Yes mom, college hookup culture is much different from when you were in college.
If you attend a big 10 university or any university for that matter, hookup culture is relevant. Whether it be a one night stand, Tinder date, or friend set up, college hook up culture exists.
I have learned a lot about this in my college life and plan on learning more since its constantly progressing, but for now, I will share with you what I have learned thus far...
1. I am better than a meaningless hookup.
I have learned this one the hard way. College hookup culture is basically thrown at you and when in a certain state of mind, something about the phrase "hooking up" is very appealing. However, I recently came to the conclusion that I do not want to be someones "one night", "maybe" or "friend with benefit".
Maybe it's because I have this new "love yourself" thing going for me or because I genuinely believe that if you want to touch me you should probably get to know me. But personally, I am over meaningless hookups and know I deserve better. Prince Charming actually. I deserve Prince Charming, as do all my friends and acquaintances.
2. Alcohol impairs judgment.
So I'm just come right out and say it.. alcohol makes you think all your bad ideas are ~wonderful~. They are just not. Your bad idea is a bad idea.. so drinking does not make it a good one. Sadly, I have learned this over and over and over again. There is nothing like waking up with a hangover and the immediate thought of "what the actual fuck was I thinking last night." Not gonna lie here this is pretty self-explanatory, so to my fellow college students, be careful.
3. To accept the fact that college hookup culture is expected.
Hookup culture is literally a social "norm" in college. Look, I am no role model by any means, but I hate how its acceptable in our college society to hookup with someone before even learning their name. Yes, one night stands can be fun as long as both people give consent but why is the mindset of this not only supported but expected.
4. Running away from your feelings is easy.
So basically, when I was in the sixth grade, my sister had Prince Charming as her boyfriend. The first date he came to the door with flowers. You can say I have had a screwed up perception of love ever since. Considering I have never had a Prince Charming thus far, taking my feelings and not dealing with them is always the easiest option. Whatever boy issues I do have, I find it best to never confront them considering there are always new boys, frat parties, and bars. This is really dumb and always bites me in the ass.. however, I still run far far away from my true feelings.
5. There is a match for everyone.
College hookup culture is truly interesting and I am constantly learning the ins and outs of it. I hope to one day crack the system.. but for now, will continue to have fun and make a mistake every once in a while.
