In life, there are few moments better than those that are filled with absolute, unequivocal happiness. For sorority women this, without a doubt, includes bid day, big/little reveal, initiation, etc. Sorority women who become fraternity sweethearts get twice the amount of these moments. We get to experience twice the amount of comradery and we are #blessed with two homes away from home.
You never really know what it’s like until you’re chosen to represent a fraternity. I myself have been a sweetheart since my freshman year, and it’s still a learning experience. People always ask if we really love the guys that much, if we’re actually their friends, are you really able to cook, or nah? A few of us decided to dig deep and reveal some of our sweetheart confessions.
1. No, I’m not the fraternity sloot.
“When I first got sweetheart and I told my mom, she said, ‘I’m happy for you, but sad at the same time, because that means you slept with all of those boys.’ That’s not true at all! They were the first group of guys I hung out with at school and they ended up being some of my best friends even still today.”
“There used to be a running joke that I was the ‘chapter girlfriend’, which I guess kind of came with the territory. I was everyone’s best friend and I was always around hanging out or bringing food or giving them advice or whatever. The title of sweetheart means different things to different people, but sleeping with all of the guys just isn’t part of the job.”
2. They act like your protective older brothers.
"I feel like I have 40 older brothers watching over me and I know they would do just about anything in the world for me, and that’s what it’s all about.”
“A great thing is the thought that I have like 50 older brothers. My boys are the sweetest, most lovable, ‘Animal House’ loving people, but also back up their girls no matter what. Sometimes I feel like the coolest cat with even five of my boys waling with me, just thinking, ‘Damn, I look like the baddest b***h.’”
3. I’m protective over them, too.
"As a sweetheart, you become protective over the guys and their letters and values. You get to share all of that with them. They become like your family, and with that comes a sense of responsibility for one another.”
“I definitely admit that I’m just as protective over them!”
“Sometimes I’ll walk past a girl and know she hurt one of my boys and I just don’t play that. These guys are your best friends, just like your girlfriends. I back them up no matter what.”
4. The sweetheart family is a real thing.
"If you become a sweetheart for a fraternity, you not only just scooped up 40 some best friends, but also got five best girl friends at the same time. Some of the girls I’m sweetheart with are my best friends and I’m ever so thankful I get to experience this with them and that the guys brought us together.”
“One of the coolest parts for me has been the friendships I’ve made with the other sweethearts. You really do form a bond with them, and they become some of your best friends. These girls become your sidekicks when you go to Little Caesar’s to get pizza for the guys’ meetings, or want to make matching letter shirts. We really are one big family.”
5. Their hearts are in their stomachs.
"They’re honestly happiest when they’re eating. Thanks to them, I have mad baking and cooking skills. I’m like their personal chef or something and I’m cool with that.”
“Being a sweetheart mostly just consists of hanging with your best friends and providing them with mounds of food.”
6. They love you no matter what.
"There have been so many times that I’ve tried to step up my game and go on Pinterest to make more than just Oreos. Pinterest makes it seem like ‘just throw this s**t in a pan and call it a day’ but it’s really Rachel Ray nonsense so mine always turns out looking like a blob. The thing about being a sweetheart is they’re a bunch of boys who love eating – they love you no matter how s****y your Pinterest inspired food actually looks. Which is great.”
“I’ve absolutely loved the fact that the guys have always trusted me enough to be their doctor, advice-giver (especially about girls), and their homework help.”
7. We make the best memories.
"Being named a sweetheart for them was one of the best moments of my college career for so many reasons. They are some of the most comical men I have ever been around. It’s been an experience that I’ve been blessed to have!”
“When I first came to school, I was pretty shy and kept to myself. Then I met this crazy, kind hearted group of guys who made me so comfortable and brought me out of my shell. Now I can look back at my college experience and say it was that much better thanks to them. From formals in Gatlinburg that I’ll never forget, to nights in their chapter room, to last second decisions to go to the lake, I’ve made some pretty unforgettable memories with these guys.”
“Thankfully I’ve known my guys for longer than most sweethearts get to, and a lot of my favorite times in my life were with them. They’ve been with me through it all and vice versa. We’ve grown up together and seen one another at our worst times, and they weren’t ever all that bad because we went through it side by side.”
