From The College Senior Who Is No Where Near Ready To Settle Down

From The College Senior Who Is No Where Near Ready To Settle Down

I have never been one to go out and party or a big drinker, but that doesn't mean I want to settle down.

I read Sydney Lind Moore's "From The Girl Ready To Settle Down At 20," and I just have one question: you want to settle down because you would rather stay in than go out?

There is nothing wrong with wanting to settle down young and be with the person you love. That is a great life if you found the one that you want to be with forever, but you should have a better reason to settle down than that.

There is nothing wrong with wanting time to yourself whether that means going out partying and drinking or just sitting at home with a book.

I am a 22 year-old college senior that is so far away from wanting to settle down that the thought scares me. I have never been a party-er, I'm not much of a drinker, and I like to lay in bed more than anything else, but that doesn't mean that I want to settle down. I lived at home for 18 years and I have been in college for the last four, and even I haven't lived it up. I have never been on my own. I have no idea what it's like to not be in school or not to depend on someone.

It's scary to think that in just a few short months I will be on my own, my family will mentally support me, but it will be me that I have to depend on. As scary as that sounds, I could not be more excited. I can't wait to have a real job and to live in the apartment that I pay for myself. I could not be more excited to have this completely independent life. Moore is 20 and I am only two years older than her, so it's not like I'm super wise or anything, but I do know that I am a completely different person now than I was when I was 20. I had completely different dreams and wants, and in just two quick years I had a whole new plan. Moore based her reasoning on wanting to settle down by saying she doesn't like to go to parties and that she likes to go to bed at 9pm, but I am the same way, and I could not be further from wanting to settle down.

I want to experience places, people, things that I have never even thought of before. And you can do all this with your husband/wife obviously, but wouldn't it also be fun to do it on your own? To say that you did that. I think that's pretty grown up too, Moore. Growing up doesn't mean settling down.

Everyone is different, and there is nothing wrong with settling down, but there is nothing wrong with wanting to experience life alone before settling down. Don't think that because you like to hang out at home more than go out and get drunk that the solution is to settle down. There are better reasons to want to settle down, and it doesn't make you any less mature to want to be single.

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Ah, the breakfast sandwich. Easy to make, easy to pick up, easy to love. That is, when its made with everything you want in it. Each of those preferences come from personality, or I like to think so. So here is me trying to be funny and trying to match everyone’s personalities with popular breakfast sandwich ingredients.


Croissant- Semi introvert, semi extrovert. Loves to socialize, but needs a decent amount of alone time.

Bagel- Tough exterior, big heart. Nice, caring but not until someone really gets to know you. Takes time to show that side.

English Muffin- Sophisticated, sweet. The one everyone loves, and is always on the high end of things.

McGriddle- Mellow, laid back. Not the type to be out socializing all the time but a great friend to everyone they’re close to.

Bread slices- Simple, uncomplicated. Non-judgemental who’s easy to get along with because they accept anyone in anyway they are.

Biscuits- Playful, yet gentle. Sweet on the surface but underneath has a lot more going on, with so many stories to tell.


Ham- Conscientious. Of everyone and everything around them, takes awhile to trust something new or even to try something new.

Sausage- Open book. Nothing to hide, nothing done to hide. Easy to enjoy time with because there are no secrets.

With Bacon- Live in the moment. Doesn’t always think about the future struggles, just enjoys everything in the present.

Without Bacon- Health conscious. Bacon is in fact not the healthiest meat to out on a sandwich, someone who forgoes the possibility of eating bacon knows it.

Egg Types

Whole Egg- Adventurous. Can’t miss out on anything, has to try everything that is a possibility and sounds appealing.

Egg White Only- Active lifestyle. Tend to skip the egg yellows for diet reasons or according to their diet plan.

Egg Substitute- Vegan. Very likely because vegans don’t eat eggs and this is a decent source of protein to replace meat.


Cheese- Detail oriented, probably from Wisconsin. Unless they know the clear difference of cheese existing or not, and cheese is a big part of the Wisconsin food guide pyramid.

No Cheese- Vegan. Because vegans also don’t eat cheese and have to find something else to add more flavor like...

Spicy Flakes/Powder- Full of life, never a dull moment. Not an awfully popular ingredient which is why it represents adventure and fun stories.

Garlic- Wholesome. Whether or not everything is okay, they put on a smile and do a good job of keeping it together.

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21 Thoughts I Had While Eating These Chicken Wings

I wonder if anyone has ever died from eating too many chicken wings?

1. I wonder if anyone has ever died from eating too many chicken wings.

2. Nah, I would have heard of it, because it would be a commonly known thing.

3. What if their immediate family and/or friends were embarrassed so they changed the cause of death to something less weird like cardiac arrest or work-related accident?

4. WHAT IF their job involved eating chicken wings and them dying as a result of eating too many chicken wings was actually a work-related accident??

5. Speaking of work, I need to go to work soon.

6. Am I having these thoughts because I’m writing about my thoughts, or am I writing about these thoughts because I’m having them?

7. Damn, I gotta stop confusing myself every time.

8. I wonder if I can get away with not doing calc homework tonight.

9. Nah, I don’t pay all that money to play myself by not doing homework.

10. Wow, I’m actually having a conversation with myself... wtf...

11. And I'm writing about it too… wtffff…

12. If I were to get charged with murder, would this be an acceptable documentation of my insanity and/or mental instability? Would I get off easy because of this? Hmm…

13. Nah, I’m black so probably not…

14. Crap, I shouldn’t have typed that but these are my unfiltered thoughts I’m typing so whatever

15. I wonder if James Madison knew the world would find out that he was a closeted monarchist.

16. Was he even a closeted monarchist or is that just my own conclusion based on what I’ve been taught in my political science course?

17. Damn, I got chicken wing hot sauce on my computer...

18. If this leads to my computer being defective, does the warranty cover "damage by hot sauce?"

19. I really need to leave for work...

20. But it's sooo cold...

21. Better cold than broke I guess...

I'm sorry for anyone who just read this, I just wanted to give an insight on what goes on through my mind as I eat chicken wings on a cold, windy and rainy Wednesday afternoon.

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