Confessions Of A Formal Recruitment Reject

Confessions Of A Formal Recruitment Reject

I did not understand why so many of my friends had such a successful experience with formal recruitment, and I didn't.
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Picture this: it's mid-January, and I am so excited to begin the spring formal recruitment process at my school since I had missed out on the experience last year. Fast forward about two grueling and emotionally exhausting weeks later, and I was left with one house, a house I had known from the beginning was not my home, for the last round. I knew I wouldn't accept a bid from that respective sorority, and I ended up dropping out from the process.

I was hurt and disappointed that the process had not worked out how I had wanted to. I did not understand why so many of my friends had such a successful experience with formal recruitment, and I didn't. I was not alone in my disappointment that morning of preference round as I watched girls crying on the phone and ultimately dropping from the process as well.

I remember them warning us after every round of cuts to be open-minded and to take into account if you wanted to just be a member of a sorority or if you wanted to be a "Panhellenic woman." I found that line complete bullshit because I was not willing to settle for a sorority where I knew I would be unhappy, and I definitely did not trust the process at that point.

Fed up, I talked to my rho-gam and asked about my options. She told me that I could either do continuous open bidding, go through recruitment with a sorority who was reestablishing on campus or wait until next fall and do informal recruitment.

None of them seemed like ideal options because the Panhellenic council had definitely left a bad taste in my mouth. I ultimately decided to give Greek life another shot and decided to rush the reestablishing chapter on campus. I again was left disappointed and hurt, as I didn't receive a bid.

I was ready to give up completely on Greek life until I got an email that the house that I had originally really liked was participating in continuous open bidding. I was very conflicted because of the fact that I did really like that sorority, but I also was definitely having a difficult time putting my pride aside after being rejected by them. I was afraid of putting myself out there to be judged and ultimately rejected like my past experiences. I ultimately decided to give it another shot and went to their cupcake decorating event they had one night during the week. I ultimately realized why I really liked the sorority in the first place, and thankfully, I finally did receive my bid.

A part of me does wish that I got to experience the excitement of bid day, but I definitely think that informal recruitment was more suited for me. Ultimately getting a bid made me question the whole process of formal recruitment. I wondered how I could have possibly slipped through the cracks if I was meant to be in my current sorority. It also made me sad to think of the number of girls who don't get a second chance like me.

If formal recruitment taught me anything, it would be the definition of perseverance. I also definitely learned not to take criticism too personally. I am excited where my journey takes me from here and the impact that I can hopefully have in formal recruitment next year to minimize those who slip through the cracks.

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20 Fun Facts To Use When Introducing Yourself

As we embark on the semester, we are put on the spot in order to share interesting details about ourselves. This article discloses possible fun facts to tell others!
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After experiencing my first week of classes, I have learned that every student needs a handy-dandy list of fun facts about themselves to tell other people. Many professors use the first couple of classes to learn about their students, so you may need to think about who you are and how you want to introduce yourself to your professor and classmates. We all have that one go-to interesting fact about ourselves, but sometimes you just have to mix it up!

1. My favorite hobby is...

What do you do in your free time? Personally, I love to stay active! I am a competitive Latin dancer and enjoy teaching and taking Zumba classes, going to the gym, and hiking.

2. I love...

Is there something, someone, or somewhere that you love? What makes your heart ache? What do you miss when it's gone? I can say that I love my friends because I feel my most confident when I'm surrounded by those who love and support me.

3. I look up to...

Is there someone you adore? Who mesmerizes you? Who do you wish to learn from? After watching "A Ballerina's Tale," I discovered Misty Copeland. In 2015 she became the first African American ballet dancer to become the Female Principal Dancer at American Ballet Theatre. Her passion, grace, and strength continuously motivate me to better myself as an athlete and an individual.

4. This art speaks to me because...

Coco Chanel said, "In order to be irreplaceable one must always be different." This encourages me to always follow my heart no matter what. I will never follow society's standards and norms because they do not define me. Chanel's saying definitely influences my character and lifestyle.

5. A funny and/or embarrassing memory of me is...

When you make others laugh they want to spend time and make memories with you! Don't be afraid to embarrass yourself. You will come off as down to earth, easy-going, and loyal.

6. My siblings or lack thereof influenced me by...

I can go on and on about my brother, who is 10 years older than I. We have opposite personalities and despite the age gap, we're quite close.

7. My pet(s) are my life because...

Only sad people don't like hearing about furry creatures, even if your pets are slimy and slithering creatures all human beings enjoy hearing pet tales!

8. I'm afraid of...

Your personality can be revealed by your likes and dislikes, including the things that you fear. I am terrified of change and the unknown, hence, the future is an anxiety-inducing topic to discuss for me.

9. I am the way I am because...

What have you gone through in life that has shaped you into who you are today? Remember to be open minded and allow yourself to open up to your peers. You may be surprised by how others respond and/or what others have endured as well.

10. The most unusual item that can be found in your dorm...

This is a fun fact about yourself that can easily liven up an awkward conversation. Think about your quirks and differences! One item I have in my dorm is my teddy bear, Peter, whom I like to joke is my boyfriend.

11. My dream job is...

In college, "What's your major?" is a widespread question. Nonetheless, skip the boring statement of "I'm majoring in..." and go in depth on what your dream job is (hopefully your major factors in to this dream of yours).

12. My hidden talents are...

Angelina Jolie is a knife thrower. Kendall Jenner can produce bird noises. Amanda Seyfried can crochet and knit. Is there anything special you can do? Some people have rare and unique talents, maybe you can think of some hidden talents of your own!

13. My guilty pleasure is...

I will say it a million times: don't be shy when introducing yourself to new people! I'll start by divulging my guilty pleasure: Youtube's family vlogging channel, "OKBaby"!

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14. Some activities on my bucket list are...


This is an easy way to grab people's attention and find others with similar desires as you. Be an adventurer! Go out of your comfort zone!

15. Talk about your best friend...

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16. Talk about an accomplishment of yours...

You are incredible and have achieved so much! Reveal something that you are proud of — show off a little!

17. This one time at my job...

Bosses breathing down your neck. Curious coworkers asking personal questions. Cursing customers who never leave you alone. Your job can be filled with tons of hilarious situations that can easily entertain a crowd.

18. During the summer...

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What do you appreciate in life? What brightens your day? What makes you fall in love? What does someone have to do to make you smile?

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I'm The Shy Girl Who Isn't Really That Shy

I'm not a shy girl, but I am a girl who likes to listen. I have my own ideas and I'll share them with you, just wait.

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I'm the shy girl who isn't really shy.

I was always seen as shy from the outside and by people who didn't really know me. But, when I told my dad I was shy, his response was "No, no you're not."

And when I get to know people, I often get a "wow, you're not actually shy at all."

They're right, I'm not really that shy, but sometimes I don't exactly feel comfortable showing my whole self to people I just met.

And as much as I wish I could always feel comfortable; as much as I wish didn't have to go over what I was going to say in a class discussion 100 times in my head before I (hopefully) had the courage to speak, I think that's just who I am and I wouldn't trade that for the world.

It's kind of hard to explain, but there are some people I instantly feel comfortable with. On the other hand, in some situations, it takes me a little longer to get comfortable. And that's okay.

You see, I'm not the type of person who gets a high off of validation or attention.

Sure, sometimes attention can be nice and validation can feel good, but I don't need it. I am content enough with myself to receive validation from myself. I am able to give myself all the attention I need.

I hate it when people say, "Oh why aren't you talking? You're so shy."

I'm not talking because I don't want to. I like to listen and you like to talk. That's okay, but we all have our own cup of tea.

Plus, you didn't even get to know me or give me the chance to talk, but now I feel absolutely squished.

Give me the respect to be myself at my own pace, as I'm giving you the respect to be yourself at your own pace. It's okay that our paces are different.

And if I feel comfortable around you — if I'm myself around you, consider yourself lucky. That's not something that necessarily comes easy for me; it's not easy to give myself to anyone. That's something I'm working on, but I don't necessarily think that's a bad thing.

I'm not a shy girl, but I am a girl who likes to listen. I have my own ideas, and I'll share them with you, just wait.

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