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I'm A Southern College Girl, I'm Not A Feminist, And I Want The Wall — Please Respect That

I would love to hear your opinions and have a discussion like adults.


Growing up a conservative girl in an increasingly liberal world isn't exactly always a walk in the park.

When I came to college, I expected pretty much everyone to be like me. I use my manners, I appreciate guns, and I believe that guys should still open truck doors and wear their cowboy boots with their Wranglers. Ya know, Southern things.

Until I came to a large university, I never imagined that I would have friends that would promote LGBTQ or go to a women's march, but I do. I never thought I would have a professor to tell me if I was going to vote, I better vote Democrat, but I did. I never thought that I would have to bite my tongue as often as I do to keep from pissing people off or starting a debate, but I do.

And then I heard someone say that they weren't going to vaccinate their kids.

Excuse me?

Did I hear that right?

"Why wouldn't you vaccinate your kids?" I blurted out and I immediately regretted it. "Vaccines protect your child. They protect future generations and why wouldn't you want to keep your child from getting a PREVENTABLE disease. What if your child goes to school sick and gives a disease to a transplant patient with a weakened immune system because you chose not to vaccinate them? Have you ever had measles?" I asked.

They answered with a quick "no" and I said, "Yeah, that's because your parents vaccinated you," and then I walked away because I could feel myself getting heated.

And then I heard someone say that the wall was stupid and that we are not animals in a zoo.

"Okay first, I think you need to look at this from a different perspective," I responded. "You're right, we aren't animals in a zoo because zoos are meant to keep animals in, but this wall is meant to keep others out. I respect your opinion and because you shared yours, I'm going to share mine as well with the hope that you will keep an open mind. There are both positives and negatives to literally having a wall bordering our country, but I think it is best to focus on giving others the opportunity to gain their citizenship in the U.S. without having to jump through hoops."

"Why don't we focus on simplifying the citizenship process and encouraging others to come here to work and live the American dream rather than living off the government? If you do things the right way, I have no problem with you entering my country. It's the people that don't do it right that I have a problem with."

Immediately this person raised their voice at me and blurted out how their family were immigrants and how I was stupid for even thinking a wall could work and then I walked away because I could feel myself getting heated-again.


As long as you respect me, I am going to respect you. I would love to hear your opinions and have a discussion like adults. I want to understand your thought process and I want you to be yourself around me and I challenge you to try to get me to change my mind, but I also want you to understand that I have an opinion as well.

I am a conservative female in a liberal world. I am a millennial that does not encourage feminism or LGBTQ. I am a 21-year-old woman with my concealed carry permit. I will vaccinate my children and I want Trump to build the wall.

Respect my opinions as much as I respect yours.

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To The Nursing Major During The Hardest Week Of The Year

I know that no grade can possibly prove what kind of nurse you will be. I know that no assignment will showcase your compassion. I know that no amount of bad days will ever take away the empathy inside of you that makes you an exceptional nurse.


To the Nursing Major During Finals Week,

I know you're tired, I know you're stressed, and I know you feel like you can't go on. I know that no part of this seems fair, and I know you are by far the biggest critic of yourself. I know that you've thought about giving up. I know that you feel alone. I know that you wonder why in the world you chose one of the hardest college majors, especially on the days it leaves you feeling empty and broken.

But, I also know that you love nursing school. I know your eyes light up when you're with patients, and I know your heart races when you think of graduation. I know that you love the people that you're in school with, like truly, we're-all-in-this-together, family type of love. I know that you look at the older nurses with admiration, just hoping and praying that you will remain that calm and composed one day. I know that every time someone asks what your college major is that you beam with pride as you tell them it's nursing, and I know that your heart skips a beat knowing that you are making a difference.

I know that no grade can possibly prove what kind of nurse you will be. I know that no assignment will showcase your compassion. I know that a failed class doesn't mean you aren't meant to do this. I know that a 'C' on a test that you studied so. dang. hard. for does not mean that you are not intelligent. I know that no amount of bad days will ever take away the empathy inside of you that makes you an exceptional nurse.

I know that nursing school isn't fair. I know you wish it was easier. I know that some days you can't remember why it's worth it. I know you want to go out and have fun. I know that staying up until 1:00 A.M. doing paperwork, only to have to be up and at clinicals before the sun rises is not fair. I know that studying this much only to be failing the class is hard. I know you wish your friends and family understood. I know that this is difficult.

Nursing school isn't glamorous, with the white lab coat and stethoscope. Nursing school is crying, randomly and a lot. Nursing school is exhaustion. Nursing school is drinking so much coffee that you lose track. Nursing school is being so stressed that you can't eat. Nursing school is four cumulative finals jam-packed into one week that is enough to make you go insane.

But, nursing school is worth it. I know that when these assignments are turned in and finals are over, that you will find the motivation to keep going. I know that one good day of making a difference in a patient's life is worth a hundred bad days of nursing school.

Keep hanging in there, nursing majors. It'll all be worth it— this I know, for sure.

So, if you have a nursing major in your life, hug them and tell them that you're proud of them. Nursing school is tough, nursing school is scary, and nursing school is overwhelming; but a simple 'thank-you' from someone we love is all we need to keep going.


A third-year nursing student who knows

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Why The Idea Of 'No Politics At The Dinner Table' Takes Place And Why We Should Avoid It

When did having a dialogue become so rare?


Why has the art of civilized debate and conversation become unheard of in daily life? Why is it considered impolite to talk politics with coworkers and friends? Expressing ideas and discussing different opinions should not be looked down upon.

I have a few ideas as to why this is our current societal norm.

1. Politics is personal.

Your politics can reveal a lot about who you are. Expressing these (sometimes controversial) opinions may put you in a vulnerable position. It is possible for people to draw unfair conclusions from one viewpoint you hold. This fosters a fear of judgment when it comes to our political beliefs.

Regardless of where you lie on the spectrum of political belief, there is a world of assumption that goes along with any opinion. People have a growing concern that others won't hear them out based on one belief.

As if a single opinion could tell you all that you should know about someone. Do your political opinions reflect who you are as a person? Does it reflect your hobbies? Your past?

The question becomes "are your politics indicative enough of who you are as a person to warrant a complete judgment?"

Personally, I do not think you would even scratch the surface of who I am just from knowing my political identification.

2. People are impolite.

The politics themselves are not impolite. But many people who wield passionate, political opinion act impolite and rude when it comes to those who disagree.

The avoidance of this topic among friends, family, acquaintances and just in general, is out of a desire to 'keep the peace'. Many people have friends who disagree with them and even family who disagree with them. We justify our silence out of a desire to avoid unpleasant situations.

I will offer this: It might even be better to argue with the ones you love and care about, because they already know who you are aside from your politics, and they love you unconditionally (or at least I would hope).

We should be having these unpleasant conversations. And you know what? They don't even need to be unpleasant! Shouldn't we be capable of debating in a civilized manner? Can't we find common ground?

I attribute the loss of political conversation in daily life to these factors. 'Keeping the peace' isn't an excuse. We should be discussing our opinions constantly and we should be discussing them with those who think differently.

Instead of discouraging political conversation, we should be encouraging kindness and understanding. That's how we will avoid the unpleasantness that these conversations sometimes bring.

By avoiding them altogether, we are doing our youth a disservice because they are not being exposed to government, law, and politics, and they are not learning to deal with people and ideas that they don't agree with.

Next Thanksgiving, talk politics at the table.

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