I'm A Southern College Girl, I'm Not A Feminist, And I Want The Wall— Please Respect That

I'm A Southern College Girl, I'm Not A Feminist, And I Want The Wall— Please Respect That

I would love to hear your opinions and have a discussion like adults.


Growing up a Conservative girl in an increasingly Liberal world isn't exactly always a walk in the park. When I came to college, I expected pretty much everyone to be like me. I use my manners, I appreciate guns, and I believe that guys should still open truck doors and wear their cowboy boots with their Wranglers. Ya know, Southern things.

Until I came to a large university, I never imagined that I would have friends that would promote LGBTQ or go to a women's march, but I do. I never thought I would have a professor to tell me if I was going to vote, I better vote Democrat, but I did. I never thought that I would have to bite my tongue as often as I do to keep from pissing people off or starting a debate, but I do.

And then I heard someone say that they weren't going to vaccinate their kids.

Excuse me?

Did I hear that right?

"Why wouldn't you vaccinate your kids?", I blurted out and I immediately regretted it. "Vaccines protect your child. They protect future generations and why wouldn't you want to keep your child from getting a PREVENTABLE disease. What if your child goes to school sick and gives a disease to a transplant patient with a weakened immune system because you chose not to vaccinate them? Have you ever had measles?", I asked.

They answered with a quick "no" and I said, "yeah, that's because your parents vaccinated you", and then I walked away because I could feel myself getting heated.

And then I heard someone say that the Wall was stupid and that we are not animals in a zoo.

"Okay first, I think you need to look at this from a different perspective", I responded. "You're right, we aren't animals in a zoo because zoos are meant to keep animals in, but this wall is meant to keep others out. I respect your opinion and because you shared yours, I'm going to share mine as well with the hope that you will keep an open mind. There are both positives and negatives to literally having a wall bordering our country, but I think it is best to focus on giving others the opportunity to gain their citizenship in the US without having to jump through hoops."

"Why don't we focus on simplifying the citizenship process and encouraging others to come here to work and live the American dream rather than living off the government? If you do things the right way, I have no problem with you entering my country. It's the people that don't do it right that I have a problem with."

Immediately this person raised their voice at me and blurted out how their family were immigrants and how I was stupid for even thinking a wall could work and then I walked away because I could feel myself getting heated-again.


As long as you respect me, I am going to respect you. I would love to hear your opinions and have a discussion like adults. I want to understand your thought process and I want you to be yourself around me and I challenge you to try to get me to change my mind, but I also want you to understand that I have an opinion as well.

I am a Conservative female in a Liberal world. I am a millennial that does not encourage feminism or LGBTQ. I am a 21-year-old woman with my Concealed Carry Permit. I will vaccinate my children and I want Trump to build the wall. Respect my opinions as much as I respect yours.

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I'm The College Girl Who Likes Trump And Hates Feminism, And Living On A Liberal Campus Is Terrifying

I will not sugarcoat it: I don't feel safe on my own campus.


I will get right to the point: being a conservative on a liberal college campus in 2019 downright terrifying.

At my university, I'm sure about 90% of the population, both students and faculty, are liberals. They are very outspoken, never afraid to express their views, opinions, and feelings in several ways. There are pride events for the LGBT community, a huge celebration for MLK day, and tons of events for feminists.

Then there's the minority: the conservatives. The realists. The "racists," "bigots," and "the heartless." I am everything the liberals absolutely despise.

I like Donald Trump because he puts America first and is actually getting things done. He wants to make our country a better place.

I want a wall to keep illegals out because I want my loved ones and me to be safe from any possible danger. As for those who are genuinely coming here for a better life, JUST FILL OUT THE PAPERWORK INSTEAD OF SNEAKING AROUND.

I'm pro-life; killing an infant at nine months is inhumane to me (and yet liberals say it's inhumane to keep illegals out…but let's not get into that right now).

I hate feminism. Why? Because modern feminism isn't even feminism. Slandering the male species and wanting to take down the patriarchy is just ridiculous.

I hate the media. I don't trust anyone in it. I think they are all biased, pathological liars. They purposely make our president look like the devil himself, leaving out anything good he does.

I will not sugarcoat it: I don't feel safe on my own campus.

I mostly keep my opinions to myself out of fear. When I end up getting one of my "twisted" and "uneducated" thoughts slip out, I cringe, waiting for the slap in the face.

Don't get me wrong; not everyone at my university is hostile to those who think differently than they do.

I've shared my opinions with some liberal students and professors before, and there was no bloodshed. Sure, we may not see eye to eye, but that's okay. That just means we can understand each other a little better.

Even though the handful of students and faculty I've talked to were able to swallow my opinions, I'm still overwhelmed by the thousands of other people on campus who may not be as kind and attentive. But you can't please everybody. That's just life.

Your school is supposed to be a safe environment where you can be yourself. Just because I think differently than the vast majority of my peers doesn't mean I deserve to be a target for ridicule. No one conservative does. Scratch that, NO ONE DOES.

I don't think I'll ever feel safe.

Not just on campus, but anywhere. This world is a cruel place. All I can do is stand firm in my beliefs and try to tolerate and listen to the clashing opinions of others. What else can I do?

All I can say is... listen. Be nice. Be respectful of other's opinions, even if you strongly disagree. Besides, we all do have one thing in common: the desire for a better country.

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Dear Young Voices Of America, Stand Up, Speak Up, And Do Something

Our time is now.


Dear young voices of America, I think we can both agree that we are sick of being told we are America's future while simultaneously being told our opinions don't matter. Now I personally do not listen to the people that tell me I'm better seen than heard; however, I know there are people that are a little timider when it comes to raising their voices. I am here to encourage you to be loud and speak up on topics that matter to you. There is no better time than the present to make your voice heard. Whether you are advocating for change in your school or the government, your opinion matters and is relevant.

We are the future of our country. How are we supposed to evoke change and reform if we can't have our voices heard? I call bullshit and I think it's time to take action. Even if you're the first or only person to advocate for your cause, be that person. Don't be afraid of anyone that tries to stand in your way. The only person that can stop you from speaking up for yourself and your cause is you. No matter how many nos you have to hear to get a yes or how many doors you have to knock on to get someone to open up, never give up. Never give up on your cause, never give up on yourself or the people you're representing, just don't do it. There is someone out there that supports you. Maybe they're just too shy to raise their voice too. Be encouraging and be supportive and get people to take a stand with you.

It is never too early or too late to start thinking about your future or to take action. But don't hesitate to say something. The sooner you start speaking up, the sooner you have people joining you and helping you, and the sooner you start to see and experience change. So get up, make that sign, write that letter, make that phone call, take part in that march, give that speech. Do whatever you feel fit to get your point across. Shout it from the rooftops, write it on your profile, send it in a letter, ignore everyone that tries to tell you to give up. Maybe they don't understand now, maybe they don't want to listen, maybe they're afraid to listen, but the more you talk about it and help them understand what exactly you are trying to get across, they will join you.

Even when it feels like you have nobody on your side but yourself, I am on your side. I will cheer you on, I will march with you hand in hand, I will write letters and make phone calls and help you find your voice. My life changed when I found my voice and yours will too.

So dear young voices of America, the time is now. Your time is now. Don't be afraid of the obstacles that you may have to face. Someone is out there waiting for you, waiting to grab your hand and march on with you. As Tarana Burke once said "Get up. Stand up. Speak up. Do something."

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