Friendships in college are much different than friendships that you’ve had throughout your life.
In high school, if you grew up in a small town, like mine, you grew up talking to the same people, seeing the same faces and with the same circle of friends. You practically grew up knowing the same kids, their families and everything else about them.
Your friendships were full of depth and you’d stay friends with these kids because there was no one else. I’m not saying that this is the case for everyone, but for most people who grew up in a small town can relate quite a bit. I know that there are numerous differences between high school and college, but one of the biggest differences is friendships with people.
Every friendship comes differently for everyone.
For me, in college, a lot of my friendships came from my sorority because all of us have the same mindsets, are primarily similar, and just genuinely enjoy the same things.
Also for me, my roommate happens to not only be someone who I share a room with, but also one of my best friends and my biggest secret keeper. Everyone meets their friends differently here.
Most people didn’t come to college with kids they grew up all of their lives with, so people have to establish these new bonds of friendships. One thing about friendships in college that is constantly surprising me, is that they change every day.
Every day you have the potential to be introduced to your new best friends or you have the potential to lose one of your best friends.
Three days ago, I attended a seminar to receive extra credit in one of my classes and then suddenly I was introduced to some of the most light-hearted people I have ever met.
Next thing I knew, we were taking a road trip to Savannah, Georgia twenty-four hours later. I had just met these girls a mere twenty-four hours ago and we were already taking a road trip and planning many more throughout the summer. College friendships can change and you can lose people in your group just as easily as you can add people to your group.
Losing friends is always hard. No matter if you slowly drift apart or if you fight and your friendship gets ruined.
Either way, you’re still losing an important person in your life. Even if you were only friends for a few months to a year, friendships can become so serious within a short amount of time.
Especially if you felt close enough to a person to share your more vulnerable self with. Friendships can break your heart and make you cry, but sometimes you have to think to yourself, “Will this friendship rebuild itself or will I be better off without their friendship?”
Obviously losing a friend is tough, but if you can grow from something of this sort, then you can allow yourself to make better and more stable friendships in your life.
Constantly changing friendships and finding yourself in college is complicated but that’s the best part about this. That’s the best part of college itself.
You’re meeting these amazing people and every single one of them is changing you into someone that you’re meant to be. This is so compelling because no one realizes that friendships are everything in your life. They are one of your biggest social institutions and they can influence your values and beliefs.
Life is all about changing and I think that that’s one thing that needs to be drilled into people’s minds. Life changes, people change, and friendships change.
Change is a good thing. As long as the change is happening in this world, then we always have potential to make this world a better place.
