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I Support Late-Term Abortions, That Doesn't Make Me A Baby-Hating Monster

A late-term abortion is a horrible, devastating and heartbreaking choice... but one I'm glad women have.

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If you think that late-term abortions are for mothers who get to 8.5 months and then randomly decide they no longer want to have a baby, then don't even read this article. This article is not to argue with ignorance. Read some unbiased articles, actually, think about it for two seconds and then realize that women who are due any day now aren't just going to terminate their pregnancies because it is "legal" now. (It is not.)

I've seen so many posts and comments and arguments, the crux of them being, "I can't imagine aborting my child after 24 weeks."

Well, guess what... The women this law will apply to probably can't imagine it, either.

Nearly all abortions occur in the first trimester of pregnancy (approximately 91.1%). This tells us what is (more than likely) a pretty obvious fact: That beyond the first trimester, most women are planning to keep their baby (or give him or her up for adoption). So you can imagine that even being presented with the option of termination would be heartbreaking.

Imagine this: You're pregnant and absolutely ecstatic to bring a child into the world. You go in for an appointment at 30 weeks. During the exam, your doctor is quiet. You are growing extremely anxious. They tell you that they have some bad news. Your daughter has a serious condition, one that will allow her to live less than a year. They can perform a c-section, she will be in the NICU for a long time, but even once you take her home, she has an extremely low chance of survival. Her life will be painful. Or, they can perform an abortion.

What do you choose? For some, they absolutely cannot fathom the idea of termination. They'd rather take a chance at life. And for some, they cannot even fathom the idea of watching their child live a painful, short life that will end in incredible heartbreak.

Both of these are traumatizing decisions. Your pregnancy and your hope for the future and your plans for the child you are so excited for have come crashing down. This is not a lightly made decision. And if you would choose to take your chances, pray for a miracle and get to hold your child in your arms, you should have every single right to.

But if you decide that the trauma of terminating your pregnancy without having to fall further in love with your child and watch him or her struggle every day and deal with the gutwrenching pain of losing them, you should have every single right to make that choice, too.

This is not cut and dry. This is something that changes from woman to woman, from family to family. But one thing stays the same: Learning that the life that you planned for your baby can no longer be as you desperately hoped is heartbreaking. It is a uniquely horrific feeling that, you're right, you can't imagine. No one can imagine it until they're living it. I write about it and I think about it and I have to assume that there is nothing in this world that can prepare you for it.

Posting and commenting that women who choose the path of late-term termination are monsters or killers or heartless is wrong.

Picture this: A pregnant woman and her husband, sitting in an exam room alone after learning devastating news about their pregnancy. They're holding one another, sobbing, thinking through their options. Trying to decide if ending their pregnancy, crushing the hopes and dreams they had for their little baby is the right choice, or continuing on and hoping for a miracle but knowing they should prepare for the heartbreak of their lives. Picture them, through tears, while holding an ultrasound photo to their chest, telling the doctor they choose to terminate. Picture them going home, sitting in the nursery they decorated, calling their parents and telling them their grandchild won't be arriving.

Are you picturing a couple of monsters? A couple of heartless killers?

Or do you see a family put into an impossible situation, trying to make an impossible decision for themselves and their unborn child? A family who threw a baby shower and decorated their nursery and argued over the perfect name for months. Who took progress photos of their baby bump, who talked about what sports their kid would play, who had to hear the devastating news that turned their world upside down?

I don't see a monster. I don't see a killer.

I see pain, I see hardship, I see love.

And I hope that you do, too.

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Alabama’s New Abortion Law Is All About The State Controlling Women's Body

Lately there has been a lot of controversy about abortion and birth control laws. Here's why they're the wrong move.

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I'm going to say this once and I'm going to say it loud.

NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO CONTROL ANOTHER PERSON'S BODY.

No MAN can tell us, women, how to live.

Recent laws have been presented saying that abortion after six weeks is illegal--right around when doctors would be able to detect a heartbeat.

An article with all the details and all the facts will be presented at a separate time or the information can be googled. This is to let everyone know EXACTLY why this bill is not necessary.

First, one of the largest parts of this bill that irritates me is the rule over women's bodies when it was written by old white men sitting in an office staring at each other. If you don't have to deal with this problem, you don't get to decide the outcome.

The entire bill is telling women what to do with their bodies, telling us what is right and wrong. If a person has to give consent for their organs to be dissected AFTER their death, what right do they have to tell us what to do with it while we're living?

"THE LEGISLATION MAKES NO EXCEPTION FOR VICTIMS OF RAPE OR INCEST" (CBS)

Here's a story my friend sent to me that I think everyone needs to read.

"You're the parent of an 11-year-old girl, she gets her period for the first time. No big deal! She decides she wants to go to a summer camp, where she is raped by a 45-year-old maintenance man for the grounds. You never find out.

The following month she doesn't get her period, being only her 3rd-5th one since she started, you don't think much of it and your wife reassures you her cycle doesn't begin an exact month to month track until she's been menstruating for a full year. Two weeks later your wife gets concerned and brings her to the doctors. They tell you your 11-year-old daughter is 6 weeks and 1 day pregnant.

Who did this? Your daughter tells you about the rape, she's still confused about what happened. In elementary school, they haven't taught sex education and she never knew what was really going on. Just knew that it hurt.

Sure, you can obtain an abortion, she can't have a baby at 11-years-old! And she can't have a baby from her 45-year-old rapist. The doctor then informs you that due to the laws in your state, unless you've filed a police report about the rape before this appointment finding out she is pregnant, that legally the 6-week mark indicates no doctor can perform her abortion.

She's 11.

You didn't know she was raped. She didn't know what was happening. We'll leave the state.

The doctor informs you that you can't do that either. Due to this new law, any woman who leaves the state and receives an abortion is facing 10 years in prison. Anyone who facilitates this person in leaving state can be charged with conspiracy to murder. And if she gets an abortion illegally, at home or given medication to help assist the abortion process, she can face the death penalty."

Now your daughter is not only damaged emotionally and psychologically but she is forced to go through a pregnancy that her body can barely handle.

And your 11-year-old is a mother.

All because there was a belief that life is precious and a gift from God and no one thought that the separation of church and state happened for a reason.

Congratulations.

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