if there's a little bit of drama in one group or the other.

Now at the end of my junior year, I look back on all the memories we've made together, cherishing the fact that we've all still kept in touch. We don't see each other as often now that we're more involved in our separate sororities, but it's OK because when we do get together, it is constant laughs.

I'm not sure if I would be as close to my "freshman year friends" or even have them if my school had done rush first semester of freshman year. I'm sure you can make just as good of friends if you rush right away, but if your sorority isn't for you, then it might be a bit harder. Regardless, I am so thankful to have found the girls that I did. I encourage any shy and nervous freshman girl to step out of her comfort'll make all the difference.

Related Content

Facebook Comments